Are You Happy?

I have always been considered a happy person. People have commented to me many times over the years, that I always seem so happy. I sing or hum as I do things (which actually annoys my husband and son). I used to get into trouble for singing at the dinner table as a child.  I have had people who didn’t appreciate happy people, make comments about me always being so "damn" happy. So I think overall the world sees me as a happy person.

I have smiled through some very unpleasant things in my life. Always reminding myself that positive attracts positive and to count my blessings and not my problems.  Those things have actually helped me to get through some difficult personal and professional times.  I actually really haven’t always been happy, even though it appeared I was on the outside. 

Those unhappy times have helped me to be in a happy place today. They serve as lessons and reminders of how I do not want to live my life. 

·      I don’t want to live my life working for miserable people. I have been there and done that, twice and I will not allow myself to ever be back in that position.  

·      I don’t want to live my life in a miserable relationship.  Actually, been there and done that twice also, and not short term relationships either, but long term, each almost ten years of my life.  I am not saying my current marriage is always a happy one, but I am happier then I was in those relationships.  I am different then I was in those jobs and those relationships. 

·      I don’t want to live my life trying to please others. This one is still a work in progress.  I catch myself often, worrying about what so and so is going to think or feel and need to firmly remind myself that it doesn’t matter. How does it make me feel? 

There is a certain amount of happiness that we can find in our jobs.  Working in real estate can be very fulfilling and help contribute to an overall happy life.  It’s important to be able to check yourself, when you start to realize that you are getting stressed or worked up and determine how to turn it around. If you can’t, ask yourself is it really worth it to continue with this client or this transaction? If it is, find a way to stay positive if you can.  If you realize that it’s not, walk away.  Life is too short to be unhappy, even temporarily.   I have been doing this more often lately, and it has been really helping with staying peaceful and happy. 

On a lighter note, I think my dogs are happy. some people don't believe adogs have feelings. I know they do. My chocolate lab smiles, and both of my dogs love to roll around and just enjoy life.