Are You Moving a Parent into Your Home? Some Suggestions.

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Real Estate Agent with Sabinske & Associates, Inc. (Albertville, St. Michael)
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Are you moving a parent into your home? 

 

There are many issues to discuss with the parent and possibly others living in your home.

 

The parent may have some physical and/or mental condition, a chronic illness or flare-ups. 

 

Even if the parent is still relatively healthy and independent, you will want to consider things like living wills, health care directives and wills.  You want to make sure that they are ready to consider end-of-life decisions now while they are still cognizant of the implications.

 

And, if there are siblings and spouses involved, have the parent explain (possibly with your assistance or an attorney’s) what and why the decisions were made. 

 

Your parent is now in new surroundings and may be unused to more distractions and noise.  This is understandable, and you may want to set up an area other than the bedroom where they have some of the things that were in their previous home such as books, mementos and other things that can serve to calm nerves. 

 

However, if the parent is in a health crisis, or has suffered a setback in care, you will need to consult with a physician about how to best integrate the care of the parent both for you and your family and the parent. 

 

You must be aware of all implications of any ailments and what to expect in three months, six months and a year, where possible. 

 

Be alert to changes.  And, as with any change in your family status, you need to try to make everyone comfortable and knowledgeable about what their responsibilites are.

 

 

Best wishes to you for taking the responsibility on.  And, think about the rewards of time with someone who loved and cared for you when you were a child.  Take a deep breath, and sail on!!!!

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For more information about real estate values in your area, give me a call or email me at 763-497-1870 or mclaughlinhomes@gmail.com  

Suzanne McLaughlin

Sabinske & Associates, Inc.    

When you need to buy or sell in St. Michael or Albertville Minnesota, or anywhere in Wright County, Sherburne County or Anoka County or Hennepin County, give me a call! 

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We do seem to have more and more folks that are moving their parents in with them these days.  Great post.

Sep 10, 2014 10:14 AM #56
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We had my mother-in-law live with us for a year. It altered our whole lifestyles, hers and ours. She did move into a 55+ community apartment and it suited her well. Our lives got back to normal.

Sep 10, 2014 11:01 AM #57
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Suzanne:

Really great post that touches a lot of peoples needs. Have a great week.

Sep 10, 2014 12:19 PM #58
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Suzanne what a great post.  My grandmother lived with my parents I would say for about 25 years, was always easy but well worth doing.

The tips you provide should be helpful to anyone having to make the decision.

Sep 10, 2014 03:52 PM #59
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Suzanne,

 I keep meaning to say Congratulations on being an ambassador.. did you get your snow?

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Suzanne,

Great suggestions!  Moving a parent in a major event and your blog offers excellent advice. 

Sep 11, 2014 11:07 PM #61
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Important things to think about Suzanne, every month things change as our parents get to a certain age and we never know when they will be willing to move in with one of the kids.  Best to be prepared.

 

Sep 12, 2014 03:34 PM #62
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This is valuable advice.  Many households now include more than one generation.  Buyers frequently request a suite for parents, or grown children who are moving back home.

Sep 12, 2014 05:03 PM #63
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Suzanne ...I'm getting more and more of these all the time ....These are great tips that I will pass on ....Thanks!

Sep 15, 2014 08:29 AM #64
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Suzanne,  My mother came to live with us for a year until she passed away.  She had dementia and it was very difficult, but I wouldn't trade the time we spent together.  Susan Emo , I've seen that letter before but it brought tears to my eyes.  

Sep 17, 2014 11:52 AM #65
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I have no more parents to worry about, but so many people I know do. These are excellent suggestions to help in the transition, which can be difficult for all involved.

Sep 18, 2014 01:36 AM #66
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My parents moved in a couple of years ago. There have been lots pros and cons but overall no one has killed each other.   LOL   Plus I have dinner made when I get home, can't beat that!

Sep 19, 2014 04:17 PM #67
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I like Tammy's attitude, and there are so many reasons that intergenerational living can be great for every one.  It just has to be approached and managed correctly!

Jan 18, 2015 07:55 AM #68
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There were so many wonderful stories and wonderful comments on this post.  I am answering each of you individually on your posts.....thank you all!

Jan 30, 2015 04:10 AM #69
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@Nina Thanks for your comment, and you are right, we all have people we know who can identify with this.

Jan 31, 2015 08:06 AM #70
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Several years ago, it was parents facing issues of "Boomerang Kids" who returned home after flying alone for awhile.  But, increasingly we are hearing of parents, who are now moving in with the kids.  Your blog alerts to issues to be concerned with!

Mar 12, 2015 12:27 PM #71
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Suzanne - This information is important for those considering moving parents into their home.

CONGRATULATIONS on having this blog FEATURED in the Old Fart’s Club group! 

Mar 12, 2015 12:34 PM #72
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My next house plans will include for the possibility this could happen with either of our parents.

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Suzanne - There are certainly many things to consider when moving a parent into your home. It can be a very trying time, but also quite possibly some of the best times too.

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This was a wonderful read, glad I came across it in the archives. Thanks for sharing.

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