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It Takes Two People To Have a Conflict

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It Takes Two People To Have a Conflict

“Conflict cannot survive without your participation.”

Dr. Wayne Dyer 1940 - 2015, American Philosopher,

Self-Author, Motivational Speaker

 

As I see it. . . . . . . .

It takes two people to have a conflict

 

Conflict needs willing participates to continue . . . . Without the participation the conflict will fade away.

 

When you’re faced with conflict find the best solution to the issues . . . .  Work to find the best mutual resolution to the conflict . . . . and put the conflict behind you.

 

Be cautious of the person that tries to draw you into a conflict. They are intentionally trying to disrupt you . . . . and bring conflict into your life. They are controllers by nature they enjoy the conflict . . . . and trying to light someone up.

 

People take great joy in instigating conflict. Don’t be baited into a conflict . . . . or continuing a conflict . . . . and by all means don’t be intimidated.

 

Work your way through a conflict . . . . By focusing on solution . . . . and by moving on when the conflict is resolved.

 

The only way that there will conflict . . . . is when you become a willing participate in it.

 

It takes two people to have a Conflict or more to start or continue a conflict. The best course of action in a conflict  is don’t be part of it.

 

©2016 Lou Ludwig Success Tips, Sales and Management Consultant, Success Coach, Speaker, Trainer and Author

 

Donald Urschalitz
Lubeck Realty Group - Jupiter, FL
P.A. Realtor ABR RSPS North Palm Beach County

Hope to see you at the meet up on May 5th and it only takes one to resolve a conflict.

May 01, 2016 10:02 PM
Sally K. & David L. Hanson
EXP Realty 414-525-0563 - Brookfield, WI
WI Real Estate Agents - Luxury - Divorce

There is often a high cost in proving or trying to prove...you are RiGHT !

May 01, 2016 10:07 PM
Roger D. Mucci
Shaken...with a Twist 216.633.2092 - Euclid, OH
Lets shake things up at your home today!

I've had many conflicts with myself.

May 01, 2016 10:07 PM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Lou Ludwig ,

i like your message this morning and sage advice...best way way to deal with conflict is don't be a part of it..life is to short to spend it in turmoil. Find a resolution and move on!!

May 01, 2016 10:11 PM
Yolanda Cordova-Gilbert
Richmond, TX

Lou,

 You are correct some people revel in having conflict! I hope you have a wonderful day!

May 01, 2016 10:11 PM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

Haha, it is difficult to have a conflict with yourself, but I am not surprised that the person that commented above has done so.

May 01, 2016 10:50 PM
Susan Laxson CRS
Palm Properties - La Quinta, CA
Realtor in San Diego, CA & Naples, FL

Thank you Lou, I agree that it takes two to interact in the conflict. I used to engage in them in defense, but then found I was happier just to leave the drama behind me.

May 01, 2016 10:53 PM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Lou, there are some people wake to have conflict with others, and those are the ones to stay clear of.

May 01, 2016 11:32 PM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

Conflict is not something I enjoy.  Some people just enjoy it far too much!

May 01, 2016 11:51 PM
Bill Roberts
Brooks and Dunphy Real Estate - Oceanside, CA
"Baby Boomer" Retirement Planner

Yes Lou Ludwig We used to say that it takes two to tango.

Bill Roberts

May 02, 2016 12:26 AM
Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Happily Retired - Franklin, MA
Previously Affiliated with The Todaro Team

Good morning, Lou Ludwig oh, that's a tough challenge.... it takes two, but it takes discipline to walk away when challenged with something confrontational....

May 02, 2016 12:49 AM
Anja Kerstens, 669.270.8034
Compass - Morgan Hill, CA
GRI, NHCB, CDPE, CHS. Silicon Valley Homes

Like your blog and you are right.  I don't like conflicts with others and prefer to just leave it alone myself. Not sure if I agree that a conflict is between two people.  As mentioned above it can be with yourself too.  How often are we in conflict with ourself; emotions or decisions that have to be made.

 

May 02, 2016 02:00 AM
Nicole Doty - Gilbert Real Estate Expert
Zion Realty - Gilbert, AZ
Broker/Owner of Zion Realty ZionRealtyAZ.com

Pot stirrers are everywhere. They like to argue regardless of the topic. I avoid those people as much as possible. 

May 02, 2016 03:21 AM
Robert Bob Gilbert
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Anderson Properties - Katy, TX
Your Katy TX ( West of Houston) Real Estate Expert

Lou, Wise words in your post as mutual resolution of any conflict is the way to go. 

May 02, 2016 06:53 AM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

The words of that quote are so very true.  I learned years ago that there is a power in surrender.  It manifests itself in not needing to pump the adrenaline and drama it takes to participate in conflict.

May 02, 2016 12:02 PM
William Feela
WHISPERING PINES REALTY - North Branch, MN
Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

and the more you can downplay the issue  the sooner you can take one or both out of the equation

May 02, 2016 12:59 PM