What's Your Focus?

Real Estate Agent with RE/Max Associates DE#RA-0003085 PA#RS347136

As the Executor of her neighbor’s will and estate, my sister was researching details for the funeral. If you’ve never had to do so, you’d be amazed by all the decisions to be made along the way, even if there’s a will. Engrossed in her search, she wasn’t fully aware of the virtual fingerprints she was leaving. She wasn’t aware, that is, until she started to pay attention to the ads running along the right-hand side of her Facebook page each time she opened it. Caskets of mahogany, cherry, and every other variety of wood adorned the edge of the page.


So how do you get rid of unwanted casket ads? You have to force them off the page.


She opened a new tab. Entered a new search.

Villas in Tuscany.


I mean, really. If you’re going to change the page, CHANGE the page!


It worked.

Now she travels virtually all over the place. When Tuscany’s lustre wore off, she googled train travel in the west. While she’s working on other things on her computer, she’s also touring the Grand Canyon.


What are the visuals that you’re allowing on the pages of your life? It might be time to ask yourself… Where do I need to reset my focus?




Comments (30)

Anna Banana Kruchten CRS, CRB, Phoenix Broker
HomeSmart Real Estate BR030809000 - Phoenix, AZ

Monica now this is a fabulous idea!  I love it! I'm going to do a lot more traveling around now for sure!

Jul 04, 2016 09:55 AM
Monica Hill

Thanks, Anna. You can get just a TAD distracted if you're not careful!

Jul 05, 2016 01:32 AM
Anna Banana Kruchten CRS, CRB, Phoenix Broker
HomeSmart Real Estate BR030809000 - Phoenix, AZ

PS have you used duckduckgoduck to for searching?  Somebody here in the rain said it is anonymous.

Jul 04, 2016 09:56 AM
Monica Hill

I've never heard of that. I'll check it out!

Jul 05, 2016 01:32 AM
Esther Preston
Heartland Realty - Redmond, OR

Wow, Great post and I didn't know all that about FB, but now I do. Thanks for the great information

Jul 04, 2016 10:48 AM
Monica Hill

Thanks, Esther!

Jul 05, 2016 01:33 AM
Claude Labbe
Real Living | At Home - Washington, DC
Realty for Your Busy Life

This post surely went in a different direction than I expected; but I will admit, it's a good idea to consider.

Jul 04, 2016 11:54 AM
Monica Hill

Thanks, Claude. A lot of my posts wander off in a different direction!

Jul 05, 2016 01:33 AM
Brian Rugg
Rugg Realty LLC Sun City Texas 512-818-6700 - Georgetown, TX
Sun City TX Real Estate - Georgetown, TX Real Est

Getting focused and making sure we get on with the life worth living. Amen

Jul 04, 2016 12:21 PM
Monica Hill

Very true, Brian!

Jul 05, 2016 01:33 AM
Praful Thakkar
LAER Realty Partners - Andover, MA
Andover, MA: Andover Luxury Homes For Sale

Monica Hill - great analogy!

Start with new habits to get rid of the old ones....

Jul 04, 2016 04:01 PM
Monica Hill

Thanks, Praful!

Jul 05, 2016 01:33 AM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667, kat@thehousekat.com, Broker, eXp Realty - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

That's a great idea! Changing the ads to things we'd actually like to see!

Jul 04, 2016 08:17 PM
Monica Hill

It's a fun way to change the scenery of your pages, for sure, Kat!

Jul 05, 2016 01:34 AM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Hi Monica... an interesting perspective... I must admit that I have a certain amount of tunnel vision and really don't notice those ads and hadn't given it much thought till I read your post. All in all, a great analogy.

Jul 04, 2016 08:45 PM
Monica Hill

Thanks, Nina. So much of what happens around us with technology evolves right under our noses and often, we're not aware of it.

Jul 05, 2016 01:36 AM
Ron Barnes
Associate Broker at Berkshire Hathaway Home Services Georgia Properties - Jasper, GA
"Most agents claim they're #1 - I THINK YOU'RE #1!

What a fantastic idea! I'm starting today!

Jul 04, 2016 10:42 PM
Monica Hill

Glad I could help, Ron!

Jul 05, 2016 01:36 AM
Jennifer Mackay
Counts Real Estate Group, Inc. - Panama City, FL
Your Bay County Florida Realtor 850.774.6582

I've got ads blocked on all sites - guess the pics of my life are in my head LOL ;) Thanks for sharing Monica Hill 

Jul 04, 2016 10:56 PM
Monica Hill

You're welcome, Jennifer. For you, the pics could be on Pinterest!

Jul 05, 2016 01:36 AM
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Just the beginning this spying is. Consider that there are sites that do not reveal themselves but track and gather your data and prepare it for sale or keepsies

Jul 05, 2016 12:07 AM
Monica Hill

I almost didn't want to like your comment, Richie, because I know... unfortunately... that it's true.

Jul 05, 2016 01:37 AM
Sally K. & David L. Hanson
EXP Realty 414-525-0563 - Brookfield, WI
WI Real Estate Agents - Luxury - Divorce

Fingerprints are everywhere and it does feel like someone is in your underwear drawer !

Jul 05, 2016 12:19 AM
Monica Hill

Yikes! Not in there. :-)

Jul 05, 2016 01:37 AM
Hella M. Rothwell, Broker/Realtor®
Carmel by the Sea, CA
Rothwell Realty Inc. CA#01968433 Carmel-by-the-Sea

Mine is jewelry from Macy's and florists from when I was looking for presents. Hm...let's see what I want to drool over!

Jul 05, 2016 12:22 AM
Monica Hill

Nice frosting on your page, for sure, Hella!

Jul 05, 2016 01:38 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

This post was not at all what I expected! Some good suggestions here. Scary how we are watched and courted!


Jul 05, 2016 12:40 AM
Monica Hill

It is scary, Jeff. I'm grateful for the suggestions this has highlighted for how to avoid some of the tracking.

Jul 05, 2016 01:39 AM
Matt Berman
Berman Estates Inc - San Marcos, CA
Matt Sells SD

Very true! It's amazing how quick they put the ads in our face!

Jul 05, 2016 12:54 AM
Monica Hill

I know, Matt. I keep getting followed everywhere by one of my fellow REALTORS. I like her but... :-)

Jul 05, 2016 01:39 AM
Beth Atalay
Cam Realty and Property Management - Clermont, FL
Cam Realty of Clermont FL

Hi Monica, I don't even notice the ads running on my FB page, it is scary to even think how much we're watched though.

Jul 05, 2016 02:47 AM
Monica Hill

Hi Beth. It's enough that I get reminders about virtual shopping carts I've left unattended, but the ads, too? Just a bit of overkill.

Jul 05, 2016 03:21 AM
Laura Filip
Laura Filip Broker , Opening doors for All Seasons of Life - Whitesboro, TX
What can we do for you today?

Interesting post,,,, do you follow your clients around the web? If these companies are doing it .... Should we be doing this as well????? Does it make a difference hmmmm I bet it does!

Jul 05, 2016 03:03 AM
Monica Hill

I wouldn't have enough hours in the day to follow them around but if they get annoying... all bets are off!

Jul 05, 2016 03:22 AM
Olga Simoncelli
Veritas Prime, LLC dba Veritas Prime Real Estate - New Fairfield, CT
CONSULTANT, Real Estate Services & Risk Management

It's uncanny to think "what" is tracking us.

Jul 05, 2016 04:44 AM
Monica Hill

I know. Not sure if I want to think about it too much!

Jul 05, 2016 08:08 AM
Jane Peters
Home Jane Realty - Los Angeles, CA
Los Angeles real estate concierge services

That's a great piece of advice. I shall have to think of something fun to have fed down the side of every page I visit.

Jul 05, 2016 05:01 AM
Monica Hill

Thanks. It could be like seasonal decorations for your pages!

Jul 05, 2016 08:08 AM
Harry F. D'Elia III
RentVest - Phoenix, AZ
Investor , Mentor, GRI, Radio, CIPS, REOs, ABR

There are times we have to shake the etch a sketch and draw a new picture in life.

Jul 05, 2016 02:09 PM
Monica Hill

Great visual, Harry! I like that one!

Jul 06, 2016 01:56 AM