Who Should You Not Have As Your Best Friend?

Real Estate Agent with Keller Williams Realty 0575737

Friendship is an interesting chapter in our relationships development. Acquaintances, clients, coworkers, even lifelong partners or spouses, CAN have as a basis various degrees and depths of friendship. We can have pseudo friends, quasi friends, loosely attached friends, long distance or even virtual friends. Friends that stand the test of time of loyalty, commitment, trustworthiness earn that "true friend" status. Then we have the BFFs, and I do believe we can have "multiple" Best Friends even if the word kind of implies BEST meaning the top of the mountain, only one. They say in marriage ideally you will marry your BEST friend and it certainly is a rock solid foundation for trying to have that institution LAST.

BUT "who" should NOT be your Best Friend???

Owl Best FriendsI won't even get into the romance topic of SOULMATE and if there is only ONE of them on the planet of seven billion people or not. Hard to believe there is only ONE of them with that many people, and if they are in China and you never visit China how would you meet them? But back to the question of WHO should not be your best friend?

The answer is YOURSELF.

Now you may think you need to like yourself, be good with yourself in your alone times, ONLY YOU know your entire life journey, and what REALLY goes on inside your head, your public and private life.

BUT the reason you need an OUTSIDE you best friend or best friends is you are not the perfect mirror to tell you how to be better. PEOPLE SEE YOU, you looking in the mirror and thinking about yourself is an errored judgment. If you spent 90% of your time enjoying your own company, people will call you a cat lady. Life is meant to be mixed up with others, forcing yourself MUCH of your life to mingle, whether you like to mingle or not. GET OUT there every day, hate it or not, FIND that best friend or friends and talk to them regularly. You will know them when you find them. AND IT IS NOT YOU.


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Mike Rock
Complete Design - Granite Bay, CA
Granite Bay Luxury New Construction...For Less

it kind of reminded me of a wc fields saying. i wouldnt want to be a member of a club, who would have me as a  member. :)

Aug 02, 2015 06:36 AM #1
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Gary- I was lucky enough to marry one!  As we get older, I think the number of true friends begins to shrink while we may have a growing number of acquaintances or quasi-friends.  

Aug 02, 2015 06:37 AM #2
Sybil Campbell
Long and Foster REALTORS® 5234 Monticello Ave Williamsburg, Virginia - Williamsburg, VA
REALTOR® ABR, SFR, SRES Williamsburg, Virginia

Gary Woltal,  What a unique perspective as to why we need others to help us be a better person.

Aug 02, 2015 06:41 AM #3
1~Judi Barrett
Integrity Real Estate Services 118 SE AVE N, Idabel, OK 74745 - Idabel, OK
BS Ed, Integrity Real Estate Services -IDABEL OK

Don and I are best friends, soulmates, true friends that care for each other beyond anything I've ever experienced any where other than God.  Love the post.. you covered all of the angles.  

Aug 02, 2015 07:15 AM #4
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate - St. George, UT
So Utah Residential, Referral & Relocation REALTOR

My husband is a true friend and tells me like it is Gary. It is nice to have an honest person in my presence! Great post today.

Aug 02, 2015 07:27 AM #5
Yolanda Cordova-Gilbert
Richmond, TX


 Had to read this when I saw the title and we do have so many kinds of friends, and you are correct when we you say we should not be our best friend I already know what I think what I like I like to share my thoughts with others and vice versa and my husband definetly makes me a better person!

Aug 02, 2015 08:07 AM #6
Rob Thomas
Prestige Homes of The Tri Cities, Inc. CALL....423-341-6954 - Bristol, TN
Bristol TN-VA & Tri Cities Agent, ABR, GRI, e-Pro

Great blog on relationships and friendships.  If your looking at the man in the mirror for advice... you're looking in the wrong place!

Aug 02, 2015 08:34 AM #7
Sharon Lee
Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance - Jonesborough, TN
Retired and loving life

Well Gary-I spend 90% of my time with myself and I have a cat so does that make me a crazy cat lady. I also talk to myself and enjoy my solitude. I can enjoy friends too. Also while I spend 90% of my time by myself I rarely get lonely. I often am lonely with people.  On the topic of being my best friend. I don't think I am my best friend. I know myself well but you can know yourself and not be your own best friend.

Aug 02, 2015 10:01 AM #8
William Feela
Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

Gary...we need an outside person to give us the balance we need when we get stupid.

Aug 02, 2015 03:11 PM #9
Eileen Hsu
Douglas Elliman Real Estate - Manhattan, NY

This is a cute post, although I really enjoy talking to myself. I agree that it is good to have some good friends, inner cirlce sort of speak to keep you grounded and balanced.

Aug 03, 2015 05:39 AM #10
Debbie Reynolds, C21 Platinum Properties
Platinum Properties- (931)771-9070 - Clarksville, TN
The Dedicated Clarksville TN Realtor-(931)320-6730

I am a believer that we need to like ourselves. If we don't how can we expect others to like us. People that have confidence attract other people like a magnet. Not cocky, bully type people mind you, but strong personalities that exude their strengths.

Aug 04, 2015 12:16 AM #11
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