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Hate baiting.

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Real Estate Agent with Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 UT DRE# 6541633-SA00

Hate baiting.

 

After a recent volley of comments on the subject of athletes taking a knee or sitting during the National Anthem on Facebook, I discovered a lot of people are unable to maintain a civil on-line conversation.

 

They have plenty to say though while rejecting adverse opinions.

 

Some prefer to lead with hate, taunting others to take their stance no matter the direction it takes. Hate-baiters often demean and attack the other person's character in order to satisfy their desired intentions.

 

Social media, for me, plays a dual role. Family members who are far away are brought closer together with posts and sharing photos. My business pages announce local events, market reports, boosts posts and recent sales.

 

I stay out of political postings altogether. Articles that are used for the sole purpose of inciting hate and emotional responses simply to drive traffic to media sites to increase ratings are passed on as well. And there are plenty of those!

 

It comes down to choices in how to start and end the day. A positive beginning leads my days and though things may happen to deter the attitude, I'd rather be happy than be right. I am in charge of that, thankfully.

 

Happy sales all!

 

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Have questions about St. George or the southern Utah area? Please contact me at 435.632.9374 or wanda@buynsellutah.com. Glad to help with all residential real estate needs because Wanda Can!

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Comments (13)

Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Hi Wanda...isn't that what Dr. Phil always says to arguing couples--do you want to be happy or do you want to be right? And that question extends across many aspects of life. When I see highly opinionated posts anywhere in social media trying to "force" me to see it that way I just move right along and pay no attention to them.

Sep 15, 2016 11:42 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!

I do as you do Nina Hollander. Makes no sense to get trapped into a toxic one-sided conversation that goes no where but down!

Sep 16, 2016 04:35 AM
Beth Atalay
Cam Realty and Property Management - Clermont, FL
Cam Realty of Clermont FL

Good morning Wanda, like you, I stay away from posts filled with hatred, no reason to engage. If they can't add to my day, life, I'm moving on. Have a great Friday!

Sep 15, 2016 11:43 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!

Me too Beth Atalay. I surround myself with positive, motivated people who are like-minded! Enjoy your weekend.

Sep 16, 2016 04:36 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

I'm with you Wanda. I want to pick and choose productive ways to spend my time!

Sep 15, 2016 11:43 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!

My relatives all the way across the country see everything I post. I would be disappointed in myself it I ever lost their love and respect over someone else's 'clouded' agenda Kathy Streib!

Sep 16, 2016 04:37 AM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Good morning Wanda. What a simple and prfound idea here. Stay away from hate. I like it.

Sep 15, 2016 11:44 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!

That is high on the list of things to avoid Sheila Anderson. Glad you enjoyed the post!

Sep 16, 2016 04:38 AM
Raymond E. Camp
Ontario, NY

Good morning Wanda,

There are many ways to express ones opinions and each one will be subject to criticism!

It is too bad all do not folloe the Ten Commandments or have to abide by the Realtor's Code of Ethics.

Make yourself an astonishing day.

Sep 16, 2016 12:08 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!

Great point Raymond E. Camp! If only, right?

Sep 16, 2016 04:39 AM
Jennifer Mackay
Counts Real Estate Group, Inc. - Panama City, FL
Your Bay County Florida Realtor 850.774.6582

I do my best to avoid "hate" posts and  comments

Sep 16, 2016 12:56 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!

Unplugging is necessary at times to get away from it Jennifer Mackay. I do like the block and delete button on some days though!

Sep 16, 2016 04:40 AM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate Services

Wanda,  I avoid those posts .... I won't even like or comment on such charged posts.  I have my opinion about respect for the flag and our Country ... and about Politics ... and I do not post those thoughts on social media. 

Sep 16, 2016 02:16 AM
Dan Tabit
Keller Williams Bellevue - Sammamish, WA

Hi Wanda, Wise choice and the same one I make.  I have political & religious views I'm happy to share, face to face with anyone. I won't go online and enter into meaningless nonesense debate where everything turns ugly fast.  

Sep 16, 2016 02:41 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!

Good for you Dan Tabit, as it should be. I like sharing an opinion here and there but avoid toxic people as often as possible. Not my circus and not my monkeys comes to mind... 

Sep 16, 2016 04:43 AM
Kartik Subramaniam
Adhi Schools, LLC - Rancho Cucamonga, CA
Market Analysis--Educational Content, Adhi Schools

Facebook really has become disappointing because so few people are capable of idsagreeing amicably. At least here on ActiveRain, when people don't like eachother they try to cover it up

Sep 16, 2016 06:13 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!

Being civil will get you further than verbally purging hate and venom Cody Carmen. I do mean that respectfully of course! 

Sep 16, 2016 08:28 AM
William Feela
WHISPERING PINES REALTY - North Branch, MN
Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

I just totally ignore these people.  What they want is to banter

Sep 16, 2016 11:29 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!

Yes, and they want to be heard above anyone else William Feela no matter what. There is no place for one-sided arguments meant to create hate!

Sep 17, 2016 12:03 AM
James Dray
Fathom Realty - Bentonville, AR

I posted something political once after I just started here in the Rain.  It was intended to be in jest. Never again, some people cannot take a joke.. 

Sep 16, 2016 08:12 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!

I saw that early on James Dray. Some people hit well below the belt to get their point across!

Sep 17, 2016 12:04 AM
Andrea Swiedler
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices New England Properties - New Milford, CT
Realtor, Southern Litchfield County CT

Wanda, I like that description! I don't like the action however. I post to FB automatically and hardly read anything. I have run across too many things that just send me running for cover. 

These days much of my time is spent in actively working towards a more peaceful and satisfying life. I can allow people to have their own opinions. I just choose not to participate. I am not at the point where I can read, listen to hate baiting and think... good for you, you have your own opinion! Maybe someday I will get to that point, but by then I might be 6 feet under. It is counterproductive to my progress, LOL. 

So, my solution to the problem is... to avoid the behavior altogether!

Sep 17, 2016 07:34 AM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

I wish there was a way to turn around the visceral hate which seems to be proliferating in recent years.  This election cycle has certainly pumped a lot of it up on steroids.  Perhaps, it will be better after the election.  But, with campaigning now a perpetual thing, I suspect a new cycle will begin on November 9th!

Sep 17, 2016 08:49 PM