I'll Be Thinking Of You, Mom !

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Today is Halloween, my Mom's favorite holiday.   No, she wasn't into ghoulish things; she was into children.   She had five of her own but so many more were in her heart and in her front yard on Halloween.   Mom would buy every little animated figure with a motion detector.   She loved to see the children's reactions as they approached the front door and one of the figures would suddenly come to life.

My brother and I live locally and every year we had to be at Mom's early in the day to help set up all the displays.   My brother is a professional musician and would set up his sound system in the trees out front and have "The Monster Mash" playing loud enough to hear it a block down the street.

We would get into costumes ourselves and sit in the rocking chairs or on the swing on her big front porch.   Often we would remain still and suddenly come to life as the children stepped up onto the porch.   We would set up colored lighting (my brother's) so it looked like a movie set.

Often, the children would be so amazed at their surroundings and all the moving and noise making figures that they would forget why they were there.   Parents often had to coax them and tell them to say "Trick or Treat".   Then Mom would hold out this great big bowl full of candy and say "take your pick".   She never limited it to just one.

When my husband came into the family, he too got into the mix.   I remember the year I dressed up as a scarecrow.   It was an oxymoron costume because I had a happy face with a big clown smile under that straw hat.   A "smilecrow" I guess.

My husband came decked out in his firefighter gear, complete with air bottle and facemask.   At first, some children were fearful but we used the garden hose and the "friendly fireman" helped the children spray the BAD  ghosts hanging from the big oak trees out front.

But what is memorable is what happened partway through the evening.   Many children had already passed and we were sitting on the porch waiting for the next bus load to arrive.   That's right, busload.

The church buses and inner city mission buses knew where Mom's house was and would be lined up on the street.   We were the first house of many on the street that decorated and the buses would unload, go to the end of the street and wait for the children and parents to catch up and reload.

I was sitting on the swing with my stuffed shirt and stuffed jeans.   My husband joined me on the swing wearing all that gear.   All of a sudden, the swing that had been there for years came crashing down.

Luckily, we both had plenty of padding and just rolled around on the porch floor laughing because of the look on my Mom's and brother's faces as they jumped to come to our aid.   They were terrified and their faces were as scared looking as any child we had seen all night.

My husband and I couldn't stop laughing and soon it was infectious and they joined in.   When the next group arrived, they thought it was all part of the skit and got to laughing too, not realizing what the joke was.   It was truly a special night.   In fact, every Halloween was a special night, . . . . . with Mom.

Those of you that know me know that we lost Mom in February.   I am still having a hard time accepting it and tonight is a reminder of all the good times we had on Halloween.   But Mom's back with Daddy now and I'm sure they are looking down on us and smiling as they remember those memories too.

This year is going to be different, but the same.   This year, we are going over to the Rescue Squad and helping them with their "Trunk or Treat".   It is our way of remembering Mom on this day that was so special to her.   We are going to hear the children laugh and yes, the occasional scream.

It will be sad but it will be fun because the whole time;


I'll be thinking of you, Mom.   Love you and miss you.




Deanna Early is a Nationally Licensed Mortgage Loan Originator at Smith Mountain Lake, Virginia.   She is the residential loan originator for American National Bank and Trust.   She provides home mortgages, construction loans and lot loans.   She does both purchase and refinance loans.

Her website is  www.DeannaEarly.com

Please contact her for your financing needs at (540) 721-2349 or by email at  "earlyd@amnb.com"

Comments (9)

George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Deanna these are great memories of your Mom.  Hope you have a Happy Halloween, and keep safe from all the little goblins :)

Oct 31, 2015 06:34 AM

Had a great Halloween and relived some great times in the stories shared by friends and family.   Home safely but saw a lot of little goblins.

Oct 31, 2015 01:58 PM
Joe Petrowsky
Mortgage Consultant, Right Trac Financial Group, Inc. NMLS # 2709 - Manchester, CT
Your Mortgage Consultant for Life

Good morning Deanna. Those are wonderful memories. The greatest gift you can give you mom is to always remember her, she knows.

Oct 31, 2015 06:49 PM

She started me in this business and introduced my husband and I so yes, we will always remember her Joe Petrowsky 

Nov 01, 2015 11:31 AM
Lou Ludwig
Ludwig & Associates - Boca Raton, FL
Designations Earned CRB, CRS, CIPS, GRI, SRES, TRC


The story is a family treasure . . . .

Good luck and success.

Lou Ludwig

Nov 01, 2015 11:57 AM

As was Mom, Lou

Nov 01, 2015 01:21 PM
Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, EXP - Stevens Point, WI
Forestland Experts! 715-204-9671

Thanks for sharing the memories Deanna, you mom sounds like a wonderful person.

Nov 01, 2015 02:11 PM

That she was Bob.

Nov 02, 2015 03:23 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Deanna Early ,

How wonderful! You are honoring your mom in such a special way. Remembering things that meant a lot to her helps her memory on earth live on. I just subscribed to your post!

Nov 01, 2015 09:34 PM

Her memory lives on.   I just sent you a Thank you for following me.

Nov 02, 2015 03:24 AM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
New Hampshire Home Stager

What beautiful memories!  This has to be such a hard time for you.  All the "first" holidays without a loved one are almost too hard to bare, but even more so when you have such strong memories and ties to the day. Thank you for sharing your mom with us today!

Nov 01, 2015 10:30 PM

It was difficult but happy as we worked to carry on her legacy of treating children special.

Nov 02, 2015 03:26 AM
Debbie Reynolds, C21 Platinum Properties
Platinum Properties- (931)771-9070 - Clarksville, TN
The Dedicated Clarksville TN Realtor-(931)320-6730

What a legacy she left you. She sounds a lot like my mom and how she used each occasion to make her mark and make it an experience. It left us with knowing that life can be fun and not just passing through. Lovely tribute, Deanna.

Nov 01, 2015 10:54 PM

Halloween was ALWAYS fun and we looked forward to each of them.   

Nov 02, 2015 03:27 AM
Pat Starnes-Front Gate Realty
Front Gate Real Estate - Brandon, MS
601-991-2900 Office; 601-278-4513 Cell

Like Sharon Tara said, it is difficult to experience that "first" holiday without the presence of your loved one. It's cathartic to tell the story and share the memories with your mom and her favorite holiday. Thanks for sharing with us.

Nov 02, 2015 05:37 AM

Thanks to all who understand my hurt, and my joy.

Nov 02, 2015 05:48 AM
Gayle Rich-Boxman Fishhawk Lake Real Estate
John L Scott Market Center - Birkenfeld, OR
"Your Local Expert!" 503-755-2905

Deanna, this was truly the BEST Halloween story I have read for years. I was with you all of the way and interweaving all of my own hysterical and scary and silly memories from childhood. My mom was the exact opposite--doling out only one piece of candy! But, much later, I lived in a neighborhood where the whole community went all out for Halloween and two neighbors would compete yearly for the scariest and best home. Dry ice, stuff rising out of the ground--you guys would have fit right in! 

And I didn't know about your mom til today, but I had tears in my eyes for you and for myself, just cuz I know that kind of love! I'll bet she shows up to you in many ways. 


Nov 02, 2015 07:54 AM

She's with me always in everything I do.   And thank you for your thoughts.

Nov 02, 2015 08:26 AM