How do you connect today? Do you remember your last great conversation? I discovered this blog this morning and found it filled with food for thought. If connecting is important to you, here is an interesting take by Kathy Streib on how we can improve our relationships with each other whether speaking to a stranger in line at Starbucks, having dinner with a new friend or meeting a customer for the first time.
Conversation, Commenting and Listening.
Did you ever think you were having a conversation with someone but realized that while they appeared to be listening to you, they were really thinking about what they were going to say next? And often what they said had nothing to do with your topic of conversation.
This happened recently with a friend whom we really like. But it dawned on me that there was often no back and forth in our conversations.
There is no “I know what you mean.” or “I can’t believe that happened.”
Instead, as soon as you are finished with what you are saying, they start in with what they are going to say with nary an acknowledgement of what you said.
In reality, there isn’t a real conversation going on when this happens. It’s a dialogue traveling on a one-way street.
And, it very much reminded me of the commenting on posts that we have here.
“Conversation: an oral exchange of sentiments, observations, opinions, or ideas”
How boring/lonely it would be if no one ever acknowledged what we said.
Commenting is part of the conversation that goes on in this community. It is the back and forth of hellos, opinions, agreements, disagreements, that adds value to this community.
Commenting is also how we get to know a member. Your personality comes out in what you say, or what you don’t say.
If you’re here lurking, which is how many of us started, then I would encourage you to take that first step and try commenting on a post. It won’t hurt. And you’d be surprised at some of the benefits. Some of my friends at ActiveRain are ones I met after reading their comments, then going over to their blog to learn more about them.
(And, yes, there is another post yet to come on responding/acknowledging to comments made on your post. )