Many management books taught the best way to get people to like you was to mirror them, repeat words back at them or mirror their body language. If a leader poses a question to a group and nods their head, is the expectation for the rest of the group to nod back in agreement? Or if one person compliments someone by saying, I just love your outfit, is the expectation for the other person to say thank you; and then follow up with compliment back to the other person. To be sociable, are we becoming too much of a "Like," society of parrots who seems to agree with everyone and everything put out there in our face because of fear that others won't like us? For example, one person places a photo of a bunny on Facebook and everyone who is a friend is expected to like that bunny. Are people afraid of offending someone or the group if they don't like the bunny? Is it okay not to be a parrot and repeat likes and the three letter word yes for fear one will be alienated as not a team player?
What about blog posts? If one person always posts the same thing, over and over and over again, and they comment on your post, do you feel obligated or have a responsibility to keep saying nice blah, blah, blah, you're the best, this is great, etc., when the reality is, you're not really liking the repetition of the same old post but you want to be polite and comment back?
To be part of a group, should the membership be a mirror image of the leader or other person? To be sociable, whether it's in an office, a group membership, or Social Medial ask yourself, Does Polly Want a Parrot?
Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and
expecting different results --- Albert Einstein.
©Patricia Feager 3/29/2016