Walk it off-

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Real Estate Agent with Coldwell Banker All American

From a day, when I had had enough, and the thought of one more thing was making me crazy. When I wrote this, every word was true, and my intent was to write it and delete. From a week's perspective, I decided that it wasn't all bad, and that I had actually learned something.

Please grit your teeth, and read through to the end:

 

I've hit a milestone today.

 

I am officially burnt out.

I hate the clients that suck your life force right out of you.

I hate the buyers that want an  old house, in mint new condition, for garage sale prices.

I hate the appraisers who want to use comps that are nowhere near what buyers would consider comparable.

I hate inspectors that know how to build a house, from the footings to the attic.

I hate lenders, that promise the moon, get everyone fired up, then don't answer the phone when there is an issue.

I hate  auditors, that can't get off their butt to check their file or emails for documents they think are "missing".

I hate the 3rd party websites, that want to sell leads to me on my own listings.

I hate vendors that want to do the work later, and asset managers that want a new house condition but won't pay.

I hate ink signatures, time deadlines, and blinking lights on my phone.

I really hate voicemail.

I hate feeling this way.

 

SO, that was grim, wasn't it? All of these things individually are big deals, at the moment in time, and I am able to work through them- coming out as a more proactive individual.

 

What did I learn from that week from h#!?

*That it is possible that what doesn't kill you does make you stronger-I am infinately stronger, having survived each of those challenges.

*That challenges stretch my creativity, my patience, my resourcefulness, my problem solving ability. Those stretches will only enable me to help the next client with the same challenges.

* That writing the above list really helped me let off steam! Having a pressure relief valve like blogging or writing in a journal saves not only my sanity, but that of the people I live with- they didn't have to listen to either my whining, my cursing, or my stony silence.

*That detaching from the outcome is the best thing. I often tell clients that I am not a transactional agent- that part of my value is the relationship I build with inspectors, clients, co-op agents, appraisers, and even office staff. Those relationships are crucial when the above "bumps in the road" occur. I'm not just here to get the deal done and move on. That detachment enables me to outline possible solutions. I once had a conversation with a co-op agent that told me, on the brink of the deal not closing, "My kid's Christmas is riding on this commission!" Never, ever put yourself in this position!

*That there are bright spots, even on gloomy days- talking to a first time buyer about their home search, reaching an agreement with 2 parties when just the day before it felt hopeless;  attending a closing where the sale is a relief to the seller and a blessing to the buyer.

* That having home team support is immeasurable- without it, I wouldn't be able to do my job with any success at all.

* That solutions often occur when I take a time out- do something that outwardly appears as wasting time, but allows the mind a stress free zone.

*That compromise won't kill anyone- it doesn't even sting.

This is my "walk it off" strategy and lessons I learned.

 

 

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To Your Success!

Krisan Mitchell

Coldwell Banker All American

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Dan Hopper
Keller Williams Realty Downtown LLC - Denver, CO
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Great posting Krisan!!  YES< grow grow grow, from your failures and rejections, and learn to be BETTER at what  you do!!  

May 12, 2015 01:20 AM #1
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Krisan Mitchell
Coldwell Banker All American - Raymore, MO

Thanks Dan! Easier to take that attitude once you get some distance from the problem, that's for sure.

Every day, every transaction is unique, and ultimately, what you make of it.

 

May 12, 2015 01:36 AM #2
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Lenn Harley
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And folks think that real estate sales is easy.

HA!

May 12, 2015 01:59 AM #3
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Rob Marken
Bend River Realty - Bend, OR
25+ years experience in Bend

Sorry you are having a rough week. I to had 2 almost 3 deals fall through this week (only days away from escrow). But I agree what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. 

May 12, 2015 03:37 AM #4
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Krisan Mitchell
Coldwell Banker All American - Raymore, MO

 Feeling STRONG here in KC!

May 12, 2015 03:42 AM #5
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Sham Reddy CRS
H E R Realty, Dayton, OH - Dayton, OH
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I love to hear what you like about your business apart from what you hate.  I am sure you love more things than you hate in our business!!!

May 12, 2015 09:43 PM #6
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Raul Rodriguez
Covenant Partners Realty - San Antonio, TX
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Frustration...Being alone at the office with no one else around to answer the phone and me needing to get some documents sent out and the phone ringing and no one to answer it! UGH!!! But it turned out to be a good lead!

May 12, 2015 10:58 PM #7
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Rob Arnold
Sand Dollar Realty Group, Inc. - Altamonte Springs, FL
Metro Orlando Full Service - Investor Friendly & F

The best thing you can do is try and figure out how to overcome these things so that you minimize dealing with them as best you can.  Not an easy task but at least somewhat possible. It does get frustrating. 

May 12, 2015 11:13 PM #8
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Jason Potrzeba
Webster Bank - Providence, RI
Mortgage Banking Officer

At times a career in sales can be an emotional roller coastal, hopefully the highs far outweigh the lows.

May 12, 2015 11:15 PM #9
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Krisan Mitchell
Coldwell Banker All American - Raymore, MO

Sham, Jason and Rob- yes the highs do overcome the lows just about every day. When I wrote the original list, I never intended to publish it. After perspective was gained, I thought that there was still a thread in that tangled mess that I could work with.

I appreciate the comments!

May 12, 2015 11:46 PM #10
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Rebecca Gaujot, Realtor®
Vision Quest Realty - Lewisburg, WV
Lewisburg WV, the go to agent for all real estate

I've had a similar list, as I am sure most Realtors have.... but like you said....we learn and grow from each daily.

May 12, 2015 11:50 PM #11
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John Novak
Keller Williams Realty The Marketplace - Las Vegas, NV
Henderson, Las Vegas and Summerlin Real Estate

My walk it off strategy is "walk the dog." It doesn't take long to forget about a rough day or look at events from a different perspective and learn something when I see Shadow trotting around the park, enjoying the moment.

May 13, 2015 12:13 AM #12
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Nicole Doty - Gilbert Real Estate Expert
Zion Realty - Gilbert, AZ
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Good morning Krisan. I have a feeling most of us could write a similar list at any given moment. It's good to have friends or family surrounding you that you can vent frustrations to and allow you to refocus and move on. 

May 13, 2015 01:01 AM #13
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Jeanne Gregory
RE/MAX Southwest - Sugar Land, TX
The most important home I sell is YOURS!

I have had that list for about a month now.  In the immortal words of Tina Turner "We never, ever do nothing NICE and EASY".  Sometimes it's good to just say that we have had ENOUGH!  Then, go walk the dog, do yoga and drink a beer!  It's gonna get better.

May 13, 2015 02:03 AM #14
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Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
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Krisan - we all have those speed bumps and going over them and getting past them will get us closer to the big win.

May 13, 2015 03:30 AM #15
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