Friendships Aren't Always Easy
It's Friday and already I'm thinking of what Saturday night will bring. Saturday nights are typically low-key and not much is going on. Sometimes Saturdays include a movie at home, reading and writing blogs, or babysitting my grandson. But this Saturday night will be entirely different.
Part of my concern is that I'll be meeting Artie, whom I met 3 years ago. I met he and his wife almost 3 years ago. Meeting them for dinner I could quickly size them up. Artie is a fun story teller while Judy is a great listener.
When I met Judy 3 years ago, she smiled and was very sweet. I could tell she was wearing a wig but I tried not to focus on it. She was happy to be out and having a nice dinner of Mexican food at a great place in North Scottsdale. I would go on to see Judy periodically.
This past year I didn't see Judy or Artie much. About a month ago I got a call that she was in the hospital. I've never been a close friend to Judy, but I knew she needed a friend. She and Artie don't have any children and so I'm sure she's used to being without them, but not having more visitors while she was in the hospital concerned me. I felt she might want more visitors, so off I go to the grocery store to pick up some flowers and trashy magazines to make her laugh.
She was propped up and was so surprised to see me. It was worth all of those 2 hours seeing her smile. We talked about her treatment and when she could return home to Artie. A few days later she was able to check out of the hospital.
Visiting her at home I could see she had a schedule of meds and her bed was turned into her daily existence. A week and a half went by and I didn't call. I sure wish I would have. You see, Judy passed away a week ago. This new found friendship was a HUGE lesson in life. No matter what you're feeling, or what is important to you, others need your friendship. Friendships arent't always easy.
I'll be visiting with Artie Saturday night with some friends to support him. It will be good to toast Judy and her cheerful, spunky spirit. Thank you Judy for such a powerful lesson. Heaven just gained a soldier!