I Don't Wanna Do That (IDWDT)

Real Estate Agent with ReMax Realtec Group

I don't wanna do that (IDWDT) is THE big red STOP sign.

"GET ON THE RIGHT TRACK - Breaking The Failure SYSTEM"is the title of a new book providing insight and instruction to those considering a career in real estate. The decades-long failure rate of new agents borderlines being a criminal enterprise. The subtitle "Breaking the Failure System' makes clear the outcome intended. (Author: Annette Lawrence) (on LuLu.com)

Following is one page from "GET ON THE RIGHT TRACK - Breaking the Failure System" that encourages brokers/trainer/mentors (and new agents themselves) to test the fabric of new agents to see if they are sufficiently enabled to succeed in this business. It is best to find out early, before investing time and resources and allowing the new agent to spend down their savings, create debt and burn the bridges to their friends and family in the process. (This is EXACLTY what broker/trainers/mentor will instruct the newbie agent to do)

This page is a lesson about LIFE. 

An encouragement to be obedient to your genius.

Confirmation of what you already know, that regret is a merciless taskmaster.

IDWDT is the big red stop sign that stops the potential of genius in it's tracks. Now, lets go to the page 42 in the book.


“I Don’t Wanna Do That”

Much of our subconscious life is spent protecting ourselves from doing what we don’t want to do. It is inevitable this becomes observable in behavior and in avoidance practices. This culminates with a great segment of the population feeling stuck – dissatisfied. IDWDT has become a reliable sojourner with so many, providing the assurance things will remain the same.

A common indication of IDWDT is seen in our society in the prevalent use of the F-bomb. It is a word without real meaning but delivers immense consequence. Politicians, preachers, teachers, athletes find comfort in F-bombs. It keeps them SAFE. F-bombs keep YOU safe.

I’ll ask you, “How are you doing today?”

The predictable response is your F-bomb, “FINE.”

You are not FINE! You are tired, or happy or scared or excited or bored or fantastic or feeling dumpy. You are not FINE, but that F-bomb keeps you safe because you know if you are ‘FINE’ you do not need to do anything. If you said you were tired, you just might have to go to bed earlier and IDWDT!

Uncovering the IDWDT (I Don't Wanna Do That) syndrome is a measure whether the individual has accepted the responsibility of parenting himself or herself. Parenting yourself means knowing it’s your responsibility to make yourself do the crap you don’t want to do! You know, just like a parent.

When you are face-to-face with what you don’t want to do, you also meet the force required to change your life.  ACTIVATION ENERGY. The secret weapon, to bring into your life anything that you want is activation energy.

Only five seconds of opportunity exists to apply activation energy. Take longer and the fight is lost. 

Five Seconds

This is true regarding facing what your don’t want to do as well as acting upon the inner unction, your moment of genius, the arrival of that great idea. Act in five seconds or it will be gone, another opportunity lost. The greatest ideas ever have not yet been acted upon.

In your real estate business, IDWDT is the quicksand that immobilizes you. Keeps you stuck, dissatisfied, a drag on everyone around you. That is why it is so important to press new folks into activity they really don’t want to do. If they refuse to take the crappy steps to get what they want, they just may be a time-hole that will rob others of what they want also.

“I don’t wanna do that!” Call me when you are ready to parent yourself.

How to stop screwing yourself over (TED TALK VIDEO)


IDWDT, the "I don't wanna do that" syndrome permeating society keeps incredible potential and bright ideas defeated because so many just don't want to grow up.

Starting your own business, which is EXACTLY what becoming a real estate agent is, means realizing NO ONE is available to make you do the crap. IDWDT will lead you to crash and burn, meanwhile others will make money off your tragedy.

The "crap" is making proper preparation before you put your saving and current livelihood and relationships to friends and associates at risk.

It is work. Actually hard work. But not so hard as to be an obstacle to actully getting to where you want to be, to your goal, to finally achieving the independence that real estate can provide - BEFORE you plunk down your dollars to enroll in real estate school.

If you want to be notified when the book is available, indicate so in the comments below.

In "GET ON THE RIGHT TRACK - Breaking the Failure System" the reader is guided through practical processes allowing them to create the plan that supports their goal.

Books Introduction

Too often citizens enroll into real estate school and then welcomed by real estate brokers without proper preparation. The gauntlet of entrapments encountered has historically resulted in MOST new agents failing within 24 months. There is too much money made in the failing process to hope for correction. This book is my attempt to push information into the hands of those with a real estate dream that will enable them, with real information, to make a better decision. The purpose of this book is to interrupt the failure policy that now exists. The outcome hoped for is to get you off to the best start possible in your real estate career by following the 5 planning steps.

The five steps you should consider before real estate school are:

  1.                               Self-evaluation and analysis
  2.                               Interviewing real estate agents
  3.                              Creating a business description and plan
  4.                              Broker selection
  5.                 Compensation


It is EXCITING TIME to pursue a dream.     

Related blog: Saga of the new real estate agent  http://actvra.in/4NyB


Wishing you the best of success,

Annette Lawrence, Broker/Associate

Remax Realtec, Palm Harbor, FL

727.420 . 4041


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Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

When I was preparing to become a Broker, I had gathered material from four of the leading schools as my prep. When it came time to take the test and answer questions, I was the second to turn in my test in record time ( I could have been first, but I wasn't in a hurry). I knew all the answers from the gleaning of all sources available...Point? Failure was not an option

Feb 13, 2016 11:57 PM #20
John Marshall - FORE!
The K Company Realty - Cherry Hills Village, CO
Specializing in Golf Course Properties

I would love to be notified when the book comes out, years ago I approached several local real estate schools, explaining that I would be happy to teach a class on the realities of this business and whether or not getting a real estate license is a good idea for someone, every single school emphatically said, "there is no way we would ever allow that type of class, we would go out of business, our business is on selling real estate education and the biggest part is the pre-licensing"

Feb 14, 2016 12:26 AM #21
Dana Tapia
Re/Max of Orange Beach - Orange Beach, AL
Gulf Coast Real Estate Professionals

I think this is fantastic!  I'm  a newbie, and had no idea what all was involved in being a realtor.  I've been friends with realtors for years, and none of them adequately explained how much is really involved in selling real estate.  I'm looking forward to reading more.

Feb 14, 2016 09:47 AM #22
Sham Reddy
H E R Realty, Dayton, OH - Dayton, OH

Profound!!! Great advice!!!

It is best to find out early, before investing time and resources and allowing the new agent to spend down their savings, create debt and burn the bridges to their friends and family in the process.

Feb 14, 2016 08:04 PM #23
Annette Lawrence , Palm Harbor, FL 727-420-4041
ReMax Realtec Group - Palm Harbor, FL
Making FLORIDA Real Estate EZ

Thursday, in the Tampa Bay Times Business section is another real estate agent tragedy.

A prominent MLM based real estate franchise promotes growth through agents recruiting citizens.  Martha, a cashier at the local Big Lots discount retailer, fell prey to the offer from the smiley face. As reported by the paper, she's on the 5th go around to pass the test. "I've always liked real estate so I'll keep trying."

It is an industry the profits incredibly through failure.

How would you suggest this book get into the hand of prospects. They obviously don't play in the rain. Your suggestion welcomed.

Thank you for leaving a comment.

Best of success,

Feb 14, 2016 09:17 PM #24
Beth Atalay
Cam Realty and Property Management - Clermont, FL
Cam Realty of Clermont FL

Annette, those who think obtaining a real estate license is a mean to riches soon find out it's a lot of hard work and depart as fast as they entered. I can't tell you how many of my clients and friends went out to get their license hoping to roll in money without any work. Unfortunately, to an outsider, all we do is open doors and collect a big fat check...imagine that! 
Then there's all these shiny toys that promise to bring us leads when in reality, this is a relationship business and if you don't LOVE people, this is not the right profession. 

Feb 15, 2016 12:52 AM #25
Annette Lawrence , Palm Harbor, FL 727-420-4041
ReMax Realtec Group - Palm Harbor, FL
Making FLORIDA Real Estate EZ

Beth Atalay it is not the hard work. Folks will work hard.

It is the kind of work required that sends time into a tailspin.

The kind of work that comes from inspiration and without garuantees.

Work from which results flow becuase of a willingness to toil through the night receiving even one 'Atta Girl."

All rolled into the visionary who will walk towards and find solutions for problems.

And for the top 15% a fat paycheck.

For 85%, failure to thrive it is caused by someone else.

But for the newbie, they are blindly waking into a Process for Failure that has exsited for decades.


Feb 15, 2016 02:10 AM #26
Mary Yonkers
Alan Kells School of Real Estate/Howard Hanna Real Estate - Erie, PA
Erie/PA Real Estate Instructor

Congratulations on Featured post Annette Lawrence , Palm Harbor, FL 727-420-4041 Lots of good advice for wanna-be agents.  As several others have commented people see us driving nice car, wearing stylish clothes to open doors for them so they think we make buckets of $$$ with little work.  That is the eye-opener.

Feb 15, 2016 06:28 AM #27
Jill Watts
Realty Pro, Inc. - Vancouver, WA

Real Estate agents with years of experience make this job look easy!

Feb 15, 2016 09:44 AM #28
Rob Lang
At Home Kansas / www.AskRobLang.com - Lawrence, KS
Local Expert in Lawrence Kansas Real Estate Homes

Glad to see you are a professional!  Would love to send you referrals as I know you would take great care of my buyers and sellers.

Feb 15, 2016 01:36 PM #29
Annette Lawrence , Palm Harbor, FL 727-420-4041
ReMax Realtec Group - Palm Harbor, FL
Making FLORIDA Real Estate EZ

Thank you Rob,

Wish I could send a little Florida sunshine and gulf breezes your way.

Thank you for reading and taking time to leave a comment.

I welcome the opportunity to do some business togethter.

Best if success to you Rob Lang 

Feb 15, 2016 08:52 PM #30
Rob Lang
At Home Kansas / www.AskRobLang.com - Lawrence, KS
Local Expert in Lawrence Kansas Real Estate Homes

Thanks Annette Lawrence!  My wife and I just got back from 2 weeks in Florida. We happened to hit the cold weather and rain you guys had Jan 6th - 20th where at one point, the temps here in Lawrence, KS were only 6 degrees cooler than Florida.  Fortunately, there were some good days though with one of them being 71 degrees warmer there when temps here were -1 degree!

I will be sure to add Palm Harbor, FL to my list next time we are in FL.  My wife and I had actually planned on visiting your city.  We visited about 30 Quilt Shops (my wife is a co-owner of Quilting Bits & Pieces in Eudora, KS) and Rainbow's End Quilt Shoppe in Dunedin was on our list to see as well as Happy Apple Quilts in Palm Harbor but we were running behind and had to miss those two (mostly because we found out last minute Rainbow's End was closed on Mondays when we went through).

Since you "welcome the opportunity to do some business togethter", why not link up in my referral blog where I offer a 33% referral fee!

Congrats again on your book Annette.

Feb 15, 2016 10:53 PM #31
Gene Riemenschneider
Home Point Real Estate - Brentwood, CA
Turning Houses into Homes

Well this seems like a lot better approach than hire anyone, throw them in the water and see who can swim.

Feb 16, 2016 01:30 AM #32
Marte Cliff
Marte Cliff Copywriting - Priest River, ID
your real estate writer

If most people knew what's really involved in becoming a successful agent, the real estate schools WOULD go broke. 

I agree with you - the system is designed to promote failure. 

Feb 16, 2016 03:26 AM #33
Jan Green
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

Interesting post!  Thanks for the Ted Talks video.  I love how she describes one side of your brain as auto-pilot and the other as emergency brake.  So true.  Auto pilot is such a realistic phrase  because making change isn't easy.

Feb 17, 2016 11:27 AM #34
Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, Keller Williams fox cities - Stevens Point, WI
Forestland Experts! 715-204-9671

Love this post Annette!

Unfortunately there are whole industries and agencies that depend on keeping a steady flow of pie eyed future agents working toward a future failure in the life of real estate.

I am sure they will not be happy with your warnings toward their students.

Mar 02, 2016 02:16 PM #35
Inna Ivchenko
Barcode Properties - Encino, CA
Realtor® • Green • GRI • HAFA • PSC Los Angeles CA

I agree, before entering a real estate career, do your research. You'll be surprised how much you do not know. 

Mar 03, 2016 05:02 PM #36
Sandy Padula and Norm Padula, JD, GRI
Realty One Group - Carlsbad, CA
Presence, Persistence & Perseverance

Annette Lawrence , Palm Harbor, FL 727-420-4041 I had to <bookmark> your post. So filled with exciting advice that even old timers like Conrad Allen need to review!

Mar 03, 2016 08:53 PM #37
Peter Mohylsky
Your Bucket List Broker along 30a

I enjoyed reading this blog and your other posts.  I searched for your book title, where is it available?  

Jun 30, 2016 12:00 AM #38
Lise Howe
Keller Williams Capital Properties - Washington, DC
Assoc. Broker and Attorney Licensed in DC, MD, VA,

Annette - I would love to read this - and I would be happy to write a review - I think the simple statement - Starting your own business, which is EXACTLY what becoming a real estate agent is, means realizing NO ONE is available to make you do the crap-

.is phenomenally powerful - thanks

Dec 01, 2016 04:48 AM #39
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