Learning The Art Of Patience

Real Estate Agent with Realty Executives Phoenix SA651528000

Cobwebs On The ClockWhen asked to describe me in a word or two, people who know me will most often use words like go-getter, unstoppable, whirl-wind.  Although those aspects have done well for me in my life as I continue to break through bariers and move mountains, one side-effect of that kind of personality is that it is difficult to be patient when others don't share my sense of urgency.  

However, this business has taught me (or forced me) to accept that I will be waiting on others at every turn.  Waiting for permits, waiting for signing docs, waiting for approvals, waiting for construction delays, waiting for city politics, waiting for architectural review board hearings, etc.  What I have noticed over recent months and years is that, although still impatient by nature, I have become far better able to just accept the obsticle at every turn, act on it when the ball is in my court, and deal with it when the ball is in another court.

It is 1:30pm on a Thursday.  Docs are supposed to be at Title some time today for the signing that was originally scheduled for yesterday and there is not yet an indication of what time that will be.  The call should come any minute now letting us know that docs are ready.

It is 1:30pm on a Thursday.  The permit for the next phase of construction was supposed to be ready by Monday (three days ago).  Construction has been halted for two weeks.  The call should come any minute now letting us know that the permit is ready.

The list goes on, but you get the idea, and I am sure each and every one of you can relate to the kind of waiting for others that is part of this business and so often out of our control and we just need to learn to be patient.


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Cheryl! TIsland

Realty Executives Phoenix
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Comments (55)

Wayne Johnson
Coldwell Banker D'Ann Harper REALTORS® - San Antonio, TX
San Antonio REALTOR, San Antonio Homes For Sale

Cheryl! Tisland that is a tough position to be in, waiting for someone who does not seem as anxious to get something done as you.

Nov 17, 2014 04:02 AM
Evelyn Johnston
Friends & Neighbors Real Estate - Elkhart, IN
The People You Know, Like and Trust!

Cheryl, just don't make the mistake of praying for patience.  I did and God gave me situations that require patience.  Finially I realized I was putting myself in those situations by asking for them!

Nov 17, 2014 05:21 AM
Scott Gleason
RE/MAX Select - Westfield, NJ
Westfield NJ New Homes Specialist

Seems like patients can’t be learned no matter how hard we try. It just seems like it’s something we gain over the years. However, it’s really put to the test when a time crunch is involved.


Nov 17, 2014 08:10 AM
Cheryl! Tisland
Realty Executives Phoenix - Chandler, AZ
BSCS, Real Estate Agent

Donna Foerster , I had a feeling this would be something that most of us could relate to.  ;-)

David Baker Realtor - Laveen Homes for sale , yes, the hurry-up-and-wait scenarios that are common place in our daily dealings

Wayne Johnson , others rarely seem to have that same sense of urgency as the one who is in the one who is in the thick of it.

Evelyn Johnston , as the saying goes, be careful what you wish for, right?

Scott Gleason , that is definitely the truth!

Thanks all for all of your comments!

Nov 17, 2014 08:24 AM
Claude Labbe
Real Living | At Home - Washington, DC
Realty for Your Busy Life

Cheryl, this is a perfect post, and it's funny.

You and I are similar...little bulldogs, get out of my way, it is going to happen because we want it to and will see to it.

That's great in business, but unfortunately, I bring that personality home too.  But I get a lot of grief at home for not being mild and gentle and patient. 

I've learned, I suspect you too, that I earn no points by suggesting that when necessary, in business, I can become the kindest sweetest and most patient little prince.  It's not clear to me, and I wished I could turn that switch on outside of business.

Along with all the conditions you pointed out, sometimes it's just the client.  The elderly client, the confused first timer; they both need you to be calm and peaceful.  I find it helps them and helps me reach them better.

Nov 17, 2014 11:13 AM
Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, EXP - Stevens Point, WI
Forestland Experts! 715-204-9671

Hi Cheryl!, you certainly have more patience than I do, that whole list sounded like things that I have no patience for.  It is nice that you have been able to adapt.

Nov 17, 2014 01:32 PM
Dorte Engel
RE/MAX Leading Edge - Bowie, MD
ABC - Annapolis, Bowie, Crofton & rest of Maryland

Dear Cheryl,

I loved John's (#30) comment. Gimme patience right now!

Nov 18, 2014 12:08 PM
Sharon Parisi
United Real Estate Dallas - Dallas, TX
Dallas Homes

Patience is definitely a virtue in the world of real estate!

Nov 18, 2014 02:44 PM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

I'm not by nature the most patient of people and I know I think, walk, talk faster than most (must be my New York City upbringing!). But I will admit that if there's anything real estate has taught me its' patience! (As well as how to mask my impatience around other people!).

Nov 18, 2014 08:37 PM
Jeanne Dufort
Coldwell Banker Lake Country - Madison, GA
Madison and Lake Oconee GA

I have adopted a style of patience, because of the nature of my local market. We're an aspirational market - with people in search of a good life. As a comsequence, I spend a lot of time with seekers, not people on a mission. Am I fundamentally a patient person - not so much. But its a necessary tool in my toolbox.

Nov 18, 2014 09:02 PM
Sellstate Partners Realty - Cooper City, FL
Selling Broward County Homes with Passion!

Patience is something I long for...and this business is about having  patience (and, yes, humility) because so much is out of my control. But I, too, have learned to deal with what I can and then pray a whole lot for the rest.  Not easy but necessary!

Nov 19, 2014 12:44 AM
Theresa Akin

If I'm in a hurry, I don't go where I need to be patient.

Nov 19, 2014 01:24 AM
Cat Zwicker, CRS
Desert Sky Real Estate, LLC - Redmond, OR
Down to Earth Service; Out of this World Results!

The "Art of Waiting" is definitely a good description for Real Estate. I've always used the phrase "hurry up and wait" when I get into those situations where I'm at the control of others performance. Thedemands on Brokers always seem to be "right now" but the ability to have others provide items... well this is why patience is a virtue I'm still working on. 

Nov 19, 2014 02:41 AM
Gene Riemenschneider
Home Point Real Estate - Brentwood, CA
Turning Houses into Homes

I have an escrow that should have closed yesterday and is now looking like tomorrow.  The problem is the seller (normally it is the lender).  Rather than get frustrated I just wait and know things will resolve.  I am just glad my buyer is not setting out front in a moving truck.

Nov 19, 2014 04:45 AM
Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR
Better Homes and Gardens Real Estate-Kansas City Homes - Kansas City, MO
Experienced Agent in Kansas City Metro area

Oh yes, we must be patient b/c there are many things out of our control...sometimes you learn the hard way!

Nov 19, 2014 05:23 AM
Liane Thomas, Top Listing Agent
Professional Realty Services® - Corona, CA
Bringing you Home!

Patience isn't my best virtue. So often if something is promised by 130, I tell my buyers it "should" be here by the end of the day. Then when I call at 3 to tell them it is here, they are happy!

Nov 19, 2014 07:34 AM
Karen Fiddler, Broker/Owner
Karen Parsons-Fiddler, Broker 949-510-2395 - Mission Viejo, CA
Orange County & Lake Arrowhead, CA (949)510-2395

The problem with type-A people, like me, is that we hate to wait for others to do their jobs. 

Nov 19, 2014 08:55 AM
Lyn Sims
RE/MAX Suburban - Schaumburg, IL
Schaumburg Real Estate

Just part of the process. It used to bug me but no longer. It takes as long as it takes unless I can help in some way or I just become a bystander like the rest.

Nov 20, 2014 03:35 AM
Inna Ivchenko
Barcode Properties - Encino, CA
Realtor® • Green • GRI • HAFA • PSC Calabasas CA

What I a good blogger does: opens a good discussion. You did it. You post and comments bring a lot of thoughts in mind.

Nov 20, 2014 03:55 PM
Cheryl! Tisland
Realty Executives Phoenix - Chandler, AZ
BSCS, Real Estate Agent

Thank you, everyone, for your comments.  I am enjoying hearing about everyone's perspective in this.  In this business it seems that most of you feel that it is a true test of patience, but that we all learn to manage our responses when it seems others don't share our sense of urgency.

Nov 20, 2014 10:04 PM

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