When Husband and Wife Can’t Agree … On A House

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When Husband and Wife Can’t Agree … On A House 

I have been working with this married couple for about a month. They are purchasing their first home. They are interested in a very small community serviced by a specific middle and high school. In addition, the home has to have a certain number of bedrooms, specific parking, and the bus stop for their middle schooler MUST be on the same street as the house.  These are the basic requirements in addition to what I thought was a limited budget.

I have been successful in locating at least one property each week for them to view. This week I located two (2) new listings, one (1) with a new price reduction and one (1) back on the market which appeared to meet ALL requirements! We go to see the properties and out of the four the wife likes two. Now, I pose the question. “Which house is your house?” The wife says let me confirm the school districts and the placement of the bus stops and I will call you in the morning. 

Sure enough the next morning I get a call from the wife. She is upset! She and her husband do not agree on the use of the rooms for the two houses. Yes, I said use of the rooms not the actual homes or floor plans. I listen for the next thirty minutes as the wife vents about the situation. I console her as best I could and tell her to not mention houses to her husband for the rest of the day. I ask her to give me a chance to see if I can switch up the search criteria and locate some houses that will suit both her and her husband.

I know this is going to be a challenge because in essence I am now looking for a bigger house on this same budget. The same day, I edit the search criteria and I get one property in the search results. It is a house I have already sent to them before, I re-send it. I do not get any response.  Later that night I get a text message from the wife, she has spoken to her husband about the house hunt. He has agreed to increase the budget. I am a little weary because I don’t want the husband to think I am trying to manipulate them into purchasing a more expensive home. 

Well, I increase the budget and start getting more homes that meet their criteria. I email them off to them both. The wife is responding and sending some over addresses to homes she has found on the internet for me to check the availability. Then I get a call from the husband. I think uh-oh, I’m in trouble.  He says, “Did you get my email”. I say, “No, let me check right now”. He says, “I am sending over a new pre-approval I have increased the budget and I wanted you to have the new pre-approval letter.” 

WHEW!!! I guess the husband thought happy wife…happy life!

See, the husband is my HVAC technician for my family home and I use him for homes that I property manage. He is a wealth of knowledge, easily accessible and charges fair prices. This is hard to find and I did not want to damage the relationship. I am so glad this is working out! 

If you are interested in purchasing a home in the metro Atlanta area and need a real estate professional guide you through the process please contact me via email at Stacey@MetroATLRealEstate.com or call me at (678)523-1621. You may also visit my website: www.MetroATLRealEstate.com


My team focuses on: Alpharetta, Atlanta, College Park, Douglasville, Dunwoody, East Point, Fairburn, Fayetteville, Hiram, Marietta, Peachtree City, Powder Springs, Roswell, Sandy Springs, Smyrna and Union City.

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Stacey Williams, Associate Broker

Ken Harris and Associates Realty

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Comments (8)

Beth and Richard Witt
New York, NY
The best Retired Brokers !!!!

Here's to this story having a happy ending for everyone!!!

May 29, 2014 07:05 AM
Rob Arnold
Sand Dollar Realty Group, Inc. - Altamonte Springs, FL
Metro Orlando Full Service - Investor Friendly & F

Glad it worked out.  Best for him to stay out of the wife's way and just get her what she wants. 

May 29, 2014 07:08 AM
Diana White-Pettis
Bennett Realty Solutions - Upper Marlboro, MD
GRI, CDPE, CNE, WHC Upper Marlboro Homes for Sale


Sounds like it was a dicey situation at first.  But I am so glad that the situation is having a happy ending. It is always a blessing when the husband and wife are in agreement and on one accord.  It makes our jobs to serve them easier as well.  Much success on this transaction!



May 29, 2014 07:10 AM
Pete Xavier
Investments to Luxury - Pacific Palisades, CA
Outstanding Agent Referrals-Nationwide

Interesting story, each client is unique and it pays to have flexibility and patience dealing with most situations.

May 29, 2014 08:02 AM
Kwee Huset
Kwee Huset Realty - Venice, FL
Venice Florida Homes For Sale

Hi Stacey, I hope your patience working with this couple will find them their dream home. 

May 29, 2014 10:50 AM
Stacey Williams
Alpharetta, GA
Experienced Metro Atlanta Real Estate Agent

Richard and Beth - Thank you!

Rob - Now, if I can get my husband to do that!

Diana - It felt dicey...

Pete - Yes it does!

Kwee - Me too!

May 29, 2014 11:01 AM
Teral McDowell
Referral Patners LLC - Murphy, TX

Stacey, great story! Sometimes it is hard to know which spouse will make or break the deal but this one came through for you and you get to keep your HVAC guy.

May 29, 2014 11:07 AM
Stacey Williams
Alpharetta, GA
Experienced Metro Atlanta Real Estate Agent

Teral - I am so glad this got back on track so quickly. It is a blessing to be able to keep my HVAC tech too!

May 29, 2014 11:29 AM