Does Polly Want A Parrot?

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Real Estate Agent with DFW FINE PROPERTIES 0506509

 

 

 

Many management books taught the best way to get people to like you was to mirror them, repeat words back at them or mirror their body language. If a leader poses a question to a group and nods their head, is the expectation for the rest of the group to nod back in agreement? Or if one person compliments someone by saying, I just love your outfit, is the expectation for the other person to say thank you; and then follow up with compliment back to the other person. To be sociable, are we becoming too much of a "Like," society of parrots who seems to agree with everyone and everything put out there in our face because of fear that others won't like us? For example, one person places a photo of a bunny on Facebook and everyone who is a friend is expected to like that bunny. Are people afraid of offending someone or the group if they don't like the bunny? Is it okay not to be a parrot and repeat likes and the three letter word yes for fear one will be alienated as not a team player?

 

What about blog posts? If one person always posts the same thing, over and over and over again, and they comment on your post, do you feel obligated or have a responsibility to keep saying nice blah, blah, blah, you're the best, this is great, etc., when the reality is, you're not really liking the repetition of the same old post but you want to be polite and comment back? 

 

To be part of a group, should the membership be a mirror image of the leader or other person? To be sociable, whether it's in an office, a group membership, or Social Medial ask yourself, Does Polly Want a Parrot? 

 

Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and

expecting different results --- Albert Einstein. 



©Patricia Feager 3/29/2016

 

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Lise Howe
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Ok - so what prompted this one? I always wonder what the trigger was when I can sense the frustration in a blog. 

Mar 28, 2016 09:57 PM #1
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Dorie Dillard CRS GRI ABR
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Good morning Patricia Feager ,

Oh I love this post!! Great observation..there are some who do not want to rock the boat and just conform to the majority. It is fine to have an opinion and not mimic others just to get along, after all we are each individuals with different tastes, thoughts and abilities!

Mar 28, 2016 10:00 PM #2
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Lise Howe - Absolutely, positively nothing personal with anyone on ActiveRain or otherwise prompted these thoughts of mine. It's merely an observation on FaceBook and recent conversations. That's it!

Mar 28, 2016 10:03 PM #3
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Lise Howe
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Phew! I was concerned that someone had pushed you to the limit with repeat blogs! Have a great day Patricia! 

Mar 28, 2016 10:05 PM #4
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Dorie Dillard - Those are great comments! This year of debates seems to have everyone talking and giving opinions! The majority rules may need to be questioned??? Thanks Dorie!

Mar 28, 2016 10:06 PM #5
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Lise Howe - so glad we got that cleared up! 

Mar 28, 2016 10:07 PM #6
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I'm not even going to comment and I'm going to let you give the answer in your response.  You know me quite well my friend.

Mar 28, 2016 10:07 PM #7
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OK the title is sheer genious and I love the last line too..spot on!

Mar 28, 2016 10:12 PM #8
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 Good morning Patricia Feager . No, I do not want a cracker or a Polly Parrot.

Mar 28, 2016 10:34 PM #9
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Sheila Anderson
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Good morning Patricia. I'm not a bird or a person who lives by imitation. Just can't see it.

Mar 28, 2016 11:32 PM #10
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Brian England
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On Facebook, I tend to only like the posts that I truly like.  A large part of that revolves around whether or not I like the person as well, haha.  I would probably like all of your posts, because I really like you!

Mar 29, 2016 12:31 AM #11
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Patricia,

Like Dorie Dillard I love this post.  Some people like a parrot, and I move on.  In social situations, Ron and I have a signal to extricate ourselves by changing the subject, or remembering our urgent appointment on planet Earth.  I feel comfortable with you to share our point of view.  A

Mar 29, 2016 06:47 AM #12
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Patrica 

Thanks for sharing your thoughts in your post.

Good luck and success.

Lou Ludwig

Mar 29, 2016 11:01 AM #13
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Patricia good question.  I guess I do feel a responsibility to comment on posts of members who comment on mine, but I do not feel a responsibility to always agree.  However, most people I follow I do so because I can relate to most of their views, therefore, I might sound like "poly" more often than not.

Mar 29, 2016 11:29 AM #14
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Hi Patricia -- I also love the title of this post and the point you have made.   

Mar 30, 2016 03:14 AM #15
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Hi Patricia

I really liked what you had to say, and it certainly does make you think about our society today and people's behavior - in person, and especially online. We have become a world of "likes" as that TV commercial says (can't recall right now which product it is)

Jeff

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Mar 30, 2016 08:59 AM #16
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Patricia well said, too many of us are like that when it comes to the same old schneisel just not many of us step up and express it that we are tired of the same old schneisel:))Endre

Mar 30, 2016 05:38 PM #17
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Great title and great post.  Really stimulates the thought process. 

I don't "like" things on facebook unless I actually do like them. I don't comment on posts unless I can relate to them in some fashion. As for reciprocating for a reply left on my post....yes I have done that when otherwise I would not have commented. Guilty!  

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Patrica

I stopped back to bookmark your post.

Good luck and success.

Lou Ludwig

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