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An Observation…..8/30

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Services for Real Estate Pros with Referral Group Incorporated

I just returned from dinner with one of the young people I have sort of mentored at work. It was an easy and lovely evening and we both enjoyed ourselves. At some point my young friend asked me if I thought she was smart. I was taken back. As I told her we wouldn't be out together unless I thought she was smart. I like smart people and wondered why she asked. Apparently someone from the Boston Symphony Orchestra had made her feel less than for working at Naumkeag, the museum/mansion and gardens where we both work. I hate that. People, good people don't need to make themselves feel better at someone elses expense. Smart people don't wear it, don't promote their own talents, and don't belittle others.

Some of the smartest and kindest folks I have ever known are the ones who do what works for them without fanfare or bravado and never because it is important to anyone but themselves. I call that passion and passion matters.

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Comments (24)

Larry Johnston
Broker, Friends & Neighbors Real Estate and Elkhart County Subdivisions, LLC - Elkhart, IN
Broker,Friends & Neighbors Real Estate, Elkhart,IN

Hi Sheila Anderson ,  I totally agree with your blog.  Everyone is smart in their own way, so why should anyone belittle others.

Aug 30, 2016 12:55 PM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Prop. Mgr, Wenatchee, WA

Hi Sheila,
Some of the most successsful people are very insecure and must put others down to bolster their own self esteem.  It remains a mystery why they would feel the need to put someone else down!  Carry on!

Aug 30, 2016 01:24 PM
Debbie Reynolds, C21 Platinum Properties
Platinum Properties- (931)771-9070 - Clarksville, TN
The Dedicated Clarksville TN Realtor-(931)320-6730

How unfortunate that she was made to feel inferior. Like you said, some people try to tear down others to make themselves elevated.

Aug 30, 2016 01:49 PM
Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

When people do that, make other feel little to make themselves feel big it generally ends up doing the opposite, sadly except to the person made to feel small.  That kind of damage is so hard to overcome.

Aug 30, 2016 02:47 PM
Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker!

I'm only as smart or good as how I make others feel about themselves Sheila Anderson 

Aug 30, 2016 03:49 PM
James Dray
Fathom Realty - Bentonville, AR

Good morning Sheila.  Those people need to put down others so they can feel superior.  What they don't understand is that it makes them so small.

Aug 30, 2016 08:37 PM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Thank you Kathy.      Sheila

Aug 31, 2016 05:12 AM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Exactly Debbie.    Sheila

Aug 31, 2016 05:26 AM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Thank you Larry. Agreed.        Sheila

Aug 31, 2016 05:26 AM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Hi Carol. I will never understand it. TY     Sheila

Aug 31, 2016 05:27 AM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Hello Debbie. Just stupid and sad. TY     Sheila

Aug 31, 2016 05:27 AM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Hi Tammy. It made me sad to hear. TY   Sheila

Aug 31, 2016 05:28 AM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Nice Paul. I agree. TY    Sheila

Aug 31, 2016 05:28 AM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

You are absolutely right James. TY     Sheila

Aug 31, 2016 05:29 AM
Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster Real Estate - Gainesville, VA
Associate Broker, Bristow, VA

If someone needs to make themselves feel better by trampling others, they have major problems.  And people shouldn't be judged by what they do, but who they are.

Aug 31, 2016 08:27 AM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

There has always been those awkward years where we try to figure out who we are, in an environment of bullying, or put downs.  It's worse for young people now, with the advent of social media.  Add to it, we have adults running for political office that pump themselves up by trashing their opponents.  Nice role models, eh???

Aug 31, 2016 09:52 AM
Claude Labbe
RLAH / @properties - Washington, DC
Realty for Your Busy Life

The woman was smart to talk it out with you. Unfortunately, if the comment had been made to a guy that age, stereotypically he may not have spoken up and internalized it.  Good mentoring moment for all at that dinner.

Sep 26, 2016 02:35 PM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Hi Chris Ann. What they do matters too in my view. TY    Sheila

Sep 26, 2016 09:47 PM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Thank you Myrl.      Sheila

Sep 26, 2016 09:48 PM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Thanks so much Claude.     Sheila

Sep 26, 2016 09:49 PM