Inspiration for a professional worrier

By
Real Estate Agent with Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices New England Properties Licensed in Connecticut

Thank you to Paul Henderson for this inspiration contest! At first I thought this might be TMI, I might have even worried that it was TMI. Then I laughed at myself and decided to go for it.

My mom was a worrier, it was bad. She worried about everything under the sun. I can remember thinking that if only she could chill out and stop worrying her life would be so much different! I swore I would never, ever be like that. 

Fast forward, of course I worried. I don't mean just a little worry, I mean get in your way of enjoying life worry. I would be worried if a family member was a few minutes late, I would be worried that something bad was right around the corner, worried I would be late, worried, worried, worried. Sometimes it had me gripped so badly I wanted to just stay in bed with the covers over my head! 

At a particularly difficult point in my life last year after my husband had his stroke, I almost worried myself into oblivion! Then I found it, the inspiration that saved me. A quote from His Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama. 

 

"If it can be solved there's no need to worry, and if it can't be

solved, worry is of no use."

 

It may sound like such a simple concept to some of you, yet simple or not, it truly saved me. I suddenly understood that all I needed to do was to let go of being afraid. Fear was not my friend at all, neither was worry. If there was a solution, it would come. If there wasn't a solution (which is rarely true) worry would only make it worse for me. 

I printed it out and hung it at my desk at work. I carried it on a piece of paper in my purse. It went just about everywhere with me and I looked at it many times throughout the day. 

I also came to understand that the more I focused on negative things, the more I brought them to me. Welcoming up the negative feelings and letting them go was the best thing I ever started doing. That and meditating on a regular basis. 

I understand my mom a whole lot better and I am sorry she never understood how easy it is to let go of the worry. 

A simple quote from a (not so) simple man saved me. If you ask me who is THE ONE person I would want to meet if I could, it would be the 14th Dalai Lama. Just watching him on a video I can sense his inner peace and his absolute joy in life. 

Every morning at sunrise I am reminded that the sun doesn't worry, if it can't be seen because of the clouds, it is still there, doing its thing. And it will set, if I can see it or not. The next day it will happen all over again, no worries involved. Perhaps that is why I love to capture the sunrise and sunset in photos. 

And now I think to myself

 

A life without worry is a life worth living!

 

winter sunriseInspiring sunrise

 

Sunset

Inspiring sunset

Posted by

Andrea Swiedler, Realtor, Southern Litchfield County Real Estate

2017 President, Greater New Milford Board of Realtors

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Comments (17)

Belinda Spillman
Aspen Lane Real Estate Colorful Colorado - Aurora, CO
Colorado Living!

I love it.  Glad you felt inspired and decided to share with us all!  Well done.

Sep 06, 2016 04:36 AM
Andrea Swiedler

Belinda Spillman thank you! And you just reminded me to put it in his comment section. 

Sep 06, 2016 04:52 AM
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Andrea- my mother was a worrier and to some extent I am as well. I love the quote and will place it where I can see it each day! Your photos are stunning!

Sep 06, 2016 04:48 AM
Andrea Swiedler

Kathy Streib It was so painful for me growing up with her like that. Now I realize how painful it must have been for her as well. 


And thank you! No credit to me, all goes to the sun!

Sep 06, 2016 05:57 AM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Hi Andrea... your pictures are stunning! I work hard at not worrying about anything that's not worth worrying about today. Why borrow worries from the future? And it's such a draining exercise, as well.

Sep 06, 2016 05:40 AM
Andrea Swiedler
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices New England Properties - New Milford, CT
Realtor, Southern Litchfield County CT

Nina Hollander, it is such a waste of time and energy. It does NOTHING for us, nor for what we are "worried" about!

And thank you. It is not the pictures, it is the sunrise and sunsets that are stunning!

Sep 06, 2016 05:56 AM
Anna Banana Kruchten CRS, CRB, Phoenix Broker
HomeSmart Real Estate BR030809000 - Phoenix, AZ
602-380-4886

Andrea I am so glad that you found a way to let go of worrying!  Love the Dalai Lama's phrase - it rings true to me.  And your photo choices are fabulous......gorgeous, inspiring and restful.

Sep 06, 2016 06:08 AM
Andrea Swiedler

Anna Banana Kruchten It was making me NUTZ! More so than  usual, LOL. Combining a few techniques has made such a difference in my life. 


And thanks about the photos. I am blessed that I get to see scenes equally as beautiful almost every day, weather permitting!

Sep 06, 2016 06:10 AM
Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

So timely.  Last week I was having a worry fit.  I was discussing various situations with one of my agents and he looked at me and said with all seriousness... "you've done all you can, just give it to God".  

I did.  In that moment I just handed it all over to God.  Some of it has already worked out, the rest is in the process of working it's way out.  I'll still give where I can in the way of problem solving and help, but it's in God's hands now.

Sep 06, 2016 06:17 AM
Andrea Swiedler

Tammy Lankford, Worry is just so counter-productive! I'm glad you turned it over!

Sep 06, 2016 06:25 AM
Dick Greenberg
New Paradigm Partners LLC - Fort Collins, CO
Northern Colorado Residential Real Estate

Hi Andrea - That's a wonderful lesson. I don't remember when I learned it, but it was when I was a child, and being able to put worry down and walk away from it has been a very productive and useful gift.

Sep 06, 2016 07:25 AM
Andrea Swiedler

Dick Greenberg When I was young I was learning how to worry about everything from the master worrier! You are one lucky guy. 

Sep 06, 2016 08:14 AM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Andrea when I find myself beginning to worry I reflect upon a hymn we sing in church "Peace Like A River" also known as "It Is Well With My Sole".  It works for me.

Sep 06, 2016 07:41 AM
Andrea Swiedler

George Souto yes, and that is much like chanting. I will often repeat something like "blessed be" over and over and over. Whatever works!

Sep 06, 2016 08:15 AM
Beth Atalay
Cam Realty and Property Management - Clermont, FL
Cam Realty of Clermont FL

Andrea Swiedler, I was once a professional worrier as well,  it literally made me sick. I then started practicing Yoga and Meditation and learned to leave behind things no longer serve me and to just let go. Breathing along with chanting do wonders. Beautiful post! 

Sep 06, 2016 08:44 AM
Andrea Swiedler

Beth Atalay You are so right, focused meditation, breathing with chanting work wonders. And just letting go!

Sep 06, 2016 08:46 AM
Ed Silva
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

Andrea, it must be a mother thing, my mom gets worried when she doesn't have something to worry about

Sep 06, 2016 12:25 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent

I've said this before, and I'm saying it again now.  I really should put on my glasses before I read these blogs.  I read the title line as, "Inspiration For a Professional Warrior."  I was certain I would be totally different content!

Sep 06, 2016 12:53 PM
Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker!

I thank you for participating in my challenge Andrea Swiedler

Sep 06, 2016 04:05 PM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
New Hampshire Home Stager

I have suffered from anxiety and worry most of my life. I also learned from a pro....my mom. It runs through the family like crazy.

Sometimes, literally....crazy.

I'm going to print out the quote and read it every day! Thank you for sharing this!

Sep 07, 2016 12:36 AM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
New Hampshire Home Stager

Oh....

and one more thing....

your photos are GORGEOUS!

Sep 07, 2016 12:36 AM
Hannah Williams
HomeStarr Realty - Philadelphia, PA
Expertise NE Philadelphia & Bucks 215-820-3376

Andrea Swiedler  worrying does not make it better ..You can not change it .. Glad you found peace of mind with the Dalai Lama

Sep 08, 2016 08:54 AM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Andrea Swiedler - In our line of work, there is always something you could worry about.  I am glad to see you have a handle on this. It is a constant battle for me to ward off worry. Protecting the ones I love, and customers from things that could hurt them is always a challenge. 

Sep 09, 2016 01:30 AM
Sam Shueh
(408) 425-1601 - San Jose, CA
mba, cdpe, reopro, pe

I think in our profession we need to be eternally optimistic.  A deal can fall through that is just too bad. I will not take it personally blame others or me. I gave my best shot.

Sep 25, 2016 09:26 AM