How To Make More Friends

Real Estate Agent SL3287291

This is not a post about how to get more Facebook friends. Most people have more Facebook friends that they do not know than the ones they know. So, are they really friends?

"You can make more friends in 2 months by becoming genuinely interested in other people than you can in 2 years by trying to get other people interested in you."

Dale Carnegie

If we took a poll of the people you have any kind of relationship with and asked them if they see you as a person who is more interested in others than in promoting yourself, how do you think they would respond?

Our perception of ourselves is not always in tune with how others see us.

What would you say is the key to being perceived as a person who truly is interested in others?

I think the best starting point is to Listen more than you speak.

I have tried to live by the idea that to have a friend, you must be a friend.



Comments (6)

Karen Hurst
Rhode Island Waterfront!

Friends or Associates?  I have tons of associated friends! I have possibly three actual friends.   A friend is someone who you will do anything for and they will do anything for you. It's a rare thing to have many of them. However, just being interested in what other people have to say is an important concept that seems to be vanishing. Everyone likes to talk about themselves. It's easy to encourage people to talk about themselves. That is the greatest lesson I have ever learned. Just listen!

Jun 13, 2016 11:41 PM
Harry F. D'Elia III
RentVest - Phoenix, AZ
Investor , Mentor, GRI, Radio, CIPS, REOs, ABR

I would also add pursuit. Is the other person pursing the friendship?

Jun 13, 2016 11:50 PM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy


What a thoughtful post..."friends" is another word that lost its meaning with social media.  We don't have our real friends on social media.  Seriously, I would rather get together with them share a meal, share experiences and laughs.  A

Jun 13, 2016 11:57 PM
John Wiley
Fort Myers, FL
Lee County, FL, ECO Broker, GRI, SRES,GREEN,PSA

Karen Hurst thank you for sharing your thoughts and adding to the conversation. I agree that we need to listen.

Jun 14, 2016 12:07 AM
John Wiley
Fort Myers, FL
Lee County, FL, ECO Broker, GRI, SRES,GREEN,PSA

Harry F. D'Elia thanks for contributing. You are so right, not everyone is pursuing a friendship.

Jun 14, 2016 12:08 AM
John Wiley
Fort Myers, FL
Lee County, FL, ECO Broker, GRI, SRES,GREEN,PSA

Ron and Alexandra Seigel I really appreciate your thoughtful response. O yes, it is better to break bread with friends.


Jun 14, 2016 12:10 AM