When There is a Death in the Family

Hi Elizabeth --- it's sad but likely not unexpected.  You have the right attitude...moving on and moving forward...may your brother rest in peace.   

At a time when all surviving should have appreciation for each other, it is the time that the factions in the family, or rifts from years past, rear their ugly head.  I am sorry your sister feels slighted by the omission in the death notice.  It may not have been intentional.  I do think you have the right approach in your view.  You see the good in what your sister-in-law did to save your brother.  

I do hope everyone finds peace, because that is what your brother sought in the last year of his life.  Everyone should be following his lead.

I think you have the right attitude, and you have to keep moving forward.  Your brother certainly faced his share of demons and undoubtedly, your SIL earned her wings.  It's such a shame when things deteriorate among family members, but it's all too frequent.  I hope your brother is able to rest in peace.

Good morning Elizabeth. It is sometimes difficult to understand and can be hurtful, but your thinking is so right.

This is an important topic for a blog, Elizabeth.  I've seen that ugliness rear its head, not only during real estate transactions, but in my own family as well. When My mother passed, her step children who had not seen her in over nine years, came out of the woodwork to contest her will.  Because I was named executor of her estate, I was targeted.  The legal wrangling went on for two years, and kept me tied in knots, and unable to grieve properly.  Gratefully, her will prevailed in court.