The Joy of Weeding When It Stays Weeded

Real Estate Sales Representative with William Raveis Real Estate

This has always been my favorite time of year to weed because when I yank those nasty invaders, they all stay weeded and I don’t have to worry about the chore again until next spring. But, I speak out of both sides of my mouth, because I actually enjoy weeding. To me it’s therapy, and it’s a compulsive activity.

It never fails. I’ll be in a rush to meet a client, dashing to my garage across my parking area, covered with crushed bluestone, and I’ll spy a tiny fleck of green peeking through the gravel. I must stop to pull it out.

When I bend over, I drop my car keys, my glasses fall out of my breast pocket and, if the weed is deep-rooted, like a dandelion, my hands get dirty, requiring that I return to the house to wash them after the deed is done.

Or, I’m coming home very late, dead tired, and I notice that, almost like spontaneous combustion, that nasty grout weed has all but consumed a clump of perennial geraniums. It’s getting dark but there I am, stooped over again, releasing those delicate flowers from the clutches of that hostile invader.

Worse yet, we might be entertaining guests on our patio and, in my peripheral vision, I detect another unwelcome visitor in a nearby flower bed. Nonchalantly, I’ll push myself out of my glider, perhaps in the middle of a sentence, and conduct an enemy attack without missing a beat. Annoyed, my wife later tells me that I must not have been giving full attention to our guests.

Yes, I confess. I’m a compulsive weeder.

When I first discovered the joys of gardening as a youngster, it was all about planting annuals and seeing quick results. But by the time I was in high school, perhaps in dealing with my impetuous nature, I found that I equally enjoyed pulling weeds to help ease those first bouts of post-adolescent anxiety.

My weeding addiction became full blown as an adult when I moved to Westchester from the city and my responsibilities were upgraded from a small square patch of earth in front of my house, where a sickly gingko tree sprang from the concrete sidewalk, to a verdant acre and a half of lawn and garden.

At the same time, I had started a new job and commuted a long distance every weekday to report to a boss who was the “Mr. Hyde” personality of all time. My weeding activity was especially intense during that period. Every time I yanked a weed, it was as though I was vicariously yanking his head bald, even though he was already bald.

Lest one think that I need intervention, I would say that there are good compulsive habits and this might be one of them.

To read the rest of this column, click here. Bill Primavera is a Realtor® associated with William Raveis Real Estate and Founder of Primavera Public Relations, Inc. ( His real estate site is, and his blog is To engage the services of The Home Guru to market your home for sale, call (914) 522-2076.

Comments (12)

Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker!

I was going to suggest professional help or perhaps an intervention but I then found the method to your madness. (The weed intervention hobby)

I hope your week has been awesome so far Bill Primavera 

Oct 13, 2016 10:43 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Bill- be careful or we'll be sending you our addresses with lawns replete with weeds. 

Oct 15, 2016 10:02 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

                        Thank you Bill Primavera 

Oct 15, 2016 10:52 AM
Gary L. Waters Broker Associate, Bucci Realty
Bucci Realty, Inc. - Melbourne, FL
Eighteen Years Experience in Brevard County

I am trying to think if I have such a compulsion...weeds? No.  But I do stop and pick up every penny I see on the ground...close I guess!

Oct 15, 2016 10:10 PM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

You may want to "weed out" some of these complulsive habits!

Oct 16, 2016 12:13 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

I had to laugh at your post, Bill, as there is a bit of this in me as well. Problem here in SoCal is weeding is a year-round activity because of our weather. There is just no down-time. I've even been known to pull a few weeds at my listings!


Oct 16, 2016 01:29 AM
Gayle Rich-Boxman Fishhawk Lake Real Estate
John L Scott Market Center - Birkenfeld, OR
"Your Local Expert!" 503-755-2905

Bill, hysterical and so smart at the same time! I love the idea that this is a GOOD compulsive behavior (I didn't know any of those existed). 

I loved this post--you're a terrific writer. 

Oct 16, 2016 02:44 AM
Pat Starnes-Front Gate Realty
Front Gate Real Estate - Brandon, MS
601-991-2900 Office; 601-278-4513 Cell

I cannot walk past a weed in a sellers yard without stopping to pluck it. Call it my contribution to improving the landscape one home at a time!

Oct 16, 2016 05:19 AM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

Reminds me of my compulsion....not weeds but split ends.

That's right split ends on my hair.

I could sit for hours cutting them off. I've been known to cover my sweater with little hairs as I snip snip away. 

I find it very relaxing.

Talk about true confessions. LOL

Oct 16, 2016 08:43 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Sharon Tara I truly did not know that about you.  Split ends, huh!

Oct 16, 2016 08:48 AM
Sharon Lee
Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance - Jonesborough, TN
Retired and loving life

Bill-As a avid gardener I loved this posts. I have a half acre yard and so I have had to pull my fair share of weeds. This made me smile

Oct 16, 2016 10:30 AM
Praful Thakkar
LAER Realty Partners - Andover, MA
Andover, MA: Andover Luxury Homes For Sale

Now if we compare these weeds with the bad habits.... it's a good compulsion, Bill Primavera .

Oct 16, 2016 02:25 PM