Your Forever Home - Is It Love At First Sight?

Real Estate Agent with Charles Rutenberg Realty Inc. 516-575-7500 NRDS ID#641625055

Your Forever Home - Is It Love At First Sight?

With zero interest in moving and even less interest in becoming a landlord, I never saw it coming, but I was captivated by this house. It wasn't the biggest, the fanciest or even in the most elegant part of the neighborhood, but none of that mattered. As soon as I walked into the Broker's Open, I fell in love.


I have to tell you that this never happens to me. As an agent, of course I preview houses constantly. Big or small, expensive or not, I rarely have a reaction one way or the other. But this one was visceral. All rational thought went out the window. I was mesmerized by this residence.

Who's to say what details are important when making a purchase of this magnitude? It's just a feeling that you get. Something that washes over you and that you sense the minute you walk through the door. Crucial information like bedrooms, baths etc. will be clear soon enough. But way before you've seen the entire house, you already know. They say it's only a matter of seconds.

It's a subtle, gravitational pull.

A home that's been treasured and loved just gives off a certain aura. I know of no science behind it, but buyers will be able to sense the pleasure the owners have experienced there throughout the years and desire it for themselves.  

For home sellers already forming the rebuttal, "Good, then I need not try so hard." Remember that good "vibes" don't necessarily come from dirty, crowded, worn, ill-kept or grossly overpriced properties, so it's still worth your time and effort to present it well and market it fairly.

Alas, there is no new residence in my forseeable future as it doesn't fit neatly into our plans.  At my feeble attempts to describe what came over me, my husband just laughed.

It will be someone else's forever home.


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Joe Petrowsky
Mortgage Consultant, Right Trac Financial Group, Inc. NMLS # 2709 - Manchester, CT
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Good morning Jill. You sound like a client that came to me for a mortgage a couple of months ago. Her agent attempted to discourage her, as the property was really overpriced, but to her it didn't matter, until the appraisal showed that she overpaid by 20%. Once reality finally hit, the deal fell through.

Apr 29, 2014 07:09 PM #1
Maria Gilda Racelis
Home Buyers Realty, LLC-Manchester, Bolton. Vernon,Ellington - Manchester, CT
Home Ownership is w/in Reach. We Make it Happen!

Good Morning Jill: . I felt like taking the house journey with you. When I show houses to my buyers, it becomes natural to me to ask them if they see themselves living in that house. Because if it does not feel right, most likely, it is not the right home for them. 

I get your feeling from time to time.


Apr 30, 2014 01:18 AM #2
1~Judi Barrett
Integrity Real Estate Services 118 SE AVE N, Idabel, OK 74745 - Idabel, OK
BS Ed, Integrity Real Estate Services -IDABEL OK

Don and I built our home and it's my forever home.. but when I walked into our lakehouse, it was love at first sight too.. maybe we can be in love with more than one home at a time.

Apr 30, 2014 10:54 AM #3
Jill Sackler
Charles Rutenberg Realty Inc. 516-575-7500 - Long Beach, NY
LI South Shore Real Estate - Broker Associate

Joe - I know that doesn't happen with investment properties. It's also the difference between commercial real estate and residential. It caught me completely by surprise.

Thanks, Maria. Yeah! I'm not alone.

Judi - I think you're on to something - love more than one!

Apr 30, 2014 10:16 PM #4
Silvia Dukes PA, Broker Associate, CRS, CIPS, SRES
Tropic Shores Realty - Ich spreche Deutsch! - Spring Hill, FL
Florida Waterfront and Country Club Living

Hi Jill, I guess it's a side effect of our profession that sometimes we do fall in love with a home ourselves.  Personally, those are the homes I live to show and sell to someone I feel will be happy there.

May 01, 2014 12:48 AM #5
Gayle Rich-Boxman Fishhawk Lake Real Estate
John L Scott Market Center - Birkenfeld, OR
"Your Local Expert!" 503-755-2905

Jill, oh I know EXACTLY what you're feeling! Actually, I have ended up BUYING those very places...oops! I'm supposed to be selling them, not buying them. We are in one now that is my/our dream home, but alas have to sell. I had the same feeling when I walked into this home while visiting our friends who owned it. I honestly felt for quite awhile, "I can't BELIEVE this is ours now!"

Fast forward...we need to downsize, and move closer to my hubby's job so that he can come home every nite instead of just on weekends. I think that buyers (who come to my home all of the time as I work from here and live in my niche market) will have that same reaction--and actually DO--as we have truly loved this home as well as the former owners. 

9837 Beach Drive

May 01, 2014 02:53 AM #6
Lou Ludwig
Ludwig & Associates - Boca Raton, FL
Designations Earned CRB, CRS, CIPS, GRI, SRES, TRC


Enjoyed the post . . . . over the year i have purchased several forever homes. Sometimes forever doesn't last forever.

Good luck and success.

Lou Ludwig

May 01, 2014 12:50 PM #7
Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400
The Top Team @ Charles Rutenberg Realty 255 Executive Dr, Plainview NY 11803 - Plainview, NY
Long Island Home and Condo Specialists

Yes, isn't it magical when something just seems so right. never know!

May 01, 2014 08:45 PM #8
Jill Sackler
Charles Rutenberg Realty Inc. 516-575-7500 - Long Beach, NY
LI South Shore Real Estate - Broker Associate

Silvia - well put - a side effect of our profession.

Gayle - you really do understand but I can see how the stages of our lives come and go and we have to adjust to them. That doesn't minimize how we felt in the beginning.

Thanks, Lou. Requirements do change but what a wonderful feeling to get what you want at the time.

Sheila - love the word magical

May 01, 2014 09:51 PM #9
Marco Giancola
Beachfront Realty - Miami Beach, FL
Realtor (305)608-1922, Miami Beach Florida

Hi Jill-I agree with the "side effect"-just about every home I enter I want to buy or renovate myself!

May 02, 2014 10:31 PM #10
Larry Johnston
Broker, Friends & Neighbors Real Estate and Elkhart County Subdivisions, LLC - Elkhart, IN
Broker,Friends & Neighbors Real Estate, Elkhart,IN

Good morning Jill,  As I was reading your post, I was already anticipating the ending, just as we do when going to the movies or a good TV how. As usual, you had a surprise ending. I expected you to say that you are now enoying your new home.  Have a great weekend.

May 02, 2014 10:33 PM #11
Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Forever is not as long as it used to be. Love your description of falling in love with the house. Now go find the right buyer for it.

May 03, 2014 10:33 AM #12
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
New Hampshire Home Stager

I love Margaret's answer....."go find the right buyer for it".   I have to admit, I got a bit sad when I read your husband's reaction.  I've been excited about something and yet it's not the time to make it a reality.  I so wish your story ended with you in the home!

May 04, 2014 09:57 PM #13
Jill Sackler
Charles Rutenberg Realty Inc. 516-575-7500 - Long Beach, NY
LI South Shore Real Estate - Broker Associate

Marco - If you see potential in everything, you're definitely in the right business.

Larry - That's sweet. Sorry to disappoint.

Margaret - I will certainly try.

Sharon - Not at all. Finding the right buyer is just as satisfying.

May 04, 2014 10:15 PM #14
Adrian Willanger
206 909-7536 - Seattle, WA
Profit from my two decades of experience

Jill, I'm sitting in a home that I loved as a boy, when it became available I thought I would just go through it not buy it. The bathrooms and kitchen were small but it didn't matter I loved the house. What a ride..

May 12, 2014 11:12 PM #15
Jill Sackler
Charles Rutenberg Realty Inc. 516-575-7500 - Long Beach, NY
LI South Shore Real Estate - Broker Associate

When we find the one we want, we overlook all its imperfections, Adrian. I'm happy for you.

May 13, 2014 04:49 AM #16
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