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Real Estate Agent with Claddagh Florida Properties BK3664844

A church "friend" who I haven't heard from for years recently called me stating she wanted to pick my brain as to how she could list her home for sale on the MLS and sell it as a FSBO.  I told her the fee for listing in the MLS and then went on to ask why she would want to sell it herself.  She replied stating oh I just want to try it out before I give it to a Realtor.  My ears caught on fast when she said she would give it to a Realtor, not give it to me!

I explained to the "friend" that selling property is a lot more complicated than listing it in the MLS and putting a sign in her yard.  I explained that the property has to be in the right price range to sell and in order to get it into that right range she would have to research recent SOLDs in her neighborhood and also look at Pending sales and Active listings.  She would also have to realize that you can't compare apples to apples as each home brings different qualities, amenities, upgrades etc. which has to be added or subtracted when comparing to other homes for sale, sold or pending. I also told her how important it is to screen potential buyers for their ability to buy and cautioned her about letting strangers into her home.

Then I mentioned the fact that numerous problems and issues can evolve during the sales process and how meeting deadlines for loan commitments, inspections etc. and putting fires out not to mention keeping all involved in the transaction calm are all part of getting a deal closed and even after all that  some deals fail to close!    I ended the speech by saying that's why Realtors have to be licensed and 99% of homes are sold by Realtors because it takes on going education, experience and knowledge of the local market to successfully close deals.  The "friend" replied, oh I have sold properties before so I just want to pick your brains, text me your email address and you can send me all the information I need to help me do this myself.

At the conclusion of the call I put DNA (DO NOT ANSWER) after the ex friend's name!  I am more than willing to help anyone anyway that I can and like most Realtors I strive to give the best service to my clients but I am NOT willing to allow people to disrespect my profession and abuse my time and this ex friend was trying to do this.  I have had past experience of the "friend" wasting my time on other issues but disrespect me once shame on you, do it twice, shame on me! 

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Mike Wong
Keller Williams Realty Southwest - Sugar Land, TX
Realtor: Commercial, Residential, Leasing, Invest

Typical experience every Realtor will face in their career, and probably more than once. I've had it happen a few times and I really tell them I can only give limited advice as a friend to limit my liability and exposure to their deal should something go wrong because I am not involved to protect them.

That always raises an eyebrow. So I ask them, do they go to the dentist's office to ask for advice then perform a root canal on themselves? Well not exactly the same, so I explain it in financial terms of how much they could cost themselves by not corectly pricing the home, or staying on the market for a longer period of time. 

Apr 20, 2016 09:06 AM
Noeleen Duffy
Claddagh Florida Properties - Palm Coast, FL

Thanks Mike, great example!   I know from past experience that reasoning with my ex "friend" is useless as the only reasoning she listens to is her own hence the reason I had to finally severe the "freebie" relationship.

 

Apr 20, 2016 11:12 PM
Joan Cox, Retired Broker/Owner
Denver, CO
Enjoying Every Day to Its Fullest!

Noeleen, so sorry to hear your "friend" was trying to take advantage of you!   We do need to recognize this early on.   

Apr 24, 2016 10:54 PM
Noeleen Duffy
Claddagh Florida Properties - Palm Coast, FL

Thanks Joan, unfortunately people who live only for themselves are hard to recognize early by those of us who always look for the good in others first and bend over backwards to give them the benefit of the doubt. Its only after we experience the narcissistic behavior of these sad individuals that we really learn that reasoning with them only falls on their deaf ears and we have to cut the cord. Have a great week!

Apr 25, 2016 12:44 AM
Noeleen Duffy
Claddagh Florida Properties - Palm Coast, FL

I have buyers and sellers who have been picking my brains also for years Endre and that's okay.  The "friend" I referred to is different, I know from past experience with her that she will drain the life blood out of me or any other Realtor if allowed and I don't allow anymore!

May 23, 2016 11:04 PM
Brenda J. Andrew
Aqua Terra Real Estate, LLC. - Willis, TX
Broker/REALTOR in N Houston & Corpus Christi

You handled this one very well.  It is too bad that some people do not realize what they are asking for and how they are asking.  It sounds like you made the right decision on the way you handled it and I love the way you put it to "the friend."  Have a great day!

Jun 19, 2016 06:27 AM
Noeleen Duffy
Claddagh Florida Properties - Palm Coast, FL

Thanks Brenda, like most agents I go out of my way to help people but after you get "used" once a wise Realtor doesn't allow it to happen a second time, ha!

Jun 19, 2016 12:15 PM