Do adults know when they are behaving like cyber-bullies?
According to this article on Adult CyberBullying in the Information Age,
“Cyber bullying is bullying through email, instant messaging (IMing), chat room exchanges, Web site posts, or digital messages or images send to a cellular phone or personal digital assistant (PDA).
...At other times it entails adults persecuting one another over political, religious, or deeply held beliefs.
But to be fully satisfying to the genuine bully, there has to be an audience; thus, he elevates the bullying to social media, Twitter, or a comment forum. In this way, the humiliation is public and twice as shaming. And the bully can perform at his sadistic best (or worst) before like-minded aggressors.
Adult Cyber Bullies on Social Media
In a Facebook page originally set up to exchange information about local events, resources, etc. there have been, and continue to be a semblance of adult cyber bullying .
What possesses these adults to regress to a preponderance of four-letter words that they surely caution their kids not to use? The "F" word is used liberally to punctuate a thought, or perhaps to generate a "cool kid" persona.
When someone says something that some people dislike, they will pounce and make it very unpleasant for that person who finds himself/herself on the defensive.
Many people were on the receiving end of the adult version of cyber-bullying and were either forced to quit, or were cut from the group.
How can you avoid cyber bullies?
Some celebrities like Ashley Judd are taking steps to find and prosecute their bullies. Good for her. But what if you don't have the resources to file suit?
- Well, you can remove yourself from the group.
- But if you feel there is some good out of staying as a member of that group, block and unfriend anyone who, in your opinion, is bullying you ot others.
- Try not to retaliate. The disagreement merely keeps on playing to a very public audience.
- When you're on social media, be aware of what you say and how it may be perceived
- Avoid confrontational topics --- the usual: politics, religion
- Hang back, disappear for awhile
- Observe, or lurk so that you still know what's going on, identify the cyber bullies you want to avoid and whom you shouldn't engage
- Post inspirational thoughts --- how you present yourself could affect how people behave towards you