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5 Ways To Make a Good Deal Feel Bad

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Real Estate Agent with Associate Broker, Momentum Realty

I closed a transaction yesterday with great clients. They were responsive, realistic and enthusiastic. I was saddened that by the time we got to the closing table they were irritated and kind of emotional about the whole thing. Why? Because the sellers were not cooperative and not forthcoming with information during the transaction.Sold Sign

This is the thing...it was a good transaction for all involved. We offered asking price and were reasonable on the Home Inspection negotiations.  We gave the sellers their preferred closing date. The buyers were well qualified and flexible. The sellers were able to close the sale and move on to their new home. It was a win-win! So why were my folks left feeling so dispirited on what should have been a happy day? The sellers just did not make an effort--in fact they almost did the opposite.

 

Here are 5 ways that an uncooperative seller can leave the buyers feeling less than happy at closing:

 

  1. Don't clean the house after you move. We have a 'broom clean' clause in our Virginia contract. As you can imagine, it is virtually unenforceable. If you really want to irritate the buyers, leave stuff in your cabinets, trash around the house (but not so much that they can really raise a stink), don't run the vacuum or sweep and cancel the trash service,  leaving the cans full.
  2. Be sure to keep all info about the house to yourself. We requested paint colors about 6 weeks before settlement. My clients wanted to get the house painted before moving in and really liked the sellers colors. The sellers waited until the week before settlement--even after being asked through their Realtor many, many times--to provide them.
  3. Ignore all requests for information. Along the same lines, we asked 6 weeks ahead for information on their moving schedule so that we could set up our walk-through since we were set to close the day after a long weekend.  Radio silence. When we finally just told them our schedule, they threw a fit, saying it was inconvenient and they would not cooperate. Thanks. We could have done this pleasantly or we could do it this way--with everyone feeling put out.
  4. Refuse to do things that you really need to do. We saw some carpenter bee damage at our first visit. They refused to fix it when we put it on the home inspection addendum. When the pest company came out and identified it, professionally, as carpenter bees, they then were subject to fix it according to the contract. They could have replaced the deck board, or as they opted to do, they could just throw some unidentified compound in the holes that neither hardened nor matched the wood finish and call it a day. Of course, we were left fighting for a credit before closing. Which we got. Again, choose the easy way or the hard way.
  5. Make your buyers feel like you are doing them a favor by selling the house. In general, every response and every request was met either with silence or anger by the sellers. Why? We gave them their asking price and their settlement date. I am one of those agents who feels that all deals go more smoothly when we work together toward a mutually beneficial closing. In other words, I was not a jerk about things--while still looking out for my clients interest. Yet all of their responses were uncooperative and unnecessarily angry. Why? Maybe they didn't want to move, but come on, suck it up and behave like adults.

When you sell your home, you can approach it one of two ways; you can be gracious and fair or you can be a jerk. In the end, the outcome is the same, but in one instance, everyone feels good about things and in the other, no one does. Why can't we all just remember the golden rule?

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Comments(30)

Gene Riemenschneider
Home Point Real Estate - Brentwood, CA
Turning Houses into Homes

It is just a general issue of common decency.  I suspect in other aspects of their lives they are equally self centered.  

Jul 07, 2015 05:43 AM
Sarah Rummage
Benchmark Realty LLC, Nashville TN 615.516.5233 - Nashville, TN
Love Being Realtor® in the Nashville TN Area!

I don't know what it is, but some people just want to drag their feet....zig when everybody else wants to zag....make things as hard as they can, not as easy. It is not always easy to predict how people are going to react during the process when you first meet. 

Jul 07, 2015 05:50 AM
Thomas McCombs
Century 21 HomeStar - Akron, OH

I suspect that the sellers in this deal were not happy with it. Maybe they felt that the price was too low even tho it was the full asking price.

Seller remorse may be more common than we might think.

 

Jul 07, 2015 06:10 AM
Ed Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

It is unfortunate that blind logic took over and the sellers just had to be obstinate throughout. 

Jul 07, 2015 07:37 AM
David Barr
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Florida Realty - Sarasota, FL

Why didn't you mention the listing agent?  Maybe the sellers didn't want to deal with you directly.  I know that whatever side of the deal I am on, I get frustrated with 18 people calling me when it can be funneled through the other agent.

Jul 07, 2015 07:55 AM
Dr. Paula McDonald
Beam & Branch Realty - Granbury, TX
Granbury, TX 936-203-0279

Oh yes all can be deal killers.  Always amazed how many of these instances continue to occur over and over.

Jul 07, 2015 08:04 AM
Pat Starnes-Front Gate Realty
Front Gate Real Estate - Brandon, MS
601-991-2900 Office; 601-278-4513 Cell

We've all faced situations like this when one party is uncooperative, and it's so unnecessary. What should have been a happy time for your buyers turned sour, for no apparent good reason. We need to nominate you for a Featured Post as well as Bartender Make It a Double!

Jul 07, 2015 08:07 AM
Holly Weatherwax
Associate Broker, Momentum Realty - Reston, VA
A Great Real Estate Experience

Thanks, everyone, for reading of my frustration. I know we have all been there. I suspect that there was some seller remorse, but the fact is they were relocating and they had to move one way or another. Combine that with the fact that we made our offer and then our market slowed dramatically , you think they would have been pleased.

And yes, I only worked through the listing agent. I would never interfere with that relationship. I am not sure they made it easy on him, either.

Oh well, onward to the next one!

Jul 07, 2015 08:14 AM
Pat Starnes-Front Gate Realty
Front Gate Real Estate - Brandon, MS
601-991-2900 Office; 601-278-4513 Cell

Congratulations!!!

Jul 07, 2015 08:18 AM
Nicole Doty - Gilbert Real Estate Expert
Zion Realty - Gilbert, AZ
Broker/Owner of Zion Realty ZionRealtyAZ.com

We have the same broom swept condition clause here in Arizona. The overwhelming majority of the time sellers adhere to it but there's always that one who doesn't. 

Jul 07, 2015 08:26 AM
Keith Whited
RE/MAX Gateway - Alexandria, VA

Can certianly relate to this post.

Currently going through a transaction where every one seems to be a bit of a 'jerk'. I'm doing my best not to be but unfortunatly I have a seller who has been 'difficult' to say the least. There is a buyer who has a Trip[le Type 'A' personality and the buyer's agent has cursed me out on two different occasions.

I 'think' the issues are behind us and we are scheduled to close in 12 days. Yee Haw!!

Jul 07, 2015 12:34 PM
Praful Thakkar
LAER Realty Partners - Burlington, MA
Metro Boston Homes For Sale

Holly Weatherwax  - and surprisingly, this happens more often in Seller's market!

Isn't that small thing that should matter most when leaving your lovely home in someone's hand?

Jul 07, 2015 01:50 PM
Pamela Seley
West Coast Realty Division - Murrieta, CA
Residential Real Estate Agent serving SW RivCo CA

When expectations are high, easy to be let down. Back to basics: under promise, over deliver. 

Jul 07, 2015 02:26 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

That's an accurate list of things that can make a good deal feel bad.  None are terribly big things, but it's often the little things adding up that leave a bad taste in the mouth.

Jul 07, 2015 08:15 PM
Theresa Akin
CORPUS CHRISTI REALTY GROUP - Corpus Christi, TX

During the option period after inspections, I go over the inspection report of the necessary repairs and write in property to be professionally cleaned for immediate move-in condition. I prefer to do a walk=through and ask for a list of repairs that have been completed according to the agreement and make sure the property has been cleaned.  This is usually a couple (2-3)days ahead of closing. I remind the listing agent of the agreement.

Jul 07, 2015 08:48 PM
Kimo Jarrett
Cyber Properties - Huntington Beach, CA
Pro Lifestyle Solutions

Not every transaction is perfectly completed, some Realtors are affected but there are many who aren't, so, hopefully this will be your last. Sometimes we must be cheerleaders, coaches or preachers.

Jul 08, 2015 12:13 AM
Rebecca Gaujot, Realtor®
Lewisburg, WV
Lewisburg WV, the go to agent for all real estate

I have a home inspection on Friday, and hoping the sellers will cooperate as they say nothing is wrong with property...yeah, how do they know as they haven't had an inspection and the house has been a rental. 

Jul 08, 2015 02:17 AM
Jan Green - Scottsdale, AZ
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

I think we've all experienced this to some degree, which is really sad.  Makes us appreciate those sellers that care enough to leave a home in tip top shape.  At a recent sale, the seller left a bottle of wine for my buyers. They were thrilled!

Jul 08, 2015 03:31 AM
Matt Keough, New Castle County, DE
Patterson-Schwartz Real Estate - Wilmington, DE
Matt Keough Agent New Castle County Delaware

When working with buyers I warn them of issues that can arise, especially if I detect issues throughout the transaction.  I have even had clients that wanted to walk out of settlement and the seller's would be in a pile of ....!  But in the end I sit them down and remind them of all the great things reasons they wanted to purchase the home. 

Again if I detect issues, I will have someone on "stand by" to correct the issues at the house before my clienjts get there.  Sometimes we have to be proactive and assertive.  

At settlement when one side of the table is doom and gloom, our side will ignore the grumps and enjoy the moment.  Kill them with kindness.  Life is too short!  Great post

Jul 16, 2015 05:03 AM
Anonymous
Tod Jenning

I've always thought that selling or buying a home brings out the best or worst in people. It's definitely a test of character. The agents involved carry their own baggage. Just about any Realtor can sell a home, the true test of a Realtor is the closing process. When I first began as an agent I was having trouble with my sellers on a particular closing. A seasoned & experienced agent in my office heard me complaining and stated "give it to me, I'll close it successfully." I'll never forget those words, and I rarely have deals fall apart. Skip the drama during the closing process. Let full disclosure and realistic thinking prevail. As your client's agent, go the extra yard to help!

Dec 03, 2015 02:01 AM
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