If I Get Struck By A Car Showing Houses Please Take Me To The ER & Not The Dentist.

Real Estate Agent with RE/MAX Compass, formerly RE/MAX WHP 0524642

When buying or selling a home it's very easy to get advice from what seems like hundreds of  different people. Insight versus real estate advice and what you do with that information matters. Sometimes people don't feel like they are providing valuable advice unless it is somehow show-stopping, dramatic or negative. I once had a father (who lived in another state) tell my buyer (his daughter) not to buy a home because Pine Trees were known to be weak and fall on houses. She was so frighted by what her dad said she didn't move forward with the purchase. The decision to "back out" cost her about $1,700.00. Several months later after conducting research and understanding the Houston area she found out that her dad's advice was unfounded and untrue. She eventually purchased a home surrounded by flexible pine trees that have yet to snap and crush her home. These trees are everywhere throughout the region.

The fact of the matter is that everyone loves to give advice. If you've seen a discussion on Facebook or on any other social media site you've seen exactly what I'm talking about. Every time there's a legal conversation it happens. Plumbers, school teachers and pizza delivery drivers almost immediately become immediate lawyers. They transformation is uncanny.  If it's about football it's actually worse. Everyone is a apparently a former NFL player, coach or sports agents. It's amusing. Very. Don't get me started about Mars and Taxes and divorces. Oh brother. 

If you get advice from an attorney I would suggest it's from a real estate attorney that isn't also chasing ambulances and allegedly an expert in 9 other aspects of law. Just because someone is a lawyer it doesn't make them an expert on "a day in the life of" when it comes to real estate. They took some classes, yes, but if they're not in the trenches (often) then I'd be reluctant to "pay them" for advice. But that's me. If I'm having a heart attack don't send me to a chiropractor just because he's a "doctor." If my leg is broken I'm avoiding the dentist. You get the idea. You don't order enchiladas at Denny's do you? Well, that may have been a bad analogy. Everyone is different. 

Relatives & friends can be especially challenging. Family wants to help. But just because a friend or relative has bought and sold 8 homes in their life it doesn't make them the major advice source for a real estate transaction. When we're in trouble or have serious concerns we all want and need help. I've been there. It's natural to reach out and get answers from anyone and everyone. You just have to compartmentalize where you're getting the advice and you have to do your best to not overwhelm yourself with what a dozen different people are saying. If you can't get enough educated answers from your real estate professional then odds are you're teaming up with the wrong Realtor, lender or Home Inspector. 


Lastly, be careful about getting advice from a Realtor that isn't your own. Sometimes I get calls from my own sellers who have spoken to a Realtor who lives 9 states away. It doesn't matter if it's a neighboring state. Our contracts are not nationally written. Our MLS rules and office policies vary. Each state has a way business is done. For example, in Texas we have option periods. In Texas we close with Escrow officers - and not attorneys. In Texas we are better, bigger and more beautiful (just making sure you're still reading.) So you know, it is unethical for any Realtor to chime in on a transaction that isn't there own. It isn't just frowned upon in our industry, it's grounds for an ethics violation. 

You get the idea. Do your research, but don't be afraid to hold your professional accountable for the right answers. I've always said, I'll answer a thousand questions and I'm the most patient person in the world, especially when the customer is polite and courteous. 


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Greg Nino
, Houston area Realtor®.
Helping residential buyers, sellers and tenants 7 days a week.
Available @ 832-298-8555 

RE/MAX Compass (Formerly RE/MAX WHP)





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Troy Erickson AZ Realtor (602) 295-6807
Good Company Real Estate www.ChandlerRealEstate.weebly.com - Chandler, AZ
Your Chandler, Ahwatukee, and East Valley Realtor

Greg - More often than not, especially when dealing with first time home buyers, you as an agent will be dealing with questions and advice they are getting from other people. That's just part of what comes with the territory.

I recently was working with a home seller who had a relative who was an agent in Philadelphia. Well, she was selling her home here in Arizona, and like you said, every state is different. Every time I provided her with information, she had to confirm it with her relative. Fortunately her relative understood that real estate is different in every state, and oftentimes deferred to me because it wasn't how they did things in Philadelphia, but he didn't know how things were done in Arizona. 

Aug 20, 2015 05:19 AM #1
Carla Muss-Jacobs, RETIRED
RETIRED / State License is Inactive - Portland, OR

I agree Greg, but also the advice from the lawyer can also be taken with a grain of salt.  I'm experiencing a lawyer who I retained to assist with a matter and he's only looking at for himself.  I have to remain calm, cool and collected because if he's not going to actually work in my best interests, he will have a bar complaint filed against him . . . and I told him that.  The thing with "experts" is that one needs to be careful.  I know a thing or two about lawyers, having been a licensed paralegal/legal assistant.  But they can railroad someone unsuspecting.  Same with people using the services of a real estate agent . . . they don't know what they don't know.  You are a wonderful agent.  Trustworthy and knowledgeable.  The attorney that I have in my cross-hairs has not provided me with an accounting . . . although I've requested one three times!  Without an accounting, how do I know the $2,000 fees are accurate? I suspect he's padding the bill, and he thinks I'm stupid.  He'll get nothing but a bar complaint if he's not careful.  So even WITH the licensed experts, people have to be on their guard these days.  I'm not sure what there is in the air, but people are becoming more and more dishonest.  Sorry for the long comment.  

Aug 20, 2015 07:16 AM #2
Hella M. Rothwell, Broker/Realtor®
Carmel by the Sea, CA
Rothwell Realty Inc. CA#01968433 Carmel-by-the-Sea

Incredible how many people ask for advice but they don't want to commit. I try to make them keep going forward and, if they can't do that, I need to back away.

Aug 20, 2015 09:36 AM #3
Raymond Denton
Homesmart / Evergreen Realty - Irvine, CA
Shady Canyon Specialist

That was very well written, Greg.  I really liked it.

Aug 20, 2015 09:38 AM #4
Ed Silva
RE/MAX Professionals, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

It is not unusual for a buyer to be getting advice from all different areas.  People that bought a house 30 years ago are suddenly the experts, and want to let the buyer know they are.

Aug 20, 2015 10:33 AM #5
Toronto, ON

Greg, to add to your comment about using real estate lawyer, it can also be important to make sure that the real estate lawyer specializes or is very familiar with the type of property involved in the transaction.  For example, a cottage in cottage country would have many legal issues that a real estate lawyer who only focuses on big city (e.g. Toronto) freehouse houses.  Similary, a lawyer who focuses only on freehold houses may not be familiar with issues relating to condominiums.  Commercial leases is another specialty.

Aug 20, 2015 11:25 AM #6
Jerry Newman
Brown Realty, 210-789-4216,www.JeremiahNewman.com - San Antonio, TX
Texas REALTOR, San Antonio Military Relocation

Greg, I hear YOU! I have lost clients, who have taken advice from others, be it other agents, friends, or family members. Most of these folks are not up to current market trends, policies, and procedures when it comes to dealing with real estate. Having a knowledgeable real estate professional is worth its weight in GOLD. IMO.

Aug 23, 2015 04:54 AM #7
Jeanne Gregory
RE/MAX Southwest - Sugar Land, TX
The most important home I sell is YOURS!

Great post.  And Texas is bigger and more beautiful.  I read to the end.

Aug 23, 2015 05:03 AM #8
Vera Gonzalez
RE/MAX Suburban, Inc. - Sterling Heights, MI
Gonzo For Real Estate

Love this Greg Nino! It is the most frustrating thing to deal with the peanut gallery especially when they have no idea. 

Aug 23, 2015 05:12 AM #9
Pamela Seley
West Coast Realty Division - Murrieta, CA
Residential Real Estate Agent serving SW RivCo CA

Glad to hear your buyer overcame her unfounded fear and finally bought a home. I agree, attorneys do not know everything. Over the years, I've heard directly and from others advice from attorneys that was plain wrong. I'm dealing with an issue now where an attorney said someone didn't have to do something, but according to the statute they do need to do it. We need to verify everything these days, not blindly trust someone in positions of authority. 

Aug 23, 2015 05:12 AM #10
Praful Thakkar
LAER Realty Partners - Andover, MA
Andover, MA: Andover Luxury Homes For Sale

Greg Nino I have seen friends who has helped buyers lose the homes just because....(sometimes we know the right reasons!)

And most important --- happens a lot, even when we don't like it...

"Lastly, be careful about getting advice from a Realtor that isn't your own"

Aug 23, 2015 02:23 PM #12
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