Sellers - Should I Stay or Should I Go? Go! Vamoose! Leave NOW!

Real Estate Broker/Owner with Stage Presence Homes, San Diego Real Estate CAL BRE 01368091

I couldn't have said it better myself, so I am re-blogging this.  The point of "Sellers, once your home is on the market for sale it is no longer "your home" and you need to detach yourself from it... is a true statement.  You are in the way, and you almost always will say things that you shoudn't be saying.  A smart buyer agent will ask innocent questions to get you to bite and then they find out your motivation to sell and can take advantage of that knowledge.

I also feel the same holds true with having your listing agent present at the showing.  Especially if they are a "Chatty Cathy" and follow the buyer and buyer agent around the house.  I have had this happen before and my buyers couldn't get out of the house fast enough.  The agent was super high energy and talking non-stop; super annoying and KILLED the whole home shopping experience for my buyers who love to take their time and 'imagine' their life in the home to see if it will work.  The agent killed that possibility because the buyers were unable to be comfortable in their viewing routine.

One of the biggest pet peeves that buyers have shared with me in my more than 20 years of being in this industry is when we arrive at a showing/inspection/final walk-through and the seller(s) are there.


I can sense the change in my clients immediately.  Even if they love the house their moods change dramatically.  Gone is the light heartness that I try to keep when we are on the search for their "perfect" home.  The way they try to figure out if there furniture is going to fit in the living room or if their grandmother's hutch will fit in the dining room.


They go through the house as quickly as possible.  They become like total strangers and are unable to really look at whether the door opened smoothly or if the view from the deck compensates for its current condition.  They stop seeing the possibilities of painting a room in a different color as the seller's tell them that it was their dead child's favorite color.  They feel like they don't dare open a drawer or cabinet.  The silence can become deafening at times as the "seller" starts selling their home and in the process actually lets out more information than they should.


From my experience if you are a seller please don't stay in the house during a showing or any inspection.  I know you are curious about who will buy your home, but refrain from going next door to a neighbors to "spy" on the potential buyers like one seller did or park your car in front of the home like another.  "Your" home is not "your" home the moment you put it on the market.  It is a product that needs to be sold.  Divorce your emotions from "your" home.  Keep your memories to yourself and take them to where ever "your" new home will be and start building new memories.


The new buyers will bring their own style, energy and make their "own" memories in "their" home.  But only if you remove yourself during the selling process and leave it to the listing agent and buyer's agents to "sell" the home you are vacating.  You may think you are the best person to "sell" your home but if you really believe that talk to some For Sale By Owners who after their initial foray into real estate by overwhelming numbers go and find a professional realtor to do the job!



Evelyn Santiago

Managing Broker - 630-251-0059

Heart Realty Group, Inc.

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Deb Espinoza  GRI, ABR, ePro, SFR, CNE

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Comments (2)

Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Deb, great reblog, and Sellers and listing agents need to give buyers space to view, and chat as they want to LOVE the home.

Jan 25, 2016 10:00 AM
Inna Ivchenko
Barcode Properties - Encino, CA
Realtor® • GRI • HAFA • PSC Calabasas CA

I love the song ''should I stay or should i go'' and often quote it:) 

Whatever one decides is good, but the decision should be made so no one wastes their time. 

Feb 16, 2016 07:22 AM