Top 3 Blogging Tips on ActiveRain

Real Estate Agent with Liberty Homes RS-#62825

LegacySeeing as this is a post on the emotional aspect while blogging, please note that these are things I learned in the beginning of my blogging life on ActiveRain. It helped me to realize that just because people commented on my post, I had to step in the other person’s shoes so I could see the possibilities of where the person was coming from.

I once had a post (a whole page long post) about me and why I kicked their posts out of the group I created, “Positive Attitude for the Weary Soul” (PAWS for short). I didn’t realize how negative and mean some could be until it happened to me. I even had members get mad because I didn’t pick their post to be featured in the group, or even get this…because their post didn’t win in one of the contests I hosted.

Bottom line, is this isn’t all about me….or you. It’s about getting our information out to the consumer. We can all write about the same topic but bottom line….the information coming from each of us will (guaranteed) be different and maybe even better than the next person.

So, here’s my Top 3 Blogging Tips (Negative or Positive…you make that choice)

  1. Don’t Assume What the Blogger is “Thinking”. If you are only looking at the scenario with YOUR thinking instead of stepping in the other person’s shoes and finding out their side to the story, then THIS is the ultimate ASSUMPTION in any ‘conversation’. PICK UP THE PHONE AND TALK TO THE PERSON. You may find that your thinking (assumptions) had the person all wrong!  

  2. Don’t Take it Personal When a Commenter Gives Constructive Criticism. How do you even know if the Commenter is GIVING any criticism at all? Wow! Does this all lead back to ASSUMING? Give the benefit of the doubt before ‘striking back’ and making a fool of yourself with your bantering and online slaps. IT REALLY ISN’T ALL ABOUT YOU OR ME. We’re so vain, we probably think this song is about you. LOL

  3. Be Kind and Considerate. We are being straight forward in all our online writing as in real life face to face.. Be it writing a post or commenting on another’s, we are kind and considerate because after all, we are here to write about our real estate industry knowledge and even about our local area.. Ranting in a post or in a comment shows your true colors. BOTTOM LINE IS OUR ONLINE WRITING IS ONLINE FOREVER! Pause and wait until your mind has let go of the ‘stinking thinking’ mentality. The scenario changes!

    We leave our Legacy Behind with every written word we write online. We are born and we pass away, but it’s what we do in between those 2 life events is what REALLY matters.



    When in doubt…..

    Pick up the phone….

    Be the better person.

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Celeste "Sally" Cheeseman  is a Realtor-Associate® and Certified Residential Specialist (CRS) with Century 21 Liberty Homes in Mililani, Hawaii. With a sharp understanding that a listening ear is the key to a client's needs  she serves the island of Oahu (Honolulu County) and all Hawaii Military Relocations, Hawaii Retirees, Hawaii Job Transfers and Hawaii Residents, Home Buyers and Sellers.


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Frank Castaldini
Compass - San Francisco, CA
Realtor - Homes for Sale in San Francisco

I often refrain from voicing what I'm really thinking since I've been bitten by some who take comments too personally and appear to take them as criticism rather than possible suggestions. Also, I just don't have the time to waste. Unless, I'm asked, I've learned to keep it to myself.

Sep 06, 2015 02:41 AM #36
Fred Griffin Tallahassee Real Estate
Fred Griffin Real Estate - Tallahassee, FL
Licensed Florida Real Estate Broker

     Negative comments...  read them carefully... can you learn from them? 

    Or, are they just "Trolls", or envious people, or ignorant people. 

    Take a moment to see who they are, and where they are coming from!

Sep 06, 2015 01:18 PM #37
Troy Erickson AZ Realtor (602) 295-6807
Good Company Real Estate - Chandler, AZ
Your Chandler, Ahwatukee, and East Valley Realtor

Sally - Great advice for all of us who play in the sand here at AR. We are all different, but we can still get along.

Sep 06, 2015 02:10 PM #38
Michael J. Perry
KW Elite - Lancaster, PA
Lancaster, PA Relo Specialist

great reminder ! I've seen a few fights break out fueled by comments !

Sep 07, 2015 12:07 AM #39
Janice Zaltman
United Realty Group - Boca Raton, FL
South Florida Residential Real Estate

Thank you, Celeste,  which leads to the question, Can we really be ourselves in public? Everyone has opinions, perhaps it is the way they are conveyed. No one wants to be slapped down for giving their point of view. Bravo for asking to receive a phone call instead of a rant online. The same goes for texting. Too much can get lost in the translation from mouth to paper, computer.or cellphone.  Best to work out things, when possible, through conversation.

Sep 07, 2015 01:15 AM #40
Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman
Liberty Homes - Mililani, HI

Seems that most of us are thinking along the same lines here...when it comes to negative/ positive commenting /writing.
Why risk ones reputation to just get in the last word and try and beat someone down.
Mahalo for taking the time to read and engage in the conversation!

Sep 07, 2015 08:30 AM #41
Noah Seidenberg
Coldwell Banker - Evanston, IL
Chicagoland and Suburbs (800) 858-7917

Brilliant Sally, I love your shadow photos to. Congratulations on the feature too. I really learned something here. look at what you write through the reader eyes.

Sep 07, 2015 09:19 AM #42
Chris Mamone
Keller Mortgage - Tacoma, WA
Senior Loan Officer

Good post! We live in a world of self entitled people who think they can blast you if you write something they disagree with or not what they would. Be nice, be respectful, and don't say anything if you have nothing nice to say. and yes pick up the phone and call them if you have an issue!

Sep 07, 2015 02:20 PM #43
Sybil Campbell
Fernandina Beach, FL
Referral Agent Amelia Island Florida

Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman,  Thank you for sharing your thoughts on blogging and comments.  It is important to try to look at the other person's perspective.

Sep 08, 2015 12:29 AM #44
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
New Hampshire Home Stager

I'm here from Lenn's glad she shared it. Excellent advice Sally! Excellent advice for all bloggers!

Sep 08, 2015 04:09 AM #45
Darren Copeland
Leader One Financial - Lee's Summit, MO
Darren Copeland

We have to be very careful with reading blogs and stuff on the internet; sometimes we can't see the nuances of language when it's written as opposed to tone and body language in conversations.

Sep 08, 2015 06:03 AM #46
Mery Fernandez Empire Network Realty Luxury Brokerage
Empire Network Realty INC. - Orlando, FL
The Rise of An Empire, Let's Build Yours!

Hello and congratulations on your featured blog post! Well done and hope to see you have many more featured post.

Sep 11, 2015 12:31 AM #47
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman 

I really liked this post but somehow missed it until I saw Lenn's reblog. I especially think the point about not making assumptions is so important - in our written as well as verbal communications, when we meet people, and so on. It's probably a bit of human nature to do this, and it becomes a habit. Not always easy to avoid.

The reminder to not make assumptions is a good one and can be made over and over.


Sep 15, 2015 09:51 AM #48
Dana Hollish Hill
Hollish Hill Group, JPAR Metro Living - Bethesda, MD
REALTOR and Productivity Coach

Celeste - Nice post. I think you're right about this being a legacy that we leave behind. 

Sep 21, 2015 04:50 AM #49
Maureen Fukumoto
Help-U-Sell Realty Pro - Mililani, HI

All good points Sally.  I hope you had a great vacation!

Oct 14, 2015 03:37 PM #50
Linda D. Pufford
Stage with Divine Style - Home Staging - Novato, CA
ASPM, Marin/Sonoma Home Stager

Hi Sally,

Great post!  It took me a very long time to realize "I don't have to be right all the time" especially when someone else is insisting they are...   It's OK to let go of being right and save a relationship.  I just let them vent and in the long run I have way more peace!

Oct 23, 2015 06:43 AM #51
Inna Ivchenko
Barcode Properties - Encino, CA
Realtor® • Green • GRI • HAFA • PSC Calabasas CA

Why would someone being upset about a comment? if it is a spam~ report and delete, if is a suggestion, take it to a consideration, or even better, reach out, you might learn  a lot from someone who probably wants to help you to become a better blogger. 

Jan 09, 2016 04:20 PM #52
Donna Foerster
HomeSmart Realty Group - Parker, CO
Metro Denver Real Estate Assistant

Sally, I'm on ActiveRain to better my business and my life, when appropriate. I learn a lot and I do my best to share to help others. 

I don't understand the folks that feel they need to make negative comments. What purpose does that serve?

Aug 27, 2016 03:32 AM #53
Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman
Liberty Homes - Mililani, HI

Wow...this is still going on.

Thanks all. Yup! Bottom line...we're here to market ourselves, our areas and give the reader a little something about me so they can get a little grasp of the person they're entrusting to buy/sell their home!

No purpose to be negative...except to make people run away HA!

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