How to juggle it all!

Real Estate Agent with ERA Suncoast Realty

I just found the group and am so excited!!!! I'm not only a mother of four (only one still at home - age 16), but a grandmother of one (age 2).  Over the weekend I was taking care of my grandson and was faced with a tough challenge.  I received a call from another agent wanting to show a listing I have that is lister accompany.  Ok, now what do I do.  In today's market you really don't want to say.....oh well I can't today can we do it tomorrow, when their buyers are only here for another day from out of town.

So, I explained to the other agent that I was going to apologize in advance that I had spent the entire day with my grandson, I was in shorts and a t-shirt(of course with my company logo) and if she or her clients did not mind I would be happy to meet them.  Much to my surprise she had no problem with it and the buyers were very receptive when they met me and my grandson.  Now, not to sure my broker would have been happy with my attire, but sometimes you just have to do what you have to do.

It's not the first time I have either brought my grandson or one of my children with me on a showing or listing appointment.  If just explain to your customers, it sometimes makes you more of a person to them and helps them relate to you.

I hope that some of you can relate to this and will share with me your experiences.

Thanks for such a great group!

Comments (19)

Harold "Hal" Place
A1 Connection Realty, Inc. - Sun City Center, FL

Morning Melinda,

You handled it perfectly from my point of view. I raised my two children and was faced with same circumstance. I wasn't in Real Estate at the time, however my presence was required at my office, I informed the vice president I could be there in less then half an hour, but would have to bring my 4 and 6 year old with me. It worked out fine.


Apr 07, 2008 11:19 PM
Sara Homan
Coldwell Banker Ellison Realty 352-209-4044 - Ocala, FL
Realtor, Homes, Farms & 55+
Don't know about Homosassa but here in Ocala we have a very big 55+ crowd and they just love the little ones (most of them that is)  I have brought my nephews to showings a few times.  It is not exactly my preference but you gotta do what you gotta do!  Just maintain a professional attitude and it will be fine!
Apr 07, 2008 11:21 PM
Stanton Homes
Stanton Homes - New Home Builder - Raleigh, NC
Design/Build Custom Home Builder in North Carolina
Melinda - Sounds like you handled it perfectly.  I have a 3 year old and 1 year old.  The 1 year old would be terrific to bring to work (if I had to), but the 3 year old is, shall we say, high energy!  Glad to hear it worked for you.  And glad I saw this post - I didn't know there was a "Mom" group!  I'm not an agent, but have many of the same challenges working for a custom home builder.
Apr 07, 2008 11:48 PM
Evelyn Johnston
Friends & Neighbors Real Estate - Elkhart, IN
The People You Know, Like and Trust!
My children are all grown but I have taken my Husband along to listing appts and showings and no one has minded one bit.  One more than one occassion he was asked his opinion about a repair job or what he thinks about something.  So it has been helpful, and he gets to see what it is I do!
Apr 07, 2008 11:54 PM
Donna Marie Godfrey
Godfrey Properties - Pottstown, PA

Melinda:  Good show!  I would have done the same thing.  By the way, I have a house in Sugarmill Woods.  How's the market?  Perking up a bit I pray.

Apr 08, 2008 12:01 AM
Matthew Zgonc
Aksland Real Estate - Modesto, CA
Realtor, CFS, CVS
I think you handled the situation fine. Most people are worried about the home rather than anything else. As long as it isn't a distraction to that then you should be fine.
Apr 08, 2008 12:41 AM
Melinda Barry
ERA Suncoast Realty - Crystal River, FL
Thanks for all your posts....I even attended a webinar one day with my grandson.  I just came into my office, shut the door, turned out the lights, got his lunch ready, put a dvd on and participated in the webinar.  Not to say it wasn't a challenge.  He had finally gotten tall enough to reach the door handle and kept trying to escape.  I couldn't lock the door from the inside because it has one of those handles that when you turn it it unlocks.  I made it through it.  It really has challenged me and gives me great respect as to why I had my kids young.  I can hardly keep up with the little guy.  My daughter and her finance are both fire fighter emt's and I sometimes have him overnight.  I am so exhausted the next day, but enjoy every minute of it.  He really loves his Grammy and knows how to play that card well.  Anyhow, thanks again for the posts. We mommy's and grandmother's have to stick together.  I think back when my grandmother was alive, it wasn't era for the working mom.
Apr 08, 2008 01:02 AM
Joddie Roberts
Mountain Real Estate and Property Management - Spokane, WA
Your Spokane Realtor - Spokane, WA
Melinda, last year I had to take my daughter with me on a couple showing appointments.  I explained ahead of time to those involved that I needed to bring her and nobody minded.  I understand the need to be "professional" but I think others need to see the human side of us as well. 
Apr 08, 2008 09:36 AM
Susan Jackowski
Lake Norman NC - Mooresville, NC
Lake Norman NC & Hudson Valley NY
You handled this just fine.  As long as you explained the agent and buyer I'm sure understood and appreciated that you were going to help them on your day off. 
Apr 08, 2008 09:39 AM
Bob Edwards
Coldwell Banker- The Real Estate Group, Inc. - Appleton, WI
Fox Cities Real Estate Hotline, SFR- Appleton, WI
It sounds like you're doing a good job juggling things Melinda. If you had put the showing off you'd of done a disservice to your client so I think you did the right thing. I'm sure the buyers could look past your attire and maybe even relate to your situation.
Apr 08, 2008 09:45 AM
Laura Gray
RE/MAX Realty Group - Gaithersburg, MD

Over the years , my now 11 year old , has attended Home Inspections , showed properties, and met the "Bug" guy. Sometimes life gets in the way of our busines and our clients and customers get in the way of life.

You handled the situation the best way you could considering the circumstances , and you informed the other parties involved. In my eyes therre was NO problem with how you handled the call

Apr 08, 2008 04:39 PM
Tina Farinas
Fusion Real Estate Network, Inc. - Roseville, CA
You don't look enough to be a grandma and you seem to have handled it pretty well.
Apr 08, 2008 04:51 PM
Dawn Workman
Veracity Real Estate Group, LLC - Camas, WA
Camas Real Estate Expert, MBA, 480-540-8100
I am a momma of 4 also, but with 2 stepsons and two babies!!  I have a part-time nanny and warn all my clients that I am a mom and they may hear screaming in the background.  I think people respect that I can juggle it all and that family is just as important to me as it is to them.  If they don't like it there is always a referral fee :)
Apr 08, 2008 06:31 PM
Vickie McCartney
Maverick Realty - Owensboro, KY
Broker, Real Estate Agent Owensboro KY
Hello Melinda and welcome to the rain.  I became active here at end of Feb. so I guess you can say I am new too.  I have a granddaughter that is five years old and have a grandson coming in May.  I have 4 kids, all grown , and I adore my grand daughter, she is the highlight of my life.  She has been with me in a pinch while doing real estate.  Thank goodness she behaves!  Enjoy yourself in the rain.  It is amazing how much you will learn and share and there are some really nice, caring and genuine people in here.
Apr 08, 2008 07:25 PM
Melinda Barry
ERA Suncoast Realty - Crystal River, FL

Thanks again to everyone's comments!

It's great to relate to situations like these.....I have always felt that even in the slow of the market Real Estate was the best choice for me.  It has given me so much opportunity to be flexible and be with my family more.  Before I entered Real Estate I had a former friend who was in Real Estate tell me don't do it, you never have time for yourself.  I know now they were just afraid of my competition.  I love the fact that you can be at the beach, the zoo, or wherever and still make transactions come together.  All you need most the time is a cell phone.

I keep all my listings, important numbers and such in a binder.  So no matter where I am I have it at my fingertips.

Again, thank you everyone I look forward to more Agent Mom blogs!

Apr 08, 2008 10:59 PM
Susan Jackowski
Lake Norman NC - Mooresville, NC
Lake Norman NC & Hudson Valley NY
Apr 09, 2008 12:23 PM
Jennifer Hartwick
Crane and Crane Real Estate - Columbia, MO
Today running late from a 5 hour showing appointment, my client had to come with me to pick up my son from preschool.  In town for out of state, he had told me he had meetings in the afternoon and would only be able to view in the am.  Anticipating that, I made plans to spend the afternoon with my buddy.  A change in his plans didn't allow for a change of mine.  He was fine and because Cole was doing so well in the car, we were able to tour a few more neighborhoods before I dropped him off.  I do what I can, but buyers need to realize we have a life too!
Apr 11, 2008 02:51 PM
Darrel Davis
Winter Garden, Florida - Winter Garden, FL
Southern Heritage Realty
I think that sometimes people forget that Realtors are people too. I would think that a well mannered child with you and inteligent words coming from your mouth would be more impressive than the same old cliche'd look of many agents. Great decision to share such an important part of your world with clients! It helps keep us where we belong, on the same level as our clients.  --just my thought--
Apr 11, 2008 03:41 PM
Melinda Barry
ERA Suncoast Realty - Crystal River, FL
Thanks Jennifer and Darrel.  I am so glad that my blog went over so well with folks.  Glad to see Dads are also a part of our group.
Apr 12, 2008 01:34 AM