Thanksgiving and Real Estate

Real Estate Agent with KW at the Parks 651506396

Last night, my wife and I were watching another recorded episode of “Million Dollar Listing: Los Angeles” on the Bravo network.  It is sort of fascinating watching these agents as they zip around Los Angeles in their flashy and expensive cars selling and listing multi-million dollar properties, and earning mind boggling sales commissions. For an old dog like me, it is almost other worldly watching these guys earn COMMSISSIONS that are equal to the COST of houses I have sold here in Ohio.

While it fun to watch…especially with all that is happening in the world, the show is not a complete representation of what we do. To buyers and sellers, it makes real estate solely into a numbers game. How many homes have you listed, or sold? What was the highest priced home you have sold? How much commission did you earn? Oh, don’t get me wrong…I understand that real estate is a business…a job…a way to make a living…a means to an end.

But we do so much more than that.

I was blessed to have grown up in a loving home. I had a father who loved my mom. My dad, who passed away 45 years ago, still conjures up in my mind what it means to be a father. My mom was loving and kind. My mouth waters to this day when I think of some of the wonderful meals my mom prepared. My mom and dad turned a pile of wood and stone into a sanctuary from the cold reality of the world. My house…my home…was a place where my brother and I felt safe and loved. My home was a place we ran to, not away from.

Sadly, I know that is not the case everywhere. Right here in our own country we have children growing up in houses (you notice I didn’t say homes) where there is no love…just anger, and hate. They grow up watching their parents being destroyed by alcohol, drugs, and countless other perversions. They grow up in places where children never knew but one parent…they grow up in places where, worse yet, the child is the parent.

Somewhere along the line, some parents indulged their children to the point where those children grew up still needing to always be the center of attention. It is hard to care for your own children when you still expect someone to continually care for you.  Life is sort of like a relay race where one generation passes the baton on the next generation. With a whole lot of people, when handed the baton, they decided to just keep it for themselves. For those who followed, they were handed off nothing but heartache and misery.

As real estate agents, we come into people’s lives at a very stressful point in their lives. Psychologists will tell you that buying, or selling your home is one of the top 5-10 stressors a person will undergo in their lifetime.  Sadly we know that stress can bring out the worst in some people. Gratefully, we know that a great many more have the ability to rise to the occasion!

I have been fortunate…no, I have been blessed to have had clients who have been a joy to get to know. Not only have I been invited along on their journey to find a new home…I have been invited into their lives. I have gone to their weddings. I have gone to their homes for picnics and family gatherings. I have received birth announcements along with family and friends. I watch their children grow up on Face Book and in person.  I receive phone calls and emails when then need to share both good and bad news.

So, in a couple of days it will be Thanksgiving and it will bring a smile to my face as I think of all the people I have met and helped along the way as they gather to celebrate the holidays with the people they love. Those houses I helped them buy are more than sticks and stones…they are a sanctuary to a whole new generation.

My hope is that my client’s children, when they are old and grey like me, will look back at the home they grew up in, and have the same loving memories that I have of my childhood home.

So, you agents out there on the coasts can keep your million dollar listings and sales, I am solidly having the time of my life watching Norman Rockwell lives unfold in front of me! Happy Thanksgiving everyone…and may God bless you and your family!

Wendell Melville
Doyle Evans Realty - Jacksonville, NC
Broker serving Onslow and Pender Counties

Well Said, Thanks for Sharing! 

Nov 23, 2015 11:17 PM
Thomas Craig
KW at the Parks - Orlando, FL

Thanks, Wendell...happy Thanksgiving to you and yours!

Nov 23, 2015 11:22 PM
Nicole Doty - Gilbert Real Estate Expert
Zion Realty - Gilbert, AZ
Broker/Owner of Zion Realty

I used to watch those real estate shows a long time ago but they are so far removed from what we actually do I just couldn't keep watching. 

Nov 23, 2015 11:27 PM
Thomas Craig
KW at the Parks - Orlando, FL


I love to watch, although I is a long way off from my dear old Ohio!


Nov 24, 2015 12:18 AM
Lottie Kendall
Compass - San Francisco, CA
Helping make your real estate dreams a reality

Hi Thomas - even though I happen to live in a high-cost area on the coast, I espouse the same values you do. Not all of us want bigger and more costly listings; be #1 agent in the office - my life is not a reality TV show. I want my buyers to come home at the end of a busy day, and smile as they turn the corner to their house, with the feeling of "I'm home!" And I want to help my sellers, many of them Seniors, to feel grateful they can move on to the next step in their lives, turning their beloved home over to a new family to cherish. That's what being a Realtor® means to me.

Nov 24, 2015 06:12 AM
Thomas Craig
KW at the Parks - Orlando, FL


thank you for sharing your thoughts. Happy Thanksgiving!


Nov 24, 2015 09:31 AM