Gloriously dimpled thighs and Wisdom - I won't trade either

Real Estate Broker/Owner with Jeri Creson, Realtor 0995689629 Louisiana

Sometimes we get a chance to look back at problems we’ve encountered in the past, and see the world fresh, with a kinder, gentler and wiser perspective.   Growth – I think they call it.   Today was one such of those days for me.


As a woman recently past the 50 mark, I have traded in my hopes for long, tanned and flawless legs – for an acceptance and love of my strong, if not perfect, sturdy if not flawless and useful, if not magazine-worthy ones.   They get me where I need to go, and provide all manners of lessons and memories of the places I have already been.  I love and appreciate them for that.


Likewise, I found myself today, scheduling, and preparing my real estate first-time homebuyers for the week ahead, which includes signing their loan documents, doing their final walk thru, and closing escrow on their first home.   This is something I have done hundreds of times, yet, for these clients, like virtually every other first-time homebuyer, this process is new to them, fraught with peril, uncertainty and stress. They are correct to be under a little stress – there are often many things that go awry during this time – most of which, however, amount to unforeseen delays, rather than actual, real-life disasterous events.


This is where that blessed Wisdom kicks in – finding one’s self at peace – trusting in the process, as opposed to participating in the frenzy of fear.   I recall, years ago, as a much younger agent, when the timing of a close of escrow, and hence, the receipt of a long awaited commission check represented not only the completion of my duties, but also a desperately needed infusion of cash that kept a very thin line of finances afloat.   A few days, one way or the other might have seemed tragic – causing a domino effect of unpleasant consequences financially – car payments being late – missing deadlines with license fees – getting those unpleasant late fees and credit dings…


And in addition, concerned, all the while, that somehow I might be personally implicated in whatever issue emerges late in escrow causing my client to be in distress.  I recall one such event where my buyer had given notice on her apartment and needed to be moved in to her new place by the weekend.  A small, typical blip during the loan document process caused a 3 day delay. Screaming, tears and blaming ensued…. Not having had the conversation with my buyer about leaving some room for error around move in dates, I felt partially responsible for her lack of common sense – though the event itself was out of my control.  As such, I sacrificed  some of my commission to pay for some movers the following week, stretching myself across the distress of my client like a human band-aid, just hoping to make the problem go away.   I did that fairly often in those days – and many inexperienced agents do – thus feeding, and participating in the financial cycle of lack that starts the entire fearful process in the first place.  Ironic, ay?


-Cleansing breath and smile-


I don’t do that anymore – for lo, tho I have walked through the Valley of Lack and Disheartenment, I fear no Escrow – for thou – Wisdom – art beside me – pointing fingers and laughing at my former self.


Over the years I’ve learned two very important lessons:  1.  No matter how awful things have seemed at any given moment, they STILL haven’t figured out how to kick me off this planet.  And 2. A little, well-placed communication to prepare someone (in this case, a new buyer) for the realities of the situation, and what to reasonably expect can resolve 99% of fear-based blowback.    The truth of the matter is – in any problem:  “If there is a solution – there’s no need to worry.  If there is not a solution – there is still, no need to worry.”  Learning to live in the moment, and take care of that moment – when all of the moments are strung together, turns, automatically, into the sum of our lives.   Worry and stress, is, therefore, wasted energy.  Just take care of this moment, and what will be, will be.


Since I have simultaneously learned to apply this wisdom more often, while watching the tautness of my former leg glory soften into something different and arguably, more interesting…I have found that the “emergencies” of the moment come far less often, and are typically prevented by having enough experience to know when to apply a little forethought and preparation, and enough self respect to keep myself from taking on everyone else's set of consequences.


Ah…youth – You can keep it.

Comments (25)

Jeri Creson
Jeri Creson, Realtor - Covington, LA
Dually Licensed Broker in Louisiana & California

Thank you - We never stop learning.  The minute we think we are ready to, that's the minute we ought to hang it up!   How's business in Northern CA?  I grew up there, and miss it sometimes - 

Feb 23, 2016 09:47 AM
Melinda (Mel) Peterson
Grants Pass, OR - Bend, OR
@TheBlessedRealtor - ABR, CRS

An absolutely delightful post describing the typical life of a Realtor... as the wheels on the bus go round and round.  I learned many moons ago to pray the Realtor prayer... "I shalt not worry" she said, as she breathed in that cleansing breath and exhaled a joyous smile ;-)

Feb 23, 2016 01:11 PM
Jeri Creson

Thanks Mel - The Realtor Prayer - "I shall not worry".  I'm going to add that to my morning routine!  

Feb 23, 2016 11:45 PM
Michael Kaim
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Professional Realty - Mentor, OH
Real Estate team serving the Cleveland Area

Thanks for sharing... Jeri Creson 

Feb 23, 2016 06:47 PM
Jeri Creson

You're welcome Michael - nice to meet you!  Thanks for taking the time to read -

Feb 23, 2016 11:50 PM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667,, Broker/REALTOR® - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

This post was a fun read. It's so true that we learn along the way and it definitely does help us be less stressed the more we know. Our clients needs us to be cool and calm.


Feb 23, 2016 07:43 PM
Jeri Creson

Thank you Kat!

Feb 23, 2016 11:45 PM
Jill Sackler
Charles Rutenberg Realty Inc. 516-575-7500 - Long Beach, NY
LI South Shore Real Estate - Broker Associate

I love your candor and your writing style. There has to be some sort of even exchange for growing old, wouldn't you think? Wisdom as a trade off for beauty and tautness? Good thing we don't have to decide if they are equal because there's no choice in the matter. If you're not growing old, then you're dead.

Feb 23, 2016 08:55 PM
Jeri Creson

Wisdom is the new beautiful.  And you're a beautiful lady - in both senses -  Thank you for the kind words. 

Feb 23, 2016 11:46 PM
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

The restful satisfaction that comes without effort sort of like a gift begins when our will is less and the bigger picture kicks in...Maturity, experience and having the heart of a child does this quite well. I say...let it! Letting go supports gain

Feb 23, 2016 10:31 PM
Richie Alan Naggar

I enjoy you Jeri Creson 

Feb 24, 2016 12:18 AM
Jeri Creson

Wise words - and children don't worry about escrows do they? - thank you Richie!

Feb 23, 2016 11:48 PM
Lise Howe
Keller Williams Capital Properties - Washington, DC
Assoc. Broker in DC, MD, VA and attorney in DC

what a great post - thanks for a much needed

reminder as I am dealing with my own stressed and frightened first time buyer today.

Feb 23, 2016 10:56 PM
Jeri Creson
Jeri Creson, Realtor - Covington, LA
Dually Licensed Broker in Louisiana & California

Thanks Lise - breathe - just breathe!

Feb 23, 2016 11:49 PM
Belinda Spillman
Aspen Lane Real Estate Colorful Colorado - Aurora, CO
Colorado Living!

Nice post Jeri.  Glad you will be hanging out in BananaTude.  

Feb 24, 2016 12:27 AM
Jeri Creson

Thanks Belinda!   Just when you think you know everything - you discover BananaTude - I feel like I was just invited to hang out with the cool kids - That's never happened before - I like it! 

Feb 24, 2016 12:37 AM
Gene Riemenschneider
Home Point Real Estate - Brentwood, CA
Turning Houses into Homes

We have had our financial ups and downs.  The downs have taught me what I can live without.  Now I know to save more money during the ups.

Feb 24, 2016 02:08 AM
Jeri Creson

Yep.  Me too.  We can't enjoy the peaks, when we've never been to the valleys! 

Feb 24, 2016 04:25 AM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Jeri loved this post, welcome to AR and thank you for the follow. Indeed it is a good feeling to be comfortable in our own skin:))Also WOW congrats on being Featured, Endre

Feb 24, 2016 07:58 AM
Endre Barath, Jr.

Jeri thank you for your kind words, I do not recall being in Escrow.... the best part is the potential is there.... especially if you bring a Land Buyer the odds are even higher:))Endre

Feb 24, 2016 08:16 AM
Jeri Creson

Thanks Endre!  You know - I know we've never been in escrow together, but I'm certain we've been in offer together at some point. It's a big city, but I recognized your name right away.    Looking forward to putting that deal together next time - I'd love to do some business with a like-minded gentleman such as yourself!  

Feb 24, 2016 08:08 AM
Jeri Creson

Land buyer - as in developers?   What's your specialty?  I work with a few developers always looking for land - 

Feb 24, 2016 11:06 PM
Joan Whitebook
BHG The Masiello Group - Nashua, NH
Consumer Focused Real Estate Services

Welcome to Active Rain.. A most thought provoking post and I think most, if not all of us, have been in the same situation.  Wisdom is well earned and most beneficial.

Feb 24, 2016 12:33 PM
Jeri Creson

Thank you Joan!  I'm happy to be here.  

Feb 24, 2016 11:04 PM
Dorte Engel
RE/MAX Leading Edge - Bowie, MD
ABC - Annapolis, Bowie, Crofton & rest of Maryland

Dear Jeri,

Beauty fades, but stupid is forever. Most gorgeous legs in magazines are airbrushed anyhow.

Feb 24, 2016 01:18 PM
Jeri Creson

Very true  .  Thanks for that!  Made me smile -

Feb 24, 2016 11:03 PM
Christopher Lotte
Red 1 Realty - Lithopolis, OH
Central Ohio Real Estate Agent, 614-390-9243

Great information, thanks for sharing Jeri Creson 

Feb 24, 2016 07:49 PM
Jeri Creson

You're welcome! Thanks for reading, and nice to meet you - 

Feb 24, 2016 11:04 PM
Raul Rodriguez
Covenant Partners Realty - San Antonio, TX
Looking out for the client's interest and not my p

Have you ever said to yourself, oh, to be 25 again? I have, and as soon as I said it, I took it back, no way would I want to make the same dumb mistakes all over again.

Feb 24, 2016 09:59 PM
Jeri Creson

Exactly!  LOL - I have those moments too - they usually come when trying on new clothes in the dressing room.  I find a little well placed bourbon and a stroll down memory lane usually does the trick though!  

Feb 24, 2016 11:01 PM
Jan Green - Scottsdale, AZ
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

HI Jeri!  Love your post and your words of wisdom.  Funny that I still pay out of pocket on some things and should be following your advice!

Feb 25, 2016 08:34 AM
Jeri Creson

I do too...when it's appropriate - it's just that now,  I realize that it's appropriate a whole lot less often!   Thanks for the kind words -

Feb 25, 2016 09:19 AM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Jeri, wonderful post, and so glad you got Featured!  What a wonderful writing style you have, and your experience shines through!  

Feb 28, 2016 12:47 AM
Jeri Creson
Jeri Creson, Realtor - Covington, LA
Dually Licensed Broker in Louisiana & California

Thank you Joan!

Feb 28, 2016 01:46 AM
Daniel Dominguez
Realty Connect USA - Hauppauge, NY
I'm an RE agent serving Nassau & Suffolk County

Wonderful post

May 01, 2018 06:46 AM
Jeri Creson
Jeri Creson, Realtor - Covington, LA
Dually Licensed Broker in Louisiana & California

Thank you Daniel!

May 01, 2018 08:21 AM