Thinking of using a Friend as your Real Estate Agent? Here are some reasons why you shouldn't.

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 Thinking of using your Friend as your Real Estate Agent? Here are some reasons not to.


Thinking of using a friend as your real estate agent? Here are some reasons why you shouldn't. 

Last week, the U.S. News Money report wrote an article about the reasons why you shouldn't use a friend as a Real Estate Agent. With spring comes an increase in house hunters and consumers agree that it is easier to hire a friend who's already in real estate rather than take time to interview someone else. Although you may save time in the beginning hiring a friend, you may soon realize that it's taken longer to sell or buy a home than you originally planned. 

 You may be wondering...."How does this apply to me?"                                     

You believe that your friend is more than capable of servicing all your real estate needs. They may even be one of the top agents in their area!  But just because your friend is considered " One of the best" that doesn't always mean they are the best for you. During the homebuying process there is alot of sensitive information that you must divluge to you real estate agent which may be easier to do if  you aren't emotionally attached to them. Maybe there are some things about your life that you may not want your friend to know but are necessary to help you buy, sell, or rent a home of your dreams.                                                                                                                                                                                                                           " Realtors tend to be a social bunch," says John sterling who manages a team of agents for Keller Williams Realty and specializes in working with real estate investors. " I can't say never hire a friend but you shouldn't hire them because they're you're friend. You shouldn't do it as a favor- you should do it because they're good at what they do." *source: U.S. News


The Awkward Phase

As uncomfortable as it may be, before you hire your friend you should also consult other reputable real estate agents in your area. That way, you can develop a better idea of what you want and who you want in a real estate agent. You can also avoid conflicts of interests. If you happen to have that friend who thinks "they always know what's best for you"  and you hire them as your agent, you could end up in a home you don't truly love and also a situation where you start revaluating your friendship. While they may not be totally wrong, they may not be totally right either and with as big of a purchase as buying a home is there really isn't much margin for error. Simply by asking other friends, family members, colleagues at work, and even searching the Internet you can find reputable agents in your area. At first, This may not sit well with your friend the realtor but just remember, " honest disagreement is often a good sign of progress."


Thinking of using your friend as a Real Estate Agent? Talk to a reputable agent first!


 If you don't have the fortune ( or misfortune) of having a friend as a real estate agent and would still like to speak with one, not to worry. Heres a link that will help you do just that. Happy hunting. 


Elliot Watson
Real Estate Salesperson
Cell: 914-319-8416
eMail: elliot.
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage
366 Underhill Avenue 
Yorktown Heights, NY 10598


Posted by
Elliot Watson
Real Estate Saleperson
Cell:(914) 319-8416
Coldwell Banker
366 Underhill Avenue
Yorktown Heights, NY 10598

Comments (17)

Kathy Goldman
REVA Online | SEO Boost For Real Estate, Social Media Marketing for Real Estate and Real Estate Blogging Expert - Waukesha, WI
Social Media & Marketing for Real Estate

It's like going into business. Never go into business with a friend or family member!!!

You hit the nail on the head! Welcome to ActiveRain, Elliot Watson

Mar 24, 2015 02:02 AM
Eric Kodner
Madeline Island Realty - La Pointe, WI
CRS, Madeline Island Realty, LaPointe, WI 54850 -

Representing a friend can permanently damage a relationship that has lasted for years.  To make it work requires a great deal of empathy and above average listening skills.

Mar 24, 2015 03:18 AM
Craig Gallegos
Fairway Independent Mortgage - Phoenix, AZ
Your bridge between Contact, Contract & Closing

Great post, thanks for sharing!

Mar 24, 2015 06:13 AM
Christopher Pagli
William Raveis Legends Realty Group - Tarrytown, NY
"I Stay Open Until You Close"

I know many people that have used friends and had good experiences.  I personally feel that all expectations and concerns should be talked about up front.

Mar 24, 2015 07:26 AM
Laura Allen, Lake Tahoe - Truckee Real Estate for Sale
Coldwell Banker, Tahoe City, CA (530) 414-1260 - Tahoe City, CA
Tahoe Real Estate Agent Helping Buyers and Sellers

Elliot Watson - You've given buyers some great advice and to really think things through before they hire any real estate professional.

Mar 24, 2015 12:04 PM
Christine Donovan
Donovan Blatt Realty - Costa Mesa, CA
Broker/Attorney 714-319-9751 DRE01267479 - Costa M

Elliott - Sometimes it makes sense to hire a friend, and sometimes it doesn't. It's important to consider the pros and cons. 

Mar 24, 2015 03:31 PM
Christine Donovan
Donovan Blatt Realty - Costa Mesa, CA
Broker/Attorney 714-319-9751 DRE01267479 - Costa M

Elliott - Congratulations on your first post in the Rain.  Please let me know if you have any questions as you start playing in the Rain.

Mar 24, 2015 03:32 PM
Robert Smith
Preview Properties, PC - - Brighton, MI
SRES, Search for Homes Brighton-Howell-SE Michigan

Elliot Watson , I have worked successfully (and without issue) with some extended family and friends.  

However, most of the time I refer them to another agent.  It's ironic that newer agents are encouraged to 'mine their sphere', which is exactly this group!   Being inexperienced, they can do great damage to otherwise wonderful relationships.

Mar 25, 2015 12:08 AM
Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Happily Retired - Franklin, MA
Previously Affiliated with The Todaro Team

Good morning, Elliot Watson friends and family are by far the most difficult of all clients.... and welcome to ActiveRain....nice first post..keep blogging...

Mar 25, 2015 12:34 AM
Chris Shull
ColumbiaLand Realty - Columbia, SC
Your Realtor For Life!

Great post Elliot and Oh, so true! You really hit the nail on the head with your first blog post! I look forward to reading more from you here on Activerain!

Mar 25, 2015 01:32 AM
John Meussner
Mortgages in AZ, CA, CO, DE, FL, GA, MD, MN, MT, NC, NJ, NV, OK, OR, PA, SC, SD, TN, TX, UT, VA, WI - Fair Oaks, CA
#MortgageMadeEasy Fair Oaks, CA 484-680-4852

Great first post Elliot!  Sometimes a friend can get the job done, but 'friend' or 'relative' should never be the only reason to choose help for such a major decision.

Mar 25, 2015 01:19 PM
Dee Toohey
Innovative Realty Solutions Group - Longwood, FL
Broker, ABR, AHWD, CIPS, FMS, ePro

Welcome to Active Rain!  Congrats on your first blog.  I look forward to reading more from you. 

Mar 25, 2015 10:19 PM
Annette Lawrence , Palm Harbor, FL 727-420-4041
ReMax Realtec Group - Palm Harbor, FL
Making FLORIDA Real Estate EZ


The entire focus of the connection economy is to create familiarity and trust with those we may have never met. Further, we as professionals. engage in community events and groups so we can expand our sphere of FRIENDS who we want to know that our business is real estate.

We exercise a monthly discipline of staying to touch with those in our friendship group to increase the chances they will choose us and not bother with conferring with two other professionals they don't know.

So there you are at the tee and your friend arrives who just listed with  'thunderbolt' realty. "Oh, Elliot, I did not call you because we are friends. I'm sure you understand."


Mar 25, 2015 10:21 PM
Dee Toohey
Innovative Realty Solutions Group - Longwood, FL
Broker, ABR, AHWD, CIPS, FMS, ePro

Elliot, I have done business with friends.  For me it's about setting boundries first.  I can be direct and frank but not insulting.  You should not chose a professional because you are friends but because they are very qualified to do the job. 

Mar 25, 2015 10:21 PM
Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Happily Retired - Franklin, MA
Previously Affiliated with The Todaro Team

Good morning, Elliot Watson good post...I have always had a policy of not working with family or close friends.... I refer them to others in my office and I take a referral best for me....and welcome to ActiveRain...

Mar 25, 2015 10:40 PM
Captain Wayne - Rowlett Real Estate School
Rowlett Real Estate School - Panama City, FL
Rowlett Real Estate School / Owner and Instructor

HI Elliot Watson, Welcome to the Rain train! I'm glad you made the brave first steps into the blogging world with us! It's a great place to be and I hope to see many more posts from you in the future!

Mar 30, 2015 12:21 AM
Trumps Elite
Keller Williams Realty Acadiana - Lafayette, LA
Realtors/Career Consultant

Great article and information.  Welcome to Active Rain. Looking forward to reading more from you I the future. 



Apr 23, 2015 04:47 AM