I'm happy with this moment in time, are you?

By
Real Estate Broker/Owner with 406-270-3667, kat@thehousekat.com, Broker, eXp Realty RRE-BRO-LIC-75443

I read something a friend wrote this morning on Facebook. She wrote, "I love my life!!!!" with lots of exclamation points. You could just hear her energy come off that screen. I immediately thought, "Yes, I love my life too!" and then I thought of all the people I know who are waiting to be happy with their life "until." They won't be happy until they find the right partner, or lose the weight, or gain it. They will only be happy if (and only if) they had more hair or a flatter stomach. They would be happy if they had more money or a better job or nicer car or house or more clothes. They would be happy if, and not until.... 

 

I had a boss once who used to say, "It is what it is" and I hated that term because to me it sounded defeatist. We didn't get approved for a project but "oh well, it is what it is" instead of perhaps going back and readdressing issues and trying again. But now that I think about it, "it is what it is" could also mean, "now is now." We all are where we are at this specific point in time as a result of choices we have made and events we have experienced and emotions we have felt. We have made our own "now" and there is almost always something to be happy about. "Now is now" or "it is what it is" could mean we should embrace our moments, all of them. For example...

 

Right now I am hot and sweaty and achy and tired. I have a ton of work to do today and I'm feeling overwhelmed with the problems I'm going to have to resolve. My income hasn't been what I wanted it to be in the last few months, so I'm a little stressed about that. I've been dealing with my parents estate which has at times made me sad and frustrated. My home computer and network are giving me trouble, my home office needs some organization, people I need to call me back aren't calling me back, and I'm at my wits end about some of these things. BUT...... guess what!!!

 

I'm happy! Because of all that is not a reason to be miserable. In fact, when I really think about all those things I just listed, here's my truth.

 

I am hot and sweaty and achy and tired. Do you know how wonderful this is? I am a 55 year old woman who just ran and power walked four miles up and down hills on a brisk morning without too much huffing and puffing. And I did this only a few years after I broke my ankle. And I feel strong. My legs feel like iron and I bet I could have done double. I am truly happy that I'm still able to run and walk and do physical things. Yee ha.

 

I have a ton of work to do today. What a blessing for a self-employed independent contractor to be able to say she has a ton of work!  I am BUSY. That makes me so happy because it means that even though income has been a bit slow recently, it's coming. And I need to focus on the end result and stay busy. This is great news for me and makes me smile.

 

My computer and network are giving me trouble. I just spent about 15 minutes trying to get online. I had to test all my connections, and make sure I didn't accidentally hit the "wifi" button on my computer, and I unplugged and plugged things in and out, and I fixed it. And I'm thrilled about that because I have absorbed so much knowledge about computers, both hardware and software, that I'm able to fix things. I'm jokingly called the house computer tech. I love that stuff. I've written and tested programs in the past, and learned every new software package I could get my hands on. Learning something new or figuring something out actually makes me happy. Yeeha.

 

People aren't calling me back and I'm frustrated. These are all temporary problems. Eventually I'll get the answers I need and in the interim, I'll work on other projects and by the end of the day, I'll have checked off a bunch of stuff and that will make me even happier.

 

I'm dealing with my parents estate. Of course I am not happy that my parents are no longer here, but I am happy I knew them and had them in my life. I'm happy they are with each other again right now. And I am happy I am organized and knowledgeable enough to be able to take care of their things in a way they would have approved of. Some of the things we found after their deaths have been simply wonderful -- photos of us as children, journal entries, records of our family camping trips. Those findings brought me joy. I am also learning a lot about what the challenges can be after the death of a parent, lessons that could help me be even more empathetic and kind when dealing with my clients.

 

Wherever we are in our lives right now is where we are. We will never get this day or hour or even this second back. So making a personal decision to find something to be happy about can make such a difference in how our day goes, and quite frankly, how our life goes. 

 

I've decided that I am happy with this moment in time.  Are you?

 

 

 

Posted by

Licensed Broker, CBR®

 

eXp Realty LLC

P.O. Box 10458

Kalispell, MT 59904

 

email: kat@thehousekat.com

www.thehousekat.com

 

406-270-3667 (MT)

 

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Comments (50)

Frank Castaldini
Compass - San Francisco, CA
Realtor - Homes for Sale in San Francisco

Thanks for the post.  It's all in how we see what is before us.  Attitude is a choice.  You obviously get that.

Oct 01, 2015 03:54 PM
Kat Palmiotti

Frank - Absolutely, attitude is a choice. I choose the positive.

Oct 01, 2015 08:33 PM
Gita Bantwal
RE/MAX Centre Realtors - Warwick, PA
REALTOR,ABR,CRS,SRES,GRI - Bucks County & Philadel

Kat, Thank you for the nice post. I love your positive attitude.

Oct 01, 2015 09:15 PM
Kat Palmiotti

Thank you Gita!

Oct 03, 2015 04:35 AM
Jill Sackler
Charles Rutenberg Realty Inc. 516-575-7500 - Long Beach, NY
LI South Shore Real Estate - Broker Associate

I like the way you went back to each of your initial statements and explained them. It was so much more believable than just throwing out common platitudes.

Oct 01, 2015 10:17 PM
Kat Palmiotti

Thanks! I wanted to show there are positives to the negatives. At least for me!

Oct 03, 2015 04:35 AM
Andrew Mooers | 207.532.6573
MOOERS REALTY - Houlton, ME
Northern Maine Real Estate-Aroostook County Broker

Seasons, change, how you deal with what is unfolding. It is up to all of us to use joy we have built inside to get through, rise above Kat Palmiotti !

Oct 01, 2015 10:23 PM
Kat Palmiotti

How we deal with everthing in our lives is what makes us us. :-)

Oct 03, 2015 04:36 AM
Richard Robibero, e-Pro, ABR, SRS
Panorama R.E. Limited - Toronto, ON
Selling Your Home as if it were My Own!

I am extremely happy and yet annoyed with a couple of deals that didn't go my way. I look at what could have been done and apply it going forward.

I'm not one to change a status to "I am so happy with my life right now!!!!" but the truth is...

 

... I am!  :)

Oct 01, 2015 11:13 PM
Kat Palmiotti

I'm glad you are happy even with some annoying deals that didn't go well.  That made me smile!

Oct 03, 2015 04:36 AM
John Marshall - FORE!
LoKation Real Estate - Cherry Hills Village, CO
Specializing in Golf Course Properties

Kat, it is definitely a mindset to "be happy" 23 years ago I decided that every morning when I get out of bed I am going to "Make Someones Day Today" and this makes me happy, it gets me excited about the day, because I never know who it is going to be.

My wife told me years ago that I was having too much fun at my job, I said, no matter the work I am going to have fun, it is not the work, but an attitude, a mindset I bring with me.

Good for you for having the right mindset. 

Oct 01, 2015 11:31 PM
Kat Palmiotti

That's a great idea, to make someone's day every day. Good for you also!

Oct 03, 2015 04:37 AM
Richard Bazinet /MBA, CRS, ABR
West USA Realty - Scottsdale, AZ
Phoenix Scottsdale. Sellers, Buyers & Relocations

Kat, you only live once. be happy, make the best of it. Have a sense of humor but never take yourself too seriously. Be grateful, and enjoy life and its pleasures. Just don't abuse. 

Oct 01, 2015 11:54 PM
Kat Palmiotti

Yes, I think a sense of humor is required!

Oct 03, 2015 04:37 AM
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Richfuscious say...happy like nose on face. When not smelling, still working

Oct 01, 2015 11:59 PM
Kat Palmiotti

Haha, thanks Richfuscious!

Oct 03, 2015 04:37 AM
Linda D. Pufford
Stage with Divine Style - Home Staging - Novato, CA
ASPM, Marin/Sonoma Home Stager
What a great post... It made my day! This is something I need to read every morning I wake up!!! We really do have so much to be thankful for and life could certainly be a lot worse then it is! Refreshing way to start each day... Thank you, I love my life too!
Oct 02, 2015 12:05 AM
Kat Palmiotti

And your smile beams out that news!  Thank you!

Oct 03, 2015 04:38 AM
Sam Shueh
(408) 425-1601 - San Jose, CA
mba, cdpe, reopro, pe

You mean your husband does not fix your computer? I only jogged 3200 steps so that is embarrasing .....  

I lived across the river from you in Peekskill in a 1904 Dutch Colonial with bath tub that has crawl feet-no shower....many years ago....

Have a restful weekend,

Sam Shueh

Oct 02, 2015 04:40 AM
Kat Palmiotti

Peekskill is an interesting place - homes at both ends of the spectrum and quite a few older homes.  


How far does 3200 steps get you?  (I have no idea!)

Oct 03, 2015 04:39 AM
Olga Simoncelli
Veritas Prime, LLC dba Veritas Prime Real Estate - New Fairfield, CT
CONSULTANT, Real Estate Services & Risk Management

Kat - I love your attitude! We have to learn that it's the journey we should appreciate and not some unattainable goal.

Oct 02, 2015 05:00 AM
Kat Palmiotti

That's exactly it, Olga!

Oct 03, 2015 04:39 AM
Elizabeth Weintraub Sacramento Realtor Top 1%
RE/MAX Gold - Sacramento, CA
Put 40 years of experience to work for you

I think we are all about as happy as we give ourselves permission to be. I find that sometimes I hear myself saying, "when I retire, I'm going to . . . " and lately I've just been going ahead and doing those things because why wait for something that might never happen? Grab that moment and do it is my motto.

Oct 02, 2015 08:28 AM
Kat Palmiotti

Absolutely, I love that!  Grab the moment, don't wait (if at all possible)!

Oct 03, 2015 04:40 AM
Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

Thanks for your inspiration.

It is so easy to be unhappy when all we need is a change of attitude. I need to get out and do some power walking myself.

Oct 02, 2015 11:28 AM
Kat Palmiotti

I kept postponing my exercise today but am glad I finally did it.

Oct 03, 2015 04:41 AM
Roger D. Mucci
Shaken...with a Twist 216.633.2092 - Euclid, OH
Lets shake things up at your home today!

Such a wonderful inspirational post and so well written Kat.....to answer your question, yes, I am happy at this moment in time for many, many reasons.

Oct 02, 2015 11:37 AM
Kat Palmiotti

Roger - Yay!  I'm happy to hear that.

Oct 03, 2015 04:41 AM
Fred Griffin Florida Real Estate
Fred Griffin Real Estate - Tallahassee, FL
Licensed Florida Real Estate Broker

    Yesterday is gone.  Tomorrow may never come.  Enjoy NOW, make the best of your life, "count your many blessings". 

     Thanks for the inspirational post, Kat!

Oct 02, 2015 01:07 PM
Kat Palmiotti

Yes, that's right, NOW is what we know we have. We don't know if we're going to get tomorrow. Why wait?

Oct 03, 2015 04:42 AM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667, kat@thehousekat.com, Broker, eXp Realty - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

Note to everyone who took the time to respond to this post. I did respond to everyone individually but it appears some of my comments disappeared.  I'm not sure where they went, but please know I read all of you comments - and I did a lot of smiling while reading them!

Oct 03, 2015 04:47 AM
DEANNA C. SMITH CERTIFIED MOBILE NOTARY
Certified Mobile Notary Signing Agent - Smith Mountain Lake, VA
Highest Ranked Certified Mobile Notary in Virginia

I'm right there with you girl.   I am having some of the same challenges and am happy to have them (except family loss).   I lost my mother earlier this year and have had to work my way back to happiness since.   The positive attitude is contagious.   Keep passing it on

Oct 05, 2015 08:54 AM
Donna Foerster
HomeSmart Realty Group - Parker, CO
Metro Denver Real Estate Assistant

Hi Kat. This is a great message. We all need to take stock of our current situation and find the positive!

Aug 28, 2016 08:08 AM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667, kat@thehousekat.com, Broker, eXp Realty - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

Deanna - Thank you!

Donna - Thank you also. Finding the positive can sometimes be hard, but it's always worth it!

Aug 28, 2016 08:11 PM
Mary Yonkers
Alan Kells School of Real Estate/Howard Hanna Real Estate - Erie, PA
Erie/PA Real Estate Instructor

Wow!  This is a powerful message Kat Palmiotti Just what I needed to read today.  Thanks. (I saw Donna Foerster reblog)

Sep 19, 2016 04:50 AM