Do You Blindly Accept "Friend" Invitations?

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Almost every day I get an email telling me someone wants to connect on LinkedIn, has added me to circles on Google + or wants to be a friend on Facebook. Sometimes they want to connect on sites where I don't even have an account... which I think is strange. 

Unless I already know the person from Active Rain, I've learned that it's best to go check before connecting, adding back, or friending. 

  • Some of them are people who have yet to post anything that would say who or what they are.
  • Some of them have photos that best belong on a soft porn site.
  • Some communicate in a language I couldn't read if my life depended on it.
  • Some post political opinions or subject matter I would not want to be associated with.

For instance, last week I got notice that a lady real estate agent had added me to her Google circles. I almost clicked "add back," then thought "No, check first."

I'm glad I did!

Everything on her page was about "Sexy ladies." While I will admit that the ladies were shapely and attractive, I'm not into looking at bodies, and I really don't need people in their underware hanging out on my real estate copywriting pages. 

I'd really be curious to know more about the people in her real estate niche. But no, not curious enough to ask.

Do you always check first? 

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Rainmaker
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Joanna Cohlan I've always thought it a little silly to say you're "friends" with someone you've never met, never spoken with, etc.

Wayne Martin I think we need to be a bit more selective - there are  a lot of "nuts" out there.

Bill Roberts I've declined a few on LinkedIn after looking at what they do - or don't do - for a living. 

Kristin Johnston, Waukesha Realtor 414-254-6647 Thanks for stopping by.

Jul 05, 2015 02:35 AM #43
Rainmaker
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Marte Cliff
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Nicole Doty - Gilbert Real Estate Expert I do for all of them now - because some people aren't what they pretend to be.

Jul 05, 2015 02:36 AM #44
Rainmaker
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Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
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Marte - I always do check on Linked In.  In fact need to first know them.  As for the others I probably should especially wit Twitter followers.

Jul 05, 2015 03:23 AM #45
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Bill Roberts
Brooks and Dunphy Real Estate - Oceanside, CA
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Marte Cliff The thing about LinkedIn is that these are all possible customers (clients) and referral sources. You don't need to like them to connect with them. It is just like having a store, you sell to all customers that come in whether you "like" them or not.

Bill Roberts

Jul 05, 2015 04:32 AM #46
Rainmaker
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Marte Cliff
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Grant Schneider Yes, some of those Twitter folks post some pretty strange comments. 

Bill Roberts That's true, but my business is a little different from yours. There are some people I don't want as customers because my job is to promote them, not help them make a purchase or a decision.

For instance, I once turned down what would have been a lucrative job because my role would have been to rebuild the image of one of our most well-known dog fighting afficianados. No thanks. Anyone who trains dogs to maim and kill each other doesn't get my support. 

Jul 05, 2015 05:22 AM #47
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Joan Whitebook
BHG The Masiello Group - Nashua, NH
Consumer Focused Real Estate Services

I'm with you on this.  I always check folks out.  Also, it they have common connections -- I look to see who those folks are.

Jul 05, 2015 11:59 AM #48
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Jon Zolsky, Daytona Beach, FL
Daytona Condo Realty, 386-405-4408 - Daytona Beach, FL
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I have ignored and accepted, with no particular reason. I guess, I shouldn't. I once even had a problem, when I could not log in, and the platform was verifying that it was me, and they produced 3 photos of people, who are my "friends" so I was supposed to know who they were, but I did not really know them. Took me some image checking on Google so that I could satisfy the request.

Jul 05, 2015 01:56 PM #49
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Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

I think I had that same request.  I laughed and showed it to Donald.  I always check.  Sometimes I even report.

Jul 05, 2015 02:08 PM #50
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Pamela Seley
West Coast Realty Division - Murrieta, CA
Residential Real Estate Agent serving SW RivCo CA

Hi Marte, yes I always check first, especially on Google+. I think more of these newer accounts are run by hackers. I know on twitter, some profiles look ok and the next thing I know there are images I just don't want in my twitter feed. 

Jul 05, 2015 03:17 PM #51
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In the very early days of Facebook and LinkedIn, it seems that I always "accepted." Then, I soon learned from my 20 something daughter-not to do so. I have since gone thru Facebook and all social media and completed a large clean-up. I also think that the privacy settings on most social media is much better and most business minded people are careful.

Jul 05, 2015 10:15 PM #52
Rainmaker
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Marte Cliff
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Joan Whitebook You're really cautious!

Jon Zolsky, Daytona Beach, FL I probably would have just said no and left it at that. 

Tammy Lankford That makes 3 of us that I've heard about. 

 

Jul 06, 2015 12:29 AM #53
Rainmaker
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Marte Cliff
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Pamela Seley, REALTOR® Some say Twitter is a good place to be for business, but I pretty much stay away and haven't accepted any requests for a couple of years. I once had someone posting things I didn't want on my feed and couldn't figure out how to get rid of him.

Angelica Blatt Isn't it great that we have kids to teach us how to get around in today's techie world? 

Jul 06, 2015 12:32 AM #54
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Pamela Seley
West Coast Realty Division - Murrieta, CA
Residential Real Estate Agent serving SW RivCo CA

Marte Cliff there are two things you can do: block a twitter follower, which I do to followers I find offensive, or mute them, which means whatever they tweet you won't see in your twitter feed. If you haven't been on twitter then I wouldn't worry about it. 

Jul 06, 2015 03:44 AM #55
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Marte Cliff
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Pamela Seley, REALTOR® My mailing service sends a tweet announcing my weekly newsletter, but that's it. I never go there myself any more. 

Jul 06, 2015 03:53 AM #56
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Jon Zolsky, Daytona Beach, FL
Daytona Condo Realty, 386-405-4408 - Daytona Beach, FL
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Marte - I am afraid I ex[lained it wrong. I believe it was Facebook, and for some reason I had a problem logging in, and I started working with them, and this was part of their process, where they verified that this was me, so they picked 3 of my "friends" from my account and asked to name them, and I couldn't.

 

Jul 06, 2015 07:05 AM #57
Rainmaker
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Marte Cliff
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Jon Zolsky, Daytona Beach, FL Oh... I get it now! You had friends you didn't even know. I think that could happen to me on LinkedIn. I check to see that the people really are what they say they are, but would I recognize them later? I doubt it. 

Jul 06, 2015 07:12 AM #58
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Sussie Sutton
UTR Texas Realtors - Pearland, TX
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It is good to be careful. I do not accept invites on Face Book unless someone I know can tell who they are and how we are connected. Some of these people just started using FB and are randomly befriending everyone. I can't see that being a good thing. I think they are fishing for your info to do monetary damage.

Jul 07, 2015 07:52 AM #59
Rainmaker
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Marte Cliff
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Sussie Sutton Don't you wish we didn't need to have such suspicions?

Jul 07, 2015 09:07 AM #60
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Claude Labbe
Real Living | At Home - Washington, DC
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My default tends to be "no", and I still can't understand why 98% of the local realtors all want to be my friend. It turns out the 2% who don't ask are the 2% I actually would say 'yes' to.

Jul 08, 2015 02:44 PM #61
Rainmaker
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Marte Cliff
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Claude Labbe That's easy. It's because they're hoping you'll share something that reveals your secrets of success!

Jul 09, 2015 01:09 AM #62
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