I happened to be e-mailing Wanda Kerbat-Nerbin to say thank you for subscribing to my blog and looking at her name gave me pause. Since we share this hyphenated name thing in common, I addressed it right away. Here is what I wrote:
"To another one of us with a hyphenated name! Well, I don't know about you, but I tell every single gal, 'Don't go hyphenated!' They always lose your paperwork, your order, your what-have-you and your mail is constantly wrong--geesh"!
I got to thinking about this even further. Your family and friends never seem to get it quite right and finally you give up. They forget that your name is different than your husband's. Or, they give him YOUR last name by mistake. OR, it is completely bastardized. My husband's first name is Larry. Larry Boxman, pretty simple. I am Gayle Rich-Boxman. I have received mail that was addressed this way:
Mr. and Mrs. Rich Boxman
And if you go to pick up something you've ordered, like photos to be printed, you never know which letter they're putting your name under. Is it B or is it R? They don't know and you spend copious amounts of time tensely thinking that you've ended up in some dead zone, because they couldn't figure it out EITHER, so they ask you, "Would it be under B? Or would it be under R?" Hey, I don't know, because there seems to be no RULE about this!
Really, Rich and Boxman are pretty simple. But NO! All of my names get misspelled all of the time. It used to be just my first name, Gayle or Gail. Not anymore!
I did this for altruistic reasons...to honor my dad (who departed just before I met my husband-to-be) and my (then) future husband who wanted me to take his name. It's the thought that counts, I guess.
I do have to say that my all time favorite misspelling wasn't really my name, but something that came in the mail for my husband.
It was a Seinfeld moment that I'll never let him live down!