Success: Do I Have To?

Real Estate Agent with Realty Station

A question was brought up today on Active Rain by fellow blogger Guy Giminez: what is your definition of success?

In my opinion, a mature, fulfilling answer would suggest that success is the journey, not necessarily the goal.  Success is not about reaching a goal, but would focus on the path in getting to a goal.  If the path you took was been an ethical path, one that made you happy while travelling it, then you have achieved success.  An unhappy journey would mean failure.  That would be the higher-ground answer.real estate success

But we're not usually wired that way, now are we?

Even as a child, I have always been goal-oriented.  A the age of 7, I would stay up way too late so I could finish reading my book and find out the ending.  Granted, I was reading with a flashlight under my covers so my mom wouldn't find out, but I HAD to know what happened.  Sometimes, I would cheat on puzzles just so I could finish them.  I never unwrapped one of my Christmas presents, but I shook the living daylights out of them trying to figure them out!

And now?  What is my goal in my real estate career?  Yes, I love helping people, and I have specific and definite goals for each client that I work with.  But what about long-term goals?  What about my own personal goals for my entire real-estate career? 

And what happens when you reach your goal, i.e. become successful?  Is that when you quit?  Retire?  Or is that when you make new goals for yourself?

Part of my goal is definitely financial.  But there has to be balance too.  At this point, my long-term goal is two-fold: to add a certain amount of money to our retirement savings each year, and to have a high enough income so that when my husband retires from the military in 7 years, he doesn't feel that he haas to go get anotheer job right away.  I want him to be able to take his time and figure out what will make him happy.  So, I guess if my husband is happy in his second career in eight or nine years, then my real-estate career can be considered successful.

Now for the balance part -- I need to be able to do that while still being able to spend a lot of time with my immediate family.  My miracle-baby little boy, my husband, my mother, my father, all mean so much to me, and I want them to know that.  I don't want to look back and mourn the time that I could have spent with them.My perfect son  It's the balance part of success that scares me.  I have never been good at balance. I either did everything 100%, or I didn't do it at all.  And the danger right now is that I see myself doing that with real estate too, in short spurts. 

One week I spend a lot of time on real estate, and get very busy.  The next week, I spend a lot of time with my family, having dinner with my parents, taking my son to the Kitsap Moms Meetup playgroup I set up for him, seducing my husband into leaving the USS John C. Stennis before 7 pm by promising him that, after dinner, he can work on his car. (thought I was going somewhere there, didn't ya?)

Perhaps that is my balance.  Perhaps I balance by going from week to week.  Maybe this is my success.  Could this be my success right now and I am missing it?  Wow, never thought about that concept before.  Hmmm, this may lead to another blog post.


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Rich Jacobson
Fathom Realty West Sound - Poulsbo, WA
Your Kitsap County WA Real Estate Broker
I love that about you, Marlene...that you have such an obvious passion for balance, and putting your family as a priority in life.
Mar 23, 2008 08:07 PM #6
Jesse "Travolta" Sierra, B.Sc.
Weichert Realtors Foothill Properties - Chino Hills, CA

How true, Marlene. I used to work for a Global Corporation and management preferred to line their pockets at our employees incrementing workload at the same payrate. Employees became organic machines on a spreadsheet. The money was good but at who's expense. Real Estate is not about setting goals to make a bundle of money. If you are in this profession just to make money, then you will be short changing your clients and not giving them 100% of the service and attention they expect. You will not be working in this profession for a long time if you have money on your mind. You can't have too much on your plate and finish it in a timely manner. If you provide your clients with exceptional services, your clients will thank you with referrals. My goal in real estate is to keep my family in a healthy emotional relationship and economic state, everything else will fall in place.

My stress Reducers.

Mar 23, 2008 10:03 PM #7
Marlene Scheffer
Realty Station - Bremerton, WA
Realtor to Kitsap County, WA

Rich, Balance is something that I lacked in my life for so long, and now that I have had a small taste of it, I desperately want more. 

Jesse, cute picture.  Welcome to Active Rain!  I'm subscribing to your blog so I can watch yor progress.

Deborah, I don't think I've ever been wired for balance, unless I was born that way and it was gone before I was two.  The environment I grew up in was always the "be first, be best" environment.  Now I'm having to learn balance, and what's funny is that my mother is now learning the same thing!

Mar 24, 2008 05:13 AM #9
Jeff Rogers
retired - Manchester, TN

Great blog, balance is most important. Ying-yang sorta speak.  I like the blogs that talk about more than just business.

Mar 24, 2008 01:14 PM #11
Renae Bolton
Marketing 4 Realtors - Garfield Heights, OH
I'm your Professional Real Estate Marketing VA!

Marlene - It is nice to hear others talk of success meaning more than just money.  There is just so much that is more important than money.  Balance is what you make of it.  If it means you can spend tons of quality time with your family this week and go real estate crazy next week, so e it.  Whatever works for you!


Mar 24, 2008 02:04 PM #12
Lane Bailey
Century 21 Results Realty - Suwanee, GA
Realtor & Car Guy

Money is nice... but it isn't everything. 

BTW, Your husband's ship was built in my hometown.   

Mar 26, 2008 04:07 PM #13
Thesa Chambers
Fred Real Estate Group - Bend, OR
Principal Broker - Licensed in Oregon

nice job - it is tough - but possible when you set your goals and determine what your success is

Mar 27, 2008 06:22 PM #14
Marlene Scheffer
Realty Station - Bremerton, WA
Realtor to Kitsap County, WA

I have to say, Deborah, that I think I am learning better than mom is.....

Jeff, my busines is better if I include personal stuff every day, so it kid of is about business.

Renae, and it's working for me right now!  Like Lane says, money is nice, but...

Lane, where is your hometown?

Thesa, I find myself having to remember that every now and then, like yesterday when I was "too busy" to play drums with Adam.  When I saw his eyes, I closed down the MLS and picked up the bongo...

Mar 27, 2008 06:47 PM #15
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