It Isn’t Important Where You Head Off To In The Morning…

Real Estate Agent with KW at the Parks 651506396

My wife had a girlfriend over to the house when I arrived home yesterday afternoon. My wife’s friend is quite a bit younger than my wife, and once was my wife’s boss. The woman has a mid-to-high level management position with her current company. She was explaining to the two of us that the owner of the company had moved her to a different position, and she considered it a demotion rather than a lateral move. Based on the conversation, I am assuming this was one of her first major career setbacks.

She asked me for my opinion on her situation, and I told her the following…it isn’t important where you head off to in the morning, but where you return to in the evening.

She looked at me with a puzzled expression on her face. I explained that I have been working longer than I care to remember, and I have been married to the love of my life for nearly five decades…and there is no job that can ever come close to the satisfaction I derive from walking through my door at night.  Don’t get me wrong, I love what I do for a living-but that’s all it is…it’s what I do for a living. My wife and family are what makes living worthwhile!

Over the weekend, my wife and I watched the movie, "St Vincent", starring Bill Murray. If you get a chance to see it, please do. On the surface, it appears that Murray’s character is a drunken, gambling misfit. As the story progresses, you come to understand that he is dealing with a wife who has Alzheimer’s. Vince, Murray’s character, is constantly struggling for money; and you think it is due to his lifestyle. It isn’t until later in the movie you realize that he is being drained financially trying to pay for the beautiful care facility where he has lovingly placed his wife.

At the conclusion of the movie, both my wife and I were pretty silent. While the movie was funny in parts, the plot hit pretty close to home. We are both heading towards that period in our lives where difficult times are just around the corner. Aging, illness, and the financial burden associated with both of those things are very real to us old folks. They aren’t something that, when you are younger, you gave a quick passing thought to. No, at our age, they are today’s problems…not tomorrow’s problems.

My wife is a 12-year breast cancer survivor. We have had the Grim Reaper darken our doorstep. Thankfully, his visit was brief and he quickly turned his attention to someone else. Sadly, we know he will return one day and our world together will come to an end. Knowing that doesn’t make the situation hopeless…it just gives you the resolve to make every moment count.

My wife’s friend couldn’t possibly understand what I wrote in the above paragraphs. She hasn’t met the love of her life yet. I hope that one day she does. I hope one day she finds a love that consumes her every waking moment. A love that causes her to wish, despite all the enjoyment she finds in going off to work each day, doesn’t compare to the love she finds waiting for her at home.

While my post for today may sound grim with all the talk of getting old, illness, and death, it isn’t meant to be. Just like the movie, "St Vincent", on the surface it may have been about a social misfit…it held a deeper message of love, commitment, and loyalty.

My message today is much the same. Life is not about earning money, accumulating wealth, purchasing things. Life is about finding someone to share your life with. It is about loving someone, and having them love you back in return.

If you are one of the lucky ones, blessed with the love of your life, perhaps set your smart phone aside for the evening. Maybe, turn off the computer or the television set…let that call go to voicemail. The work will always be there-but the person you love will not.







Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR
Better Homes and Gardens Real Estate-Kansas City Homes - Kansas City, MO
Experienced Agent in Kansas City Metro area

I have been wanting to see the movie, Bill Murray is a favorite actor!  YOu are right, the important 'things' in life aren't money and stuff, but relationships, family, friends, how you live your day to day life and what you give back

Mar 03, 2015 10:38 AM
Kathy Clulow
Uxbridge, ON
Trusted For Experience - Respected For Results

Thank You Thomas Craig a moving reminder that “We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.”  Norman MacEwan

Mar 03, 2015 02:18 PM
Sharon Parisi
United Real Estate Dallas - Dallas, TX
Dallas Homes

Thomas Craig This is a beautiful message spoken from the heart.  The longer we live and the more we experience, the wiser we become. 

Mar 03, 2015 03:35 PM
Thomas Craig
KW at the Parks - Orlando, FL

Again, thanks so  much for all the wonderful comments.. I really appreciate it, especially those of you who have shared a part of what is going on in your life as well. 

Mar 03, 2015 07:32 PM
Rose Mary Justice
Synergy Realty Pros - Dandridge, TN
Synergy Realty Pros

This is a great story and really hit home with me.  We too, are approaching that time in life.   The grim reapor has been at my door more than once.  Still I continue to forget to leave the job and cherish my family.  It is time to stop and smell the roses.  Thanks for the reminder.

Mar 03, 2015 08:56 PM
Karen Luke
South Metro Property Management, LLC - McDonough, GA
Henry County Real Estate

Awesome reminder. A post like that shows that you are a great agent. You have your heart in the right place. You are rich.

Mar 03, 2015 09:36 PM
Mike Warfel
Mike & Rita Warfel Real Estate LLC - Avoca, MI
Associate Broker

Thanks for your post, at 64, I can relate. In this area, there are a lot of aging Realtors, we hear about their health issues. I spend more time in church than I did as a younger man and worry about the grandchildren.

May God be with you, may the end of your story be gentile and laudable.

Mar 04, 2015 03:53 AM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Wow! Tears in my eyes!  I am sure you realize how this post has touched so many lives.  I hope it goes viral.  Many of us need to be grounded in the reality of what life really is all about.  A heartfelt thank you for your wonderful and sage insight. 

Mar 04, 2015 11:37 PM
The Julie Morales Team
RE/MAX Cinco Ranch - Katy, TX
Real Estate Questions? Call (832) 367-3412

Wow that is an amazing story that brougt tears to my eyes. What a posative messag with a great life lesson.

Mar 05, 2015 02:33 AM
Thomas Craig
KW at the Parks - Orlando, FL

I continue to be amazed that this continues to reach even more people and that many are taking the time to comment. I am deeply humbled that my words may have meant something to you.

Thank you all so much for your kindness!

Mar 05, 2015 03:11 AM
Mary M. Kandell
Russell Real Estate Services - Sandusky, OH

Well said, Thomas, well said.  I hope you don't mind if I share.

Mar 05, 2015 04:30 AM
Pam Dammerman
RE/MAX Legacy - Troy, IL
RE/MAX Legacy

Absolutely Beautiful!  Wisdom and Appreciation really does come with age! May you and your wife be blessed with many more years of happiness, good health, and great movies together! :)

Mar 05, 2015 05:01 AM
Tammy Adams ~ Realtor / Podcaster
Maricopa Real Estate Co - Maricopa, AZ
A Maricopa Agent who Works, Lives & Loves Maricopa

Wow. I echo what has been said above. When we are like your wife's friend that is what is important then but not what is important as realize down the road.

Mar 07, 2015 08:55 AM
Theresa Akin

I am always thankful for any time i get to spend with my husband. He starts his day early out the door at 6 am and often doesn't get home until 730 pm. If he gets home earlier, I am elated to see him walk through that door. Makes my heart skip a beat. My grandmother told me no matter how upset you are send them to work with a kiss and a smile and tell 'em you love 'em. Greet them the same when they walk through that door anytime and at the end of the day. You never know when it might be your last time for them to say it back at you.

Mar 09, 2015 06:00 AM
Troy Erickson AZ Realtor (602) 295-6807
HomeSmart - Chandler, AZ
Your Chandler, Ahwatukee, and East Valley Realtor

Thomas - What an amazing post. I feel a lot like you feel about life. What I do does not define who I am, and I do have an amazing life outside of work. I am lucky to have an amazing wife, loving family, and two fantastic children.

Mar 09, 2015 05:50 PM
Lottie Kendall
Compass - San Francisco, CA
Helping make your real estate dreams a reality

Very powerful message, Thomas; I'm grateful Bob Crane reblogged it, or I would have missed it. I'm now 'following' you so I have a better chance of reading more from you.

Mar 09, 2015 11:37 PM
Thomas Craig
KW at the Parks - Orlando, FL

This was one of those blogs that I wrote in about 10 minutes. Every once and a while it happens where the time sort of zips by and the next thing you know...I am looking into the computer screen at a finished piece and the words sort of just magically fell into place.

I am most thankful for all you wonderful people who continue to share your lives and what is in your heart with me regarding the topic of placing value on that which is irreplaceable...the people you love.

Mar 09, 2015 11:44 PM
Winston Heverly
Coldwell Banker Access Realty - South Macon, GA

What a great read I came across today, keep them coming for the active Rainers.

Mar 15, 2015 12:29 PM
Sandy Padula & Norm Padula, JD, GRI
HomeSmart Realty West & Florida Realty Investments - , CA
Presence, Persistence & Perseverance

Thomas Craig What a well-founded and centered blog post. I will have to email this to Sandy. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

Jun 29, 2016 12:18 AM
Thomas Craig
KW at the Parks - Orlando, FL

Thanks Sandy and Norm for kind comments

Jun 29, 2016 11:13 AM