Do You See Yourself How Others View You?

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Home Builder with CREST "BACKYARD' HOMES, ON THE LEVEL General & Manufactured Home Contractor, TAG Real Estate Sales & Investments 521400, 1501015, 01795582

 

Well what do you see when you look at me Nicole?

 

Life's a matter of perception, interpretation interaction and gut feeling. Folks can generally instinctively feel the energy when communicating with others be it positive or negative.

 

People either exude confidence when their in they're own comfort zone and knowledgeable, informative and confident about what they are talking about.

 

Or they come across as idiotic, ill informed, ignorant or lacking in self confidence. I'm a firm believer that if you don't know what you're talking about ZIP IT!

 

I for one can always spot a phony, blowhard, arrogant or ignorant person in a casual conversation. Let folks talk enough and they will either show their ignorance or knowledge about any given subject.

 

Fake It Till You Make It? Real Bad Idea! That's the first thing folks will notice. I remember living in Newport Beach during the 70's Arab Oil money influx for several years and observing all the phonies there who were having such a tough time keeping up with the lease payments on their Beemers and their beach front homes trying to vie for that opportunity to swim with the sharks while trying to strike it rich with some kind of scheme.

 

It's changed a lot since then. Now it's the real deal and most the folks who live there can afford it. But in the 70's it was a real dog and pony show and even provided some fun entertainment.

 

Funny how my old '59 Porsche turtle and old beat up surfboards while doning my cut off Levis, old T Shirts and thongs never seemed to be a problem for any of my ventures. But then it's all about confidence and knowing your stuff right Nicole

 

That's why whenever I want something I always seek the advice of multiple sources. Hence, my affiliation with AR.

 

In all the years I've been a member of this forum I've never not been able to get the answers, information or knowledge from someone here and believe me I've asked a lot of questions over the years and still do. 

 

As far as trying to one up others? I'm long past that stage in my life. At 70 years young there's not too much anyone can impress me with.

 

I have no desire to be like someone else or wish I had things that others have. I think as we age we mellow and start to accept things as they are. Envy, jealously, wanting and needing eventually become things of the past.

 

Frankly all I care about doing everyday aside from the quality time I spend with my lovely wife and beautiful family is whether or not there will be any waves.

 

This is a great post and certainly Worthy of a reblog. Big Mahalo!

Being in business for yourself requires confidence. It's essential that entrepreneur's wake up each morning with a spirit and attitude that they will accomplish the tasks and goals they've set for themselves. It takes dedication, perseverance, determination, and tenacity to make it in the world of self-employment. 

Confidence breeds confidence. When you're the best at what you do people know it. Potential clients can feel the difference between a beginner and an expert who is familiar with their craft inside and out. But do you feel the same about yourself as other do? What do you see when you look in the mirror? Do you see a successful person, or are you just pretending to uphold a level of bravado hoping others will buy what you're trying to sell?

I've never been a fan of the phrase, "Fake it until you make it".  I never go against my own principles in business. One of my founding ethics is Honesty. I can't very well stand or sit in front of a potential buyer or seller and tell them what they want to hear merely for the purpose of gaining a sale. If I don't know the answer to a question I will tell you that I don't know. However, I will also tell you that I'll find the answer and get back to you as soon as possible. I've been in the real estate industry for over 17 years and there are still issues and complications that I come across in which I don't have an immediate answer. Contracts, rules, and laws change almost every year. Even though we take as many continuing education classes as possible to keep up with it all, there are some instances and situations that warrant further discussion and research before an educated answer can be given. I'm not afraid to tell someone that I need to get back to them because I'm not 100% certain about a question they have. 

Have you ever caught yourself being fake with peers, clients, friends, or family to maintain a certain level of expectations you have for yourself? I certainly have. However, in a world that's driven by image, and perceived status I believe people are clamoring for more natural and genuine personalities. In my experience, customers and clients would much rather know that a person is being forthright and authentic with them instead of pretending that they have it all figured out. 

I've also fallen in to the trap of "keeping up with the Jones's" a few times in my life. It's exhausting, empty, and miserable. I feel like never before in my lifetime, the phrase "be yourself" is such a foreign concept especially for a small business owner. We are under a never ending barrage of reports and articles telling us to market one way or another to every conceivable age group, different personality type, or distinct consumer. We can get so lost in trying to appeal to such a vast audience we can lose sight of who we are and even what we do.

More importantly, how are we coming across to those we interact with either on-line or in person? Can they tell when we're not really the person we're trying to be? If you're a lion then be a lion. The world needs lions. But it also needs owls, elephants, rabbits, bears, and worker bees. Know which type of person you are and play to your strengths. The more you recognize yourself, and your own strengths and weaknesses the better you'll be at servicing your customers and clients. Be true to who you are each day. The right clients will find you and when they do, you'll both get the most benefit out of the experience and relationship. 

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Comments (6)

Jan Sohlman
RE/MAX Integrity - Eugene, OR
RE/MAX Integrity

Mahalo to you as well.

I think that you work hard at real estate and you do your best. Then people will like you and refer you. I do the buffini method. That helps me stay in touch. All the best to you in your career!

Jul 28, 2015 04:22 AM
Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent

I suspect most folks tell their opinions of me behind my back, therefore I have little idea of how they view me.  I do have a kind of gausian view of myself, but I don't worry about it much!

Jul 28, 2015 10:54 AM
John DL Arendsen
CREST "BACKYARD' HOMES, ON THE LEVEL General & Manufactured Home Contractor, TAG Real Estate Sales & Investments - Leucadia, CA
Crest Backyard Homes "ADU" dealer & Contractor

Myrl Jeffcoat Ha! At this point in life if we're still worrying about what folks think about us we're hurtin for certin. Want a great read? Log onto Amazon and buy an old book called "What you think of me is none of my business" by Terry Cole Whittaker. I read it in the 70's and still refer back to it every so often. 

Jul 28, 2015 12:14 PM
John DL Arendsen
CREST "BACKYARD' HOMES, ON THE LEVEL General & Manufactured Home Contractor, TAG Real Estate Sales & Investments - Leucadia, CA
Crest Backyard Homes "ADU" dealer & Contractor

Jan Sohlman Do enlighten me on the "BUFFINI METHOD"

Jul 28, 2015 12:15 PM
Troy Erickson AZ Realtor (602) 295-6807
Good Company Real Estate - Chandler, AZ
Your Chandler, Ahwatukee, and East Valley Realtor

John - You are right about aging. I have certainly mellowed, and my wants and needs are not at all what they were as a youngster. 

Jul 29, 2015 04:29 AM
John DL Arendsen
CREST "BACKYARD' HOMES, ON THE LEVEL General & Manufactured Home Contractor, TAG Real Estate Sales & Investments - Leucadia, CA
Crest Backyard Homes "ADU" dealer & Contractor

Troy Erickson Funny how that happens my friend. I used to remember when driving a Porsche, Vette or Ferrari was so important to me. Now I'd just like to find the perfect surf van. LOL!

Jul 29, 2015 07:30 AM

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