When buying or selling a home it's very easy to get advice from what seems like hundreds of different people. Insight versus real estate advice and what you do with that information matters. Sometimes people don't feel like they are providing valuable advice unless it is somehow show-stopping, dramatic or negative. I once had a father (who lived in another state) tell my buyer (his daughter) not to buy a home because Pine Trees were known to be weak and fall on houses. She was so frighted by what her dad said she didn't move forward with the purchase. The decision to "back out" cost her about $1,700.00. Several months later after conducting research and understanding the Houston area she found out that her dad's advice was unfounded and untrue. She eventually purchased a home surrounded by flexible pine trees that have yet to snap and crush her home. These trees are everywhere throughout the region.
The fact of the matter is that everyone loves to give advice. If you've seen a discussion on Facebook or on any other social media site you've seen exactly what I'm talking about. Every time there's a legal conversation it happens. Plumbers, school teachers and pizza delivery drivers almost immediately become immediate lawyers. They transformation is uncanny. If it's about football it's actually worse. Everyone is a apparently a former NFL player, coach or sports agents. It's amusing. Very. Don't get me started about Mars and Taxes and divorces. Oh brother.
If you get advice from an attorney I would suggest it's from a real estate attorney that isn't also chasing ambulances and allegedly an expert in 9 other aspects of law. Just because someone is a lawyer it doesn't make them an expert on "a day in the life of" when it comes to real estate. They took some classes, yes, but if they're not in the trenches (often) then I'd be reluctant to "pay them" for advice. But that's me. If I'm having a heart attack don't send me to a chiropractor just because he's a "doctor." If my leg is broken I'm avoiding the dentist. You get the idea. You don't order enchiladas at Denny's do you? Well, that may have been a bad analogy. Everyone is different.
Relatives & friends can be especially challenging. Family wants to help. But just because a friend or relative has bought and sold 8 homes in their life it doesn't make them the major advice source for a real estate transaction. When we're in trouble or have serious concerns we all want and need help. I've been there. It's natural to reach out and get answers from anyone and everyone. You just have to compartmentalize where you're getting the advice and you have to do your best to not overwhelm yourself with what a dozen different people are saying. If you can't get enough educated answers from your real estate professional then odds are you're teaming up with the wrong Realtor, lender or Home Inspector.
Lastly, be careful about getting advice from a Realtor that isn't your own. Sometimes I get calls from my own sellers who have spoken to a Realtor who lives 9 states away. It doesn't matter if it's a neighboring state. Our contracts are not nationally written. Our MLS rules and office policies vary. Each state has a way business is done. For example, in Texas we have option periods. In Texas we close with Escrow officers - and not attorneys. In Texas we are better, bigger and more beautiful (just making sure you're still reading.) So you know, it is unethical for any Realtor to chime in on a transaction that isn't there own. It isn't just frowned upon in our industry, it's grounds for an ethics violation.
You get the idea. Do your research, but don't be afraid to hold your professional accountable for the right answers. I've always said, I'll answer a thousand questions and I'm the most patient person in the world, especially when the customer is polite and courteous.