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Choosing Our Words Wisely

By
Real Estate Agent

www.myrljeffcoat.com

There’s no question about it, there are many promises and statements being made during this emotionally charged political campaign season.  They often leave the lips in absolute terms, by those hoping to become president.  It’ll be interesting to witness how quickly the political promises will dissipate into the dustbin of historical rhetoric, once the new president is elected.  Will that Wall be built?  Will the Mexicans pay for it?  What about that $15.00 an hour minimum wage – Will it become reality?

Dogmatic statements made by politicians may work for politicians, but they won’t work very well for real estate professionals.

How many of you have heard real estate professionals speak with authority about things in absolute terms when they ought to be presented as only a possibility, or a maybe?

Most of us know the reality is often far less exuberant, than using the verb, "CAN" in the context of something.  There are other less committal verbs to describe things and events.  


As a real estate professional, whether you get into trouble or not, will often depend on how well a lesson I received years ago in an 8th grade English class, has also been learned by you. 

During my critical 8th grade year, Mrs. Kane, the English teacher, taught us the “State of Being” verbs.  There are 22 of them, and she made us memorize each and every one them.  They are as follows:


Is - Be - Am - Are - Was - Were - Been - Has - Have - Had - Do - Does - Did - May - Can - Might - Could - Must - Shall - Will - Should – Would

The lesson is about understanding the importance of not emphatically stating that something "IS" something, when in fact it "MAY" only be something instead.  Or stating something "WILL" be done, when it “MAY” or "MIGHT" only be done!

As real estate professionals, mixing up state of being verbs, and not selecting appropriately while communicating in the business world, can find us treading into painful litigation territory - Especially, if the "F" word gets tossed about.  The "F" bomb in this situation is the 5-letter word, "FRAUD" - rather than the 4-letter “F” word.

And neither you nor any of us needs that!

 

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Comments(88)

Robert Bob Gilbert
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Anderson Properties - Katy, TX
Your Katy TX ( West of Houston) Real Estate Expert

Hi Myrl, I am glad to hear that you do get an annual physical as many folks blow it off. 

Jul 20, 2016 06:11 AM
Yolanda Cordova-Gilbert
Richmond, TX

Myrl,

 Just stopping by to see if you had posted anything new I hope you are having a great week the heat is killing me!

Jul 20, 2016 09:35 AM
Debbie Reynolds, C21 Platinum Properties
Platinum Properties- (931)771-9070 - Clarksville, TN
The Dedicated Clarksville TN Realtor-(931)320-6730

This is really good advice and we do need to be very careful of the words we choose and the way we say them. Great post.

Jul 20, 2016 10:32 AM
Rene Fabre
ARFCO Media - Renton, WA
Practicing Philosophical Eclectic of the Arts

Wonderful post Myrl Jeffcoat ... We've certainly have come to understand this these past 8 years... A president can do what a president can do according to the system, yet almost more so as those on your own isle and those across the isle from you will go along with... Interesting times we live in, whom ever plays that next role, good luck to us, America, and them, and with love and prayers, they will accomplish what needs be accomplished and through it all I hope we do get the difference between it "is, might, may, and will"... Thank you for a thought provoking post!

Jul 20, 2016 10:41 AM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

Well done Myrl! This is excellent information for all of us, both for business and for every day life!

Jul 20, 2016 10:12 PM
Patricia Kennedy
RLAH@properties - Washington, DC
Home in the Capital

Myrl, you sure did earn your gold star with this one!  And this works well beyond real estate!

Jul 20, 2016 11:45 PM
Karen Fiddler, Broker/Owner
Karen Parsons-Fiddler, Broker 949-510-2395 - Mission Viejo, CA
Orange County & Lake Arrowhead, CA (949)510-2395

And it's so important to think about this when putting anything in writing. With so much of our communication being in email, we have to be very careful. 

Jul 21, 2016 02:40 AM
Robert Bob Gilbert
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Anderson Properties - Katy, TX
Your Katy TX ( West of Houston) Real Estate Expert

Hi Myrl, 

Have a great hump day even though the day is over half over. I hope all is well with you and your family. 

Jul 21, 2016 05:56 AM
Lou Ludwig
Ludwig & Associates - Boca Raton, FL
Designations Earned CRB, CRS, CIPS, GRI, SRES, TRC

Myrl

Choose your words wisely  . . . . and business will be good . . . . and you will stay out of court.

Good luck and success.

Lou  Ludwig

Jul 21, 2016 12:18 PM
Lou Ludwig
Ludwig & Associates - Boca Raton, FL
Designations Earned CRB, CRS, CIPS, GRI, SRES, TRC

Myrl

Congratulations on on outstanding post an it being awarded a goal star feature.

Good luck and success.

Lou Ludwig

Jul 21, 2016 12:21 PM
Curtis Van Carter
Better Homes & Gardens Wine Country Group - Yountville, CA
Your Napa Valley Broker Extraordinaire

Myrl

With so much BS flying when there are conventions, who knows what to believe any more. Just wish they keep 1/10 of what they promise. Are we all not feed up with nothing...... cheers cvc

Jul 22, 2016 01:40 AM
Yolanda Cordova-Gilbert
Richmond, TX

Myrl,

 Just stopped by to say hello and hope you are having a good weekend!

Jul 23, 2016 07:57 AM
Evelyn Johnston
Friends & Neighbors Real Estate - Elkhart, IN
The People You Know, Like and Trust!

Outstanding post Myrl, our words can cause us a great deal of pain.

Jul 24, 2016 02:36 AM
Robert Bob Gilbert
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Anderson Properties - Katy, TX
Your Katy TX ( West of Houston) Real Estate Expert

Hi Myrl, Hav e a wonderful Sundat evening and I hope all is good with you. 

Jul 24, 2016 07:12 AM
Robert Bob Gilbert
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Anderson Properties - Katy, TX
Your Katy TX ( West of Houston) Real Estate Expert

Myrl, It is very hot here also but has been raining most of today. We needed it as everything was starting to burn . Hopefully you folks are not worried about these wildfires.. 

Jul 26, 2016 05:38 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

We must give pause at times and choose what to say prior to saying them because once out, they cannot be taken back again. Great post Myrl and congrats on the feature!

Jul 28, 2016 06:23 AM
Robert Bob Gilbert
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Anderson Properties - Katy, TX
Your Katy TX ( West of Houston) Real Estate Expert

Hi Myrl, 

Just checking and hoping you had posted something new. Take care.. 

Jul 28, 2016 06:37 AM
Lou Ludwig
Ludwig & Associates - Boca Raton, FL
Designations Earned CRB, CRS, CIPS, GRI, SRES, TRC

Myrl

Your post has generated a lot of interesting . . . . and outstanding post.

Good luck and success.

Lou Ludwig

Aug 01, 2016 10:44 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Myrl Jeffcoat - Voting beings in Texas today... Your post and English lesson were a good review. I wonder how many people will vote or have trouble deciding because of stupidity on both candidates part. 

Oct 23, 2016 11:56 PM
Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker!

There are no absolutes as I find out on a daily basis Myrl Jeffcoat 

Dec 04, 2017 08:34 PM