Dropping the Drag

Real Estate Broker/Owner with Providence Group Realty TREC# 0608931

Successful salespeople, particularly those in straight-commission or business ownership pursuits, are often students of self-improvement and leadership.

Jim Rohn, motivational speaker and personal development trainer, teaches the importance of guarding that which we allow to influence our minds.

Rohn sagely cautions us to remember that we are the average of the folks we spend the most time with. 

The advent of social media brings incremental levels of exposure on a daily basis. As a key element in personal marketing, social networking is a staple for most Realtors. Developing postive habits and cultivating meaningful relationships can prove to be challenging, particularly as a salesperson's reach grows.

There's a Fine Line Between "Collecting" and "Connecting"

Keeping a clean friends list and newsfeed is vital to maintaining a positive mental attitude and productive spirit. It's too easy to fall into a trap of "collecting", subjecting your own mind to a mindless feed of subversive input in the spirit of trying to "connect" with others.

Similar to a browser with too many open windows, our souls can become burdened and sluggish by the spiritual drag that evolves from follower collection.

If you find that your thoughts are increasingly negative, or that your mood is hampered by dissappointment or feelings of unhappiness, consider "who" you are spending time with -- virtually.

Here is a short list of offending "friend" types you would be better off unfollowing, or eliminating completely:

  1. The "Not Really There"s -- These are most often the "friends" who leverage automated posting, typically from one social media platform to another, and aren't really attending to the network you are connected to each other through. For example, Sally is active on Instagram, and feeds her Instagram to Twitter and Facebook, but only interacts with friends on Instagram.  Watching "Sally TV" from Facebook and Twitter is ok if you are Sally's stalker, but a one-way street does not a friendship make. 

  2. The "SpammerWhammer"s -- These are "Friends" who can't talk about anything but the wares they are hawking, or permit themselves to take advantage of commenting on other's feeds to shamelessly self promote. Fire these predators, for they will taint your reputation as well if you allow them to do so.

  3. The "Really Don't Care"s -- These are the attention seekers who post on social media to get likes, hearts, and comments, but won't take time to like or comment back. It's all about them, and you are reduced to a member of their entourage -- reading their news, commenting only on their feed, and displaying your love for them.  Real friends reciprocate and acknowledge your attention, and also show care for what happens in your world. Those who really don't care about you show it with their actions and lack thereof. Professional salespeople get enough rejection in their line of work without their "friends" treating them this way.

  4. The "Angry About Everything"s -- They complain. They rant. They vent. Politics, religion, the ways of the world, the color of the sky -- you name it. While none of us are immune to the occassional temptation to share or "out" bad things when they are significantly impacting our lives, the "friend" personalities who live in "victim mode" are nothing less than emotional vampires. Your attention to their tirades won't fix their problems. Conversely, it wastes your attention and focus by distracting you from your purpose, and compromises your mind by feeding it negativity with every angry word read.

  5. The "Activist"s - Bless them, for they are passionate and sincere in their efforts, but their message is poisonous to a reader's soul. These are "friends" who won't stop at posting grapic imagery and a constant barrage of advertorials to promote "awareness" of the evil that obsessively taxes their hearts and minds. They don't understand that sharing in this way is the same as inflicting that same abuse upon others... Truly, there are monsters in this world, and our society is rife with injustice and atrocities. However, being constantly subjected to looking at and thinking about the WORST things of this world (in the name of friendship) is absolutely unhealthy. Better boundaries are needed. 

  6. The "Hater"s - Frenemies lurking in your life can be recognized by their behavior.  Like sharks bumping prey in murky waters, their connection with you is sporadic, and presents as a bit spiteful with traces of sarcasm. They may intentionally maintain relationships with folks whom you've broken ties -- or someone they know has hurt you in the past. These are the followers that maliciously "hide" or "report" happy news you share about something good happening in your life. You sense they aren't truly well wishers, and that they are usurous, hanging around to leverage information for their own benefit and likely for your detriment. Adopting a "keep your friends close and your enemies closer" strategy is not the right approach on social media platforms. Do more than "unfollow" this connection... "unfriend" and "block" to reduce the needless chaos and negativity cluttering your life.

Quality - Not Quantity

Simplifying your social media strategy is as easy as "keeping it real".  Dropping prentenses and building meaningful, mutually beneficial relationships will serve far better than amassing millions of "followers" without substance. If you won't protect your mind from negativity, who will?


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Bruce Walter
Keller Williams Realty Lafayette/West Lafayette, Indiana - West Lafayette, IN

Amanda, you have presented six great reasons why I have been off FB for almost three years now.  It got to the point where I unfriended all the local real estate agents as my newsfeed was continually being blown up with self promotion.  Lots of positive uses as well but just not worth the emotional drain.

Have a strong finish to your week, Amanda!

Aug 10, 2016 05:23 AM #1
NextHome Realty Center - Cypress, TX
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Great post!  I'm sorry that I missed it when originally posted.  I try to limit my social media time and when on, treat others the way that I hope to be great. I love The Golden Rule!   I have had to 'block' those on FB that are in your categories or even go through and 'unfriend' some from time to time.  Same thing as knowing that I can't watch the news every time it's on or it will drag me down, but yet I want to be informed.  Through the years,  I've found there's a difference between the two and try to keep perspective. Thanks!

Sep 08, 2016 11:53 AM #2
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