Are You Moving a Parent into Your Home? Some Suggestions.

Real Estate Broker/Owner with Don Sabinske, Sabinske & Associates Inc. 539MN

This was a post written by my associate, Suzanne McLaughlin, a while ago.  And, it has some specific suggestions and great comments by others who have had to make decisions about moving a parent into one's home.

This can be used if you face a simialr situation.  And, I hope that if you are in this position, you can take some comfort and advice from not only Suzanne's original post, but from the others who added their experince, too. 

Original content by Suzanne McLaughlin

Are you moving a parent into your home? 


There are many issues to discuss with the parent and possibly others living in your home.


The parent may have some physical and/or mental condition, a chronic illness or flare-ups. 


Even if the parent is still relatively healthy and independent, you will want to consider things like living wills, health care directives and wills.  You want to make sure that they are ready to consider end-of-life decisions now while they are still cognizant of the implications.


And, if there are siblings and spouses involved, have the parent explain (possibly with your assistance or an attorney’s) what and why the decisions were made. 


Your parent is now in new surroundings and may be unused to more distractions and noise.  This is understandable, and you may want to set up an area other than the bedroom where they have some of the things that were in their previous home such as books, mementos and other things that can serve to calm nerves. 


However, if the parent is in a health crisis, or has suffered a setback in care, you will need to consult with a physician about how to best integrate the care of the parent both for you and your family and the parent. 


You must be aware of all implications of any ailments and what to expect in three months, six months and a year, where possible. 


Be alert to changes.  And, as with any change in your family status, you need to try to make everyone comfortable and knowledgeable about what their responsibilites are.



Best wishes to you for taking the responsibility on.  And, think about the rewards of time with someone who loved and cared for you when you were a child.  Take a deep breath, and sail on!!!!




The information contained in this blog is believed to be true and correct and while every effort is made to ensure that the information is as accurate as possible, the author of this blog, and its comments disclaim any implied warranty or representation about its accuracy for any particular purpose. All information is copy written and the property of Suzanne McLaughlin.. 

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Suzanne McLaughlin

Sabinske & Associates, Inc.    

When you need to buy or sell in St. Michael or Albertville Minnesota, or anywhere in Wright County, Sherburne County or Anoka County or Hennepin County, give me a call! 

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Don Sabinske, Broker, GRI

Sabinske & Associates Inc.


Specializing in Sherburne, Wright, Anoka and Hennepin Counties...We can help you move!


Comments (13)

Evelyn Johnston
Friends & Neighbors Real Estate - Elkhart, IN
The People You Know, Like and Trust!

What a wonderful post to reblog. My husband and I have considered how we will move his Aunt into our home if she needs it and how it will impact us.

Mar 12, 2015 11:39 AM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

Several years ago, it was parents facing issues of "Boomerang Kids" who returned home after flying alone for awhile.  But, increasingly we are hearing of parents, who are now moving in with the kids.  This blog alerts to issues to be concerned with!

Mar 12, 2015 12:26 PM
Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

great reblog that I'd missed, glad I saw it so I can go over and leave her a comment.

Mar 12, 2015 12:45 PM
Larry Johnston
Broker, Friends & Neighbors Real Estate and Elkhart County Subdivisions, LLC - Elkhart, IN
Broker,Friends & Neighbors Real Estate, Elkhart,IN

Good evening Don Sabinske ,  We are going through some of those thoughts, now as my 87 year old aunt is heading in that direction.

Mar 12, 2015 12:51 PM
Hannah Williams
HomeStarr Realty - Philadelphia, PA
Expertise NE Philadelphia & Bucks 215-820-3376

Don Sabinske  very intelligent post with great suggestions a powerful re blog . My daughter is always after my to get a living will she does not want the responsibility of making that decision 

Mar 12, 2015 02:08 PM
Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, KW Diversified - Stevens Point, WI
Forestland Experts! 715-204-9671

Thanks for sharing this Don, it is a topic that had been considered here often, so far mom is not ready to move, but you never know when or if she will be.

Mar 12, 2015 03:34 PM
Troy Erickson AZ Realtor (602) 295-6807
HomeSmart - Chandler, AZ
Your Chandler, Ahwatukee, and East Valley Realtor

Don - There are absolutely a lot of things to consider when moving a parent into your home.

Mar 12, 2015 03:59 PM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hi Don -- a good post when Suzanne McLaughlin first wrote it and remains so today.   

Mar 12, 2015 06:02 PM
Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty
Waves Realty - Melbourne, FL
Florida Space Coast Homes much of this happening nationwide. We have a new build community and one of the big requests is first floor bedrooms for the parents!

Mar 13, 2015 07:20 AM
Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, KW Diversified - Stevens Point, WI
Forestland Experts! 715-204-9671

Happy Easter I hope that everything is going well for you and yours Don!


Apr 05, 2015 03:08 PM
Dinah Stallworth-Lewis
Priority Real Estate LLC - 318.332.8281 - Natchitoches, LA


This is a good choice for a reblog.  I am a Louisiana Notary Public and Paralegal, so, I totally agree with you.  It is best to discuss  the will, living will, and power of attorney with parents and loved ones before it becomes and issue. You should know how they feel about these issues.  And when in doubt,  seek legal advice from an estate planning or family law attorney.  Preparation is key.

Apr 11, 2015 06:11 PM
Dana Hollish Hill
Hollish Hill Group, JPAR Stellar Living - Bethesda, MD
REALTOR * Broker * Coach

Such a great list. I think when in the middle of this type of emothional move, it is hard to remember all the things to consider. 

Nov 03, 2015 12:05 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

I was looking for your current blogs. I hope all is going well for you.

Jun 17, 2017 11:16 AM