We’ve certainly had our share of losses in the Activerain community of late and though I never personally met Lee Rome, Clint McKie, or William J. Archambault Jr. I felt the pang of their loss. In contemporary terms, being connected took on a new depth of meaning.
Earlier this week I talked to my brother. He related a story about going to the dentist. He hadn’t been there in a while. Terry and Kathy were so engulfed in a cancer battle that many things he’d normally do for himself were put off...
Anyhow, he’s in for the cleaning and exam this week and his dentist is noticeably excited to show him something. Since they hadn’t seen each other for quite a while the dentists’ wife did a little Googling to catch up on things. They printed their findings and wanted to share them.
Long story short...
This is what came in at the top of their search...
A good lesson for our times, people Google for all kinds of reasons.
At first there was a little confusion, condolences and a few surprises because my brother (who is in no way shape or form online) didn’t know about my posts. The appropriate moment never found itself. I didn’t reveal any family secrets, nor did I put any personal opinions (and I have several) about health care and health insurance to the page. I’m just a guy who expresses himself and I wanted to show some love and share a little about their amazing story of courage and resolve facing adverse circumstances.
A couple of things really resonated with me from the happenings over the past few weeks on Activerain and my brother’s story...
1. How monumentally life has changed in the way we’re connected.
2. I spend too much time looking for 'there' not realizing I already am.
3. Our lives are greatly influenced within the context of technology, yet life is not an abstraction, it happens to each and everyone of us.
4. Humans are tribal and need community.
5. The meaning of virtual changed. Though we haven't met in person, our friendship online is not a simulation.
Community online or off...
We share laughter when it’s funny and cry when it’s sad. We all give and take and have good days and bad. We often skip the boring to embrace the imaginative. We celebrate our victories and at times of great loss it's a good thing to share the grieving and healing. After all, we're human.
Healing = loss (memory + crying) x fellowship (story + laughter) / journey + time.
So enjoy each other and seize the moments and my condolences to all who've recently lost a loved one. I'm happy to report at this writing my brother continues his journey and is finding his way.