Shock and awe can hit anywhere! How do you respond?
One day my phone rang and the gentlemen on the other end said he had received one of my postcards and wanted to meet. He indicated he was the owner of a large property and was curious about the value, so we set the appointment.
The man said his aging body was now quite frail and nearly broken from years of working very hard. He also told me he'd most likely be out tending the small herd of livestock, so I was to get his attention when I arrived.
After doing preliminary research on his real estate holdings, I did some brainstorming to think what else this senior member of humanity may want. During that process it crossed my mind more than once that he was perhaps lonely and just wanted to visit.
Upon arrival to our appointment, the man was indeed watching over the heard, pulling weeds and heavily relying on his cane. His body, stooped over from a hard life, seemed so very small. My internal threat assessment revealed no cause for concern.
He smiled at my greeting and ushered me into the house, where we sat at the dining room table and set straight to visiting. Not unlike many of my clients, he shared details about his life. This included a heartbreaking story about how his wife had left him and how his children didn't pay him enough attention.
It was clear that this appointment was not about selling his home, but rather something more intimate. He showed me cards and marketing materials he had received from other agents, but said he hadn't called them because they seemed too fake. My card, he said, was heartfelt and sincere.
As we visited, I learned that he wanted to create a trust so that his children would be taken care of once he had passed from this life. Although I'm not an attorney, my focus area is on boomers and seniors. This allows my focus to be more aware of others who are appropriate for a particular client.
Appointing one of his children to be his spokesperson, the one who would be in touch to get more details on resources available to this man.
On my way out, the man stopped me and said that he was very lonely since his wife had left. He said the nights were cold and he wanted desperately to find a woman who would sleep with him so they would both stay warm.
Then he asked, "Will You Find A Lady Who Will Sleep With Me?" Even after all this time, I felt the heartbreak - the utter loneliness this man was feeling.
Loneliness is dangerous at any age, but particularly as we reach our golden years. Study after study reveals that humans need companionship. We NEED interaction with others.
It's wonderful that we have facilities that seniors can go to and join activities, go on trips and reinvigorate their lives. I'm not talking about nursing homes or independent living centers, although these also are wise choices for many.
If you or someone you care about is lonely, PLEASE seek out these options! Senior centers are springing up everywhere. Investigate the library to see what events they may have. Look into taking a class at a nearby college. Don't rule out volunteering or reaching out to your church.
Don't let loneliness torment your days. YOU are still a valuable member of this society!
As always, let's foresee the possibilities . . . and get results!