Every Home Has An Attitude

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by Patricia Feager 6/11/2016


As an agent, I've seen a lot of homes. There are many different styles, tastes, architectural designs, quality, smells, color, texture, and unique features. Regardless of size, price range, or location, there's one thing that sets them all apart - attitude! You can feel it, as soon as you walk into a stranger's home. Buyers may not know it, but I believe whether vacant or occupied, people emit an attitude, an energy, a part of themselves that they leave behind. 


Every room tells a story. People, need not be present. Creatures are not necessary. Yet the remnants, the traces of the living linger around, and the Real Estate Agent is powerless in convincing someone to buy a home that has the wrong attitude. I stepped into a room the other day, and saw a book opened to the following page:




Afterwords, I spent time reflecting on the meaning of the following sentences:


"Attitude, to me, is more important than facts."


Ah ha! I thought to myself, the fact that so many people buy something else than their original criteria, or what they had in mind, explains why people often buy a home that doesn't match the original plan. Facts, such as the number of square feet, location, price range, can shift and become something completely different!


Buyers, who plan to buy and live in the home are picky. They are making one of the most expensive investments of their lives. I understand buyers can be overly critical and distrustful when making a sale. When it comes to money, people are protective and they resist the urge to buy what doesn't feel right. When it comes to making a decision, I'm of the opinion, it's the property that shows the right attitude, peace-at-all costs, is what drives people to make a decision, not agents. 


"It is more important than the past, than education, 

than money, than circumstances, than failures,

than successes, than what other people

think, say and do."


There are many factors that come into play when making a major decision. Parting with money, isn't the issue, it's the sacrifices, hard work, hopes, and dreams that got the buyer to the point of making the decision that makes a huge difference. The time to move involves many different emotions. Behind the curtain of the brain are emotions, self-worth, self-doubt, a comfort level, pain, sorrow, happiness, joy, and life changing events that aren't visible to the agent showing houses, nor is it apparent in MLS photographs. An experienced agent knows, all this false bravado, "you're qualified to buy," doesn't mean a thing, if the heart is not in the right place.


Frilly curtains or no window treatments, Granite or Formica, carpeting, wood floors, or ceramic tile, all these worldly substitutes for what goes on inside the mind of a buyer have no comparison to the ultimate decision that rests with an educated buyer with a past of their own.


"Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it."


I started out in life, being that little girl with hopes and dreams who played with dolls and doll houses. Life experiences have challenged me to know and understand that a broken heart is crushed but the spirit still lives on. I've been in situations where I had to move and it wasn't my decision. My worldly possessions were destroyed in fire and flood waters. In addition, I was able to leave the past behind and relocate to start another life on an emotional high and I soared!


We are all only human. Financial sacrifices are many; yet I believe dreams can be achieved when you believe in yourself. An emotional past doesn't have to paralyze the purchaser - it takes a gentle soul who guides and understands people, who can help others get to where they need to be without making demands. Decisions are hard enough - they don't need deadlines or impromptu decisions based on facts and emotions.  



"We are in charge of our attitudes."



©Straight from the heart of Patricia Feager 6/11/2016





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Patricia Feager
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Kathleen Daniels - thank you for your good wishes. Energy can transform our way of thinking or cripple us into believing nothing will change. A positive attitude washes away the crud that is tasteless and invisible but ever present!

Jun 11, 2016 06:20 AM #35
Evelyn Johnston
Friends & Neighbors Real Estate - Elkhart, IN
The People You Know, Like and Trust!

Patricia, I have never thoughtn about a house with attitue, but I might be changing my mind. Great reflections today!

Jun 11, 2016 07:23 AM #36
Patricia Feager
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Hi Evelyn Johnston - Whether or not the buyer feels a threatening attitude or a relaxing attitude, it's all about attitude and that's what determines their decisions! 

Thank you so much for liking my post today! May you have a wonderful day!

Jun 11, 2016 10:14 AM #37
Larry Johnston
Broker, Friends & Neighbors Real Estate and Elkhart County Subdivisions, LLC - Elkhart, IN
Broker,Friends & Neighbors Real Estate, Elkhart,IN

Hi Patricia Feager , I used to listen to Charles Swindall when I lived in California and even visited his church.  He had some great messages to arouse our inner self.  I agree that we can get a feeling of who lived there, even when they have left.  Congratulations on your Feature.

Jun 11, 2016 10:28 AM #38
Patricia Feager
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Larry Johnston - I never heard of Charles Swindall before and isn't it interesting that Beth Atalay from FL and you in Indiana have listened to him. It must have been quite an experience for you to attend his church in California - unforgettable, I'm sure. 

We do get a feeling of who lived in houses before, don't we... Energy is a powerful force!

Jun 11, 2016 10:31 AM #39
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Patricia, I see the change from beginning to end in most of my Borrowers.  They have an image of what they can purchase at a certain price, and then reality sets in and their criteria changes as well as their attitude.

Jun 11, 2016 11:46 AM #40
Patricia Feager
Selling Homes Changing Lives

George Souto - what do people really want? Do they trust anyone? When I start working with buyers, I ask them questions, such as what price range are they wanting to see? The typical response is, "We are qualified for more than what we want to pay;" yet it never seems to fail. We'll start out looking at lower end homes and suddenly, they are searching for homes outside of my criteria. 

You're right George, they have an image of what they can purchase but it usually exceeds their realistic expectations and when reality sets in, they don't dare blame themselves, they get frustrated, present low-ball offers, or find someone else to represent them. It's hard to face the wrong attitude and work accordingly to achieve the goal. Sometimes you win; other times you lose. 

Jun 11, 2016 12:12 PM #41
Lou Ludwig
Ludwig & Associates - Boca Raton, FL
Designations Earned CRB, CRS, CIPS, GRI, SRES, TRC


Live is 10% what happens to you and 90% on how you react to it. How you react to happen to is in your attitude.

Good luck and success.

Lou Ludwig

Jun 11, 2016 12:42 PM #42
Lou Ludwig
Ludwig & Associates - Boca Raton, FL
Designations Earned CRB, CRS, CIPS, GRI, SRES, TRC


Congratulation on the gold star feature on an outstanding post.

Good luck and success.

Lou Ludwig

Jun 11, 2016 12:45 PM #43
Lauren Selinsky Broker CRS
California Coastal Estates - Aliso Viejo, CA
"Your California Real Estate Broker" TM #oclauren

They do have attitudes, not all bad though...

Jun 11, 2016 03:35 PM #44
Susan Laxson CRS
Parks Real Estate - Franklin, TN
Local Knowledge & Global Network

Patricia, your post was definitely "straight from the heart" and your words resonated in me things that I have felt but didn't know how to express. I can't count the times that I have witnessed buyers go into a home, turn around and leave while explaining, "This house just doesn't feel right." I understood, because I have been in homes where I had to leave because the aura or negative energy was so strong. It may sound loopy to some, but I agree that houses do have attitudes and I respect my clients ability to discern what is right for them. Thank you for this beautifully written and sensitive post.

Jun 11, 2016 10:31 PM #45
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Unless we become like little children, we just might miss out on lots of things

Jun 11, 2016 11:36 PM #46
Harry F. D'Elia
Real Estate and Beyond, LLC - Phoenix, AZ
Investor , Mentor, GRI, Radio, CIPS, REOs, ABR

I have found people love to react negatively than positively due to their own decisions in life. We have so much to be thankful for in this country.

Jun 12, 2016 12:01 AM #47
Michael Jacobs
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage - Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena Area Real Estate 818.516.4393

Hi Patricia -- what an interesting post and a thought that never entered my mind previously but one that likely will not be forgotten soon.  

Jun 12, 2016 02:47 AM #48
Karen Feltman
Cedar Rapids/Iowa City, IA KW Legacy Group - Cedar Rapids, IA
Relocation Specialist in Cedar Rapids, Iowa

Attitude definitely makes all the difference in the world.  Thinking positively and coming from a place of abundance, where there is enough business for everyone and that every loss is usually a gain to something better...lofty goals indeed.  But when your attitude is right, you will sleep well at night and treat people well.  Thank you for sharing.

Jun 12, 2016 05:54 AM #49
Claude Labbe
Real Living | At Home - Washington, DC
Realty for Your Busy Life

As I was reading this, it occurred to me you were spot on. Homes, in some strange way, work or don't work for the people coming through the front door.

I'd offer the same is true for agents.  Not every agent will have the right attitude for a given buyer(s). Surely that's a two-way check as well.

I've not figured out the metaphysics of this, but I've come to understand that if something isn't clicking, it's best to disengage professionally.  Or, to look at the next home.

Jun 12, 2016 12:28 PM #50
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Patricia- another from the heart post and so well done.  Attitude is so incredibly important and people may not realize it but people, animals and things around us pick up on our attitude. You are so right...we are in control of our attitudes!

Jun 12, 2016 12:44 PM #51
Praful Thakkar
LAER Realty Partners - Andover, MA
Andover, MA: Andover Luxury Homes For Sale

Patricia Feager - you nailed it! One of the best post I have read recently.

And one of the best quote, too -

""Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.""

I don't knowwhy people blame others for their failures.

Jun 12, 2016 12:48 PM #52
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
New Hampshire Home Stager

Love this. I need an inspirational quote for a meeting tomorrow  and plan to quote that book page.....thank you!

Jun 13, 2016 12:49 AM #53
Mihir Gandhi
First Team Real Estate - Placentia, CA
Real Estate in Placentia - North O.C. CA

Very nice post - straight from the heart with a positive attitude!

Attitude in all aspects of life determines the altitude at which we fly!



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