I think many of you, like me, consider ActiveRain to be like a second home, home away from home, cyber home, something along those lines. If you have been here for a while, you really get to know your "family and neighbors". You know what they like, what they don't like, you look forward to reading their posts and comments.
And just like family, you may have even found one or two you prefer to stay away from.
Now for the confession.....
I have been wandering. Nothing to do with real estate though. Last year I found some live cams (animals, get your mind out of the gutter please). I have been watching the cams again recently, lurking in the background and not commenting until recently. Of course this is all in between my "real job" of taking care of my real estate business. You know, I have a window open so that I can sneak a peek of these glorious creatures every so often.
And then I saw it... in the comments. People being nasty to someone under the guise of protecting the community guidelines. I ran as fast as my fat fingers could carry me! I realized it was not like here, not like hitting the delete button if someone were to be downright nasty in the comment section of one of my posts.
Yes I understand community guidelines are put out there for a reason. But attacking someone who made a totally innocent comment that another thought was off topic, then attacking them again when they apologized is even worse in my mind! And what in life is off topic? Life is all about, well, life! I can think of a million ways to relate real estate to just about anything, and vice versa.
It is everywhere, this propensity to attack others while hiding behind a computer screen. It's not just Facebook and politics. It truly is everywhere. Social media has made it far too easy for us to show our nasty side.
So what makes ActiveRain different? Aside from the obvious cast of characters fantastic members I'm not sure. I don't have rose colored glasses on, I have seen it happen here, I have seen it get really hairy as a matter of fact. But it is not often, and it seems that it stops as quick as it starts. It can create a bit of a flutter and flurry, but a few people will write posts about behaving, and we all move on.
There was no such outlet on this place. These are only comments. And if you were to post something about it, according to community guidelines, your comment could be considered off topic and removed. No chance to stand up for the person being attacked.
Perhaps it is because there is a true sense of community here. And because ActiveRain was wise enough to allow "off topic" posts. Yes, a post can be removed from a group because it has no relevance to the group and "violates" group guidelines. But it takes a whole lot of angst by the writer to have ActiveRain remove a post! (Unless of course you are a spammer.)
So there I was, watching the drama unfold and felt totally powerless to do anything. Then it hit me, I have always had the power! I clicked my heels together 3 times while saying... "There's no place like home!"
And I ended up here!
There really is no place like home.