Healing...

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We’ve certainly had our share of losses in the Activerain community of late and though I never personally met Lee Rome, Clint McKie, or William J. Archambault Jr. I felt the pang of their loss. In contemporary terms, being connected took on a new depth of meaning.

Earlier this week I talked to my brother. He related a story about going to the dentist. He hadn’t been there in a while. Terry and Kathy were so engulfed in a cancer battle that many things he’d normally do for himself were put off...

Anyhow, he’s in for the cleaning and exam this week and his dentist is noticeably excited to show him something. Since they hadn’t seen each other for quite a while the dentists’ wife did a little Googling to catch up on things. They printed their findings and wanted to share them.

Long story short...

This is what came in at the top of their search...

Kathy and Terry, a love story and more.

A good lesson for our times, people Google for all kinds of reasons.

Rest in Peace, my Sister.

At first there was a little confusion, condolences and a few surprises because my brother (who is in no way shape or form online) didn’t know about my posts. The appropriate moment never found itself. I didn’t reveal any family secrets, nor did I put any personal opinions (and I have several) about health care and health insurance to the page. I’m just a guy who expresses himself and I wanted to show some love and share a little about their amazing story of courage and resolve facing adverse circumstances.

Tahoma National Cemetery, Kent, Washington.

A couple of things really resonated with me from the happenings over the past few weeks on Activerain and my brother’s story...

1. How monumentally life has changed in the way we’re connected.
2. I spend too much time looking for 'there' not realizing I already am.
3. Our lives are greatly influenced within the context of technology, yet life is not an abstraction, it happens to each and everyone of us.
4. Humans are tribal and need community.
5. The meaning of virtual changed. Though we haven't met in person, our friendship online is not a simulation.

Community online or off...

We share laughter when it’s funny and cry when it’s sad. We all give and take and have good days and bad. We often skip the boring to embrace the imaginative. We celebrate our victories and at times of great loss it's a good thing to share the grieving and healing. After all, we're human.

Healing = loss (memory + crying) x fellowship (story + laughter) / journey + time.

So enjoy each other and seize the moments and my condolences to all who've recently lost a loved one. I'm happy to report at this writing my brother continues his journey and is finding his way.

~ Namaste

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René Fabre

"Where there's conversation, there's opportunity."

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Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland
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Rene, The love expressed by all the members have kept me going these past two weeks. 

May 31, 2014 02:50 PM #7
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Laura Cerrano
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They will be with us every time we write a post I bet.
May 31, 2014 04:38 PM #8
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Inna Ivchenko
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Thanks for sharing your thoughts.....unfortunately people come into our lives and sooner or later they leave.....or we leave....the only thing that stays with us: our memories...

May 31, 2014 05:00 PM #9
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I agree with your five "aha's" -- Connections made by online posts are evident by your brother seeing your writing at his dentist.  

May 31, 2014 08:23 PM #10
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Richie Alan Naggar
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to the beauty of life...in and of itself...I remain grateful

May 31, 2014 09:55 PM #11
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Wonderful post, thanks alot. I will personally miss Clint. He was one of the best.

May 31, 2014 10:32 PM #12
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Debbie... I love this line from a Hopi Elder Speaks - Know the river has its destination. The elders say we must let go of the shore, push off into the middle of the river, keep our eyes open, and our heads above the water. And I say, see who is in there with you and celebrate.

Jun 01, 2014 02:09 AM #13
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Rene, so true.  The internet has greatly expanded our opportunities to both laugh and cry.

Jun 01, 2014 02:46 AM #14
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Joan... indeed, it is.

Evelyn... who'd a thought. It's an amazing change to the world we live in.

Myrl... social media has certainly changed our context.

Jun 01, 2014 03:10 AM #15
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Margaret... I'm glad to hear that. Take care!

Jun 01, 2014 03:10 AM #16
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Laura... I'm thinking you are right!

Inna... indeed, our memories. That's why we need to enjoy every minute of it.

Kat... It's amazing to me how connections get made these days and you just never know what will touch and who will find it.

Jun 01, 2014 03:13 AM #17
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Richie... Yes, it's true and me too! I remain grateful.

Scott... Thanks! I really enjoyed Clint also.

Charles... and I've done a lot of both! :O)

Jun 01, 2014 03:15 AM #18
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Rene, I've had so many reminders of all of our mortality lately, and yes, it's part of life, but knowing that doesn't make it any easier.  Friendship that support us do help so much.

Jun 01, 2014 04:10 AM #19
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Rene`, this deserves FOUR STARS. What a treasured soul you are! I would have loved to have seen your brother's face. This is, once again a heart-opening piece. Last night my husband and I watched the movie, Her. How this captures exactly what you say NOT to do--don't lose that connectivity. We are a COMMUNITY. We need to touch and be touched. Physically, emotionally. 

I loved Alexandra's quote.

Namaste, my friend.

Jun 01, 2014 05:43 AM #20
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Thank you for sharing your touching post, it comes with a lot of heart. I have lived long enough to know, life is very precious and we have to live every moment, as if it was our last.

Thank you for commenting on my post.

Jun 01, 2014 07:43 AM #21
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I had no idea we lost William. I had the pleasure of meeting him at the first ActiveRain Camp years ago, and we talked and corresponded a few times since. 

AR has truely lost some talented, respected, and great friends. This is really a unique community that I'm proud to be a part of. 

Jun 01, 2014 08:23 AM #22
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This is a wonderful post Rene.  I am always interested in realizations we come to, and we can all benefit from the realizations of others.  I'm glad you shared yours.

Jun 01, 2014 12:02 PM #23
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I'm having concerns... I see comments I have replied to, yet, when I go back to reply to knew ones, they are not there?

Pat... Indeed, I am having super big rounds with mortality issues and just don't want to go there at all. :O)

Gayle... Bless you and thank you... my travels have taught me to keep peeling the onion and I do... Why not? It's our life!

Joe... You are welcome and I love your blog, so it's never an effort to check in.

Mike... Yes, dang, we lost William... indeed it's true, a big talent lost, yet... perhaps... a call to someone next who might want to step up? Thank you for stopping by and me too, proud to be a member.

Jay... Thankyou! Agreed, and if we don't share them, we will never know the realizations....

Jun 01, 2014 12:13 PM #24
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Rene,

We do feel the loss when one of our members leaves this earth and our community, whether we know them well or not.. We've seen their names, read about thier families and business.. their opinions on matters.  AR member are supportive of each other during losses and celebrations.. 

Jun 03, 2014 12:10 PM #25
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Hi Judi... Yes, that's true! We seen their names and read about their families and business. And a big yes, AR members are very supportive!

Jun 06, 2014 06:40 AM #26
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