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I'll think about it tomorrow!

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with RICOASTALLIVING.COM

water view by Karen Hurst RI artistFirst, I am not plaguerizing Scarlett O'Hara!   I used this title because after years of stressing over little things, this phrase has been popping up in my head lately.

For those of you who don't know who Scarlett O'Hara is, she is the heroine in the book "Gone with the wind". She is originally very self oriented (in present day would have been a constant selfie taker), who loses her parents and almost everything she owns as the Civil War swirls around her. 

No matter what happened to her, nor how devastating it was, her favorite line was "I'll think about it tomorrow" "Tomorrow is another day"

I read that book several times and I still have an antique copy of it   Why, because I felt it was historical and I envied the beautiful woman that she was who could say and do whatever she pleased. Apparently, even after all these years, her slogan still sticks in my head.

Today, I thought about that slogan.   What it actually means is that if something is too frustrating, you cannot drive yourself crazy. You need to step back and stop thinking it upways and sideways. Take a break! An actual break, like leaving the situation or just removing yourself to a different and nice area and STOP thinking about it, period!

I have tried this tactic and it really does work, There are days when I get myself stressed out over Real Estate, family, general politics, etc. Now I stop and ask myself, why?   

A break is really, sometimes, all you need to look at something is a better way, and sometimes it helps your actual thoughts and how you are feeling about something. 

So to the vain, self centered, yet beautiful and spunky, Scarlett O'Hara, I say thankyou! (Or perhaps I should thank Margaret Mitchell the creative writer of this timeless novel)

I am going to take one of those breaks and get back to RI Real Estate tomorrow! Or maybe I'll start painting another landscape. That always reduces stress!

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Comments (21)

Tammy Adams ~ Realtor / Podcaster
Maricopa Real Estate Co - Maricopa, AZ
A Maricopa Agent who Works, Lives & Loves Maricopa

I keep threatening everyone around me that I'm going to run away for 24 hours. LOL  So I totally relate!

Jul 21, 2016 06:22 AM
Karen Hurst

Tammy Adams ~ Realtor Maricopa, AZ Maybe you should take that 24 hours!  I know I feel better after just taking off the afternoon!

Jul 22, 2016 07:20 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Karen

Gone With the Wind was such a classic. I had forgotten about this comment!

I think it can work for some things, but certain situations required no procrastination. And in our particular market, thinking about it tomorrow could mean a buyer will miss out on a great opportunity!

Jeff

Jul 21, 2016 06:30 AM
Karen Hurst

Yes Jeff Dowler CRS you should know me better than that! This is why I am so stressed out because I tend to do the opposite of procrastinate!  I am a micro manager!

Jul 22, 2016 07:21 AM
Ed Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

Oh Fiddle de Dee, for me it is the time to get way and hit a few golf balls.  Change of focus clears the mind

Jul 21, 2016 11:28 AM
Karen Hurst

Ed Silva     I think its great that you remembered Fiddle de Dee! ha ha, and yes we all need to do what makes us happy!

Jul 22, 2016 07:22 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Karen Hurst,

Gone With The Wind was one of my favorite books! Sometimes a step back is in order to get a different perspective on things. Thanks for your post..a good one. I just subscribed to your blog.

Jul 21, 2016 08:36 PM
Karen Hurst

Dorie Dillard Thanks for the vote of confidence! You might get bored though! Gone With the Wind was my absolute favorite book. I used to be able to quote the first couple of pages!   I should read it again, now that I am so much older and see if I still like it!

Jul 22, 2016 07:24 AM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

I totally agree - sometimes we just have to take a break and think about it later (whatever our "it' might be!)

Jul 21, 2016 08:38 PM
Karen Hurst

Kat Palmiotti  I didn't take much time, but after I typed this yesterday, I regrouped and today I am back on my game.  Til next time, lol, but there is nothing wrong with a break and I don't know why I and many others deny ourselves!

Jul 22, 2016 07:26 AM
Gita Bantwal
RE/MAX Centre Realtors - Warwick, PA
REALTOR,ABR,CRS,SRES,GRI - Bucks County & Philadel

Thank you for sharing . I loved the book, 'Gone with the wind ." 

Jul 21, 2016 08:58 PM
Karen Hurst

@Gita Bantwal, I thnk many women loved that book! Not so sure about the men though.  It showed us a completely different time and custom and made it interesting. Margaret Mitchell was a wonderful writer.

Jul 22, 2016 07:28 AM
Sham Reddy CRS
Howard Hanna RE Services, Dayton, OH - Dayton, OH
CRS

Thanks for sharing!!!

A break is really, sometimes, all you need to look at something is a better way, and sometimes it helps your actual thoughts and how you are feeling about something.

Jul 21, 2016 09:29 PM
Karen Hurst

Sham Reddy Glad you enjoyed it!

Jul 22, 2016 07:29 AM
Harry F. D'Elia III
WEDO Real Estate and Beyond, LLC - Phoenix, AZ
Investor , Mentor, GRI, Radio, CIPS, REOs, ABR

We all need to charge our batteries by going away for the weekend. Golf for me.

Jul 21, 2016 10:00 PM
Karen Hurst

Good point Harry F. D'Elia I wasn't thinking of it in those terms of charging batteries, but you are absolutely right!

Jul 22, 2016 07:30 AM
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Rhett Butler knew she needed kissin & lots of it. At one point, he did give a dam

Jul 21, 2016 10:56 PM
Karen Hurst

Ha Ha Richie Alan Naggar Rhett Butler knew her well and she did not know herse;f!   

Jul 22, 2016 07:31 AM
Jill Sackler
Charles Rutenberg Realty Inc. 516-575-7500 - Long Beach, NY
LI South Shore Real Estate - Broker Associate

I like your post. There is a lot of truth to it. Funny that you have to begin with a disclaimer. A sign of the times we live in.

Jul 21, 2016 11:42 PM
Karen Hurst

Yes Jill Sackler it's unfortunate to have to begin with a disclaimer, lol, but I find it clears the air!   Half the time I'm afraid to say anything, just in case!   

Jul 22, 2016 07:32 AM
Karen Fiddler, Broker/Owner
Karen Parsons-Fiddler, Broker 949-510-2395 - Mission Viejo, CA
Orange County & Lake Arrowhead, CA (949)510-2395

I have mastered this technique. Sometimes I need to step away realizing that nothing is going to fall a part for a few hours, or days if I don't react instantly.

Jul 21, 2016 11:54 PM
Karen Hurst

Right, and good for you to have mastered the technique Karen Fiddler, Broker/Owner   I'm still working on it and yes to keep reminding myself that reacting instantly is not necessarily the best way. Sometimes, things tend to fall into place without my help!

Jul 22, 2016 07:34 AM
Margaret Goss
@Properties - Winnetka, IL
Chicago's North Shore & Winnetka Real Estate

My mother handed me the book when I was in 7th grade.  I remember thinking "no way am I reading that huge thing."  As you know, I couldn't put it down. Then I reread it a few years later.

And yes, putting off something until tomorrow is not always a bad thing!

 

Jul 22, 2016 12:10 AM
Karen Hurst

Your mother was a wise woman @Margaret Goss, and yes, I suspect anyone that received it could not put it down! 

Jul 22, 2016 07:35 AM
Patricia Kennedy
RLAH@Properties - Washington, DC
Home in the Capital

Karen, this is just wonderful advice.  There is so much that we really can't control, except for our reaction to what we can't control.  And I think a lot of us are making ourselves crazy over things we should just let somebody else worry about.  

Jul 22, 2016 11:28 AM
Karen Hurst

I agree Patricia Kennedy sometimes it's not even our problems! I find myself stressing over other peoples issues!  Unless there is something I can actually do, I need to move on.

Jul 22, 2016 10:39 PM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

One thing I'm always telling people is not to borrow tomorrow's problems today. We have enough to stress about today. 

Jul 22, 2016 11:57 PM
Sam Shueh
(408) 425-1601 - San Jose, CA
mba, cdpe, reopro, pe

The movie is also my favorite. Have watched it many times and never get tired of it. Vivien Hartley was married to Laurence Olivier and is from Himalayan west Bengal district.  In real life she is bipolar very hard to live with....

Jul 23, 2016 03:58 AM
Praful Thakkar
LAER Realty Partners - Andover, MA
Andover, MA: Andover Luxury Homes For Sale

Karen Hurst - well said! We all need to take a break (for safety sake, if we are on road....)

Love this punch-line:

"A break is really, sometimes, all you need to look at something is a better way"

Jul 23, 2016 03:35 PM
Olga Simoncelli
Veritas Prime, LLC dba Veritas Prime Real Estate - New Fairfield, CT
CONSULTANT, Real Estate Services & Risk Management

Karen, I like your interpretation of the term.

Jul 23, 2016 09:51 PM
Sham Reddy CRS
Howard Hanna RE Services, Dayton, OH - Dayton, OH
CRS

Great share!!!

If something is too frustrating, you cannot drive yourself crazy. You need to step back and stop thinking it upways and sideways. Take a break! An actual break, like leaving the situation or just removing yourself to a different and nice area and STOP thinking about it

Jul 24, 2016 09:27 PM
Jane Peters
Home Jane Realty - Los Angeles, CA
Los Angeles real estate concierge services

I am one of those people who need to take care of things immediately. I envy anyone who can put things aside and deal with them in a calmer note. That would drive me insane.  

Jul 26, 2016 07:17 AM
Mimi Foster
Falcon Property Company - Colorado Springs, CO
Voted Colorado Springs Best Realtor

Fiddledeedee - this is a great post and even better advice. The older I get, the more I like to take time and think things through. Hope you're doing well! 

 

Aug 21, 2016 12:00 PM