Stop Vote Shaming Your Friends and Family

Real Estate Broker/Owner with Austin Texas Homes, LLC 453249

WARNING: This post may offend some of you. I promise that I don't have any specific acquaintance in mind, but I have noticed a trend. Many of my Facebook friends are probably wishing I would shut up about this election, and who could blame them? Despite my best efforts, I get interested in this stuff every cycle, and I like talking about it.

So, without further ado:

Please stop "vote shaming" your friends and those you encounter online. I thought I had come up with a new phrase here, but I found evidence of that saying online going back to 2014.

I have been called names several times this week online, not by people who actually know me, but simply for making comments indicating that I will be voting for Gary Johnson.

Yes, I know he is very unlikely to win.

No, I don't want to bet money on it. I outlined my reasons for my vote a few days ago elsewhere. If you're interested, I would be happy to explain this to you.

At any rate, as a longtime Republican, I have many well-meaning friends who are still trying to convince me to vote for Donald Trump. I will not do so. I refuse to be shamed into voting for someone I do not respect. Yes, we have had bad guys as President in the past, and some of them did a decent job. Yes, I know that God can use bad people to accomplish good things. I am still not voting for him.

God could use Hillary as well.

Yes, He really could.

Contrary to what you may think, God's abilities are not limited by either political party. 

No, I am not helping to elect Hillary Clinton by voting for Gary Johnson.

No, I am not helping to elect Donald Trump by voting for Gary Johnson.

A vote for Gary Johnson is not a vote for anyone other than Gary Johnson. Period.

Stop trying to make anyone else feel bad for their vote. Stop unfriending or getting angry at people who have different opinions.

No, seriously. Stop it.

Stop predicting a dark, dystopian future under one candidate or the other. Stop saying that Trump is Hitler, or that we may not have a country in four years if Hillary is elected. Stop trying to justify that you are voting for a bad person because the other person is worse.

Stop assuming that you know something I don't, or that "if I would just consider _____", things would be different.

If you are voting for your candidate because you believe he/she is the best person for the job, that is wonderful and I applaud you.

I arrived at my own decision after months of deliberation, thought, prayer, and observation. I have my reasons. You have yours. And that is okay.

I do not fear either of the major party candidates, but I cannot support either of them in good conscience, as I have said several times.

On January 20, 2017, no matter who is sworn in as President, life will go on. Keep in mind that the people whom you are shaming and calling names today are the same people you have to live and work with next year. A certain percentage will be thrilled on that day, and another segment of the population will probably feel dread.

Neither reaction is necessarily correct, but I won't delve into that right now. The point is that we will all continue to work, and love, and live, and hurt, and help, and hope. The media has done a wonderful job of terrifying a huge portion of our country (if it bleeds, it leads), but God is sovereign and in control.

I have peace in my heart no matter what happens on November 8th. I pray that you will find this peace, too.

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  1. Sharon Tara 10/15/2016 02:07 AM
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Patricia Kennedy
RLAH Real Estate - Washington, DC
Home in the Capital

Jason, it's funny, but so many of my favorite people on ActiveRain are probably my polar opposites when it comes to the choices they will make in the voting booth, and I really don't care.  And I think this election cycle we've all been pretty well-behaved on ActiveRain when it comes to avoiding political rants.  But then I'll see something shockingly nasty on Facebook and think, hmmm.  Do I want to ever send her a referral?  And it's because of the tone, not the choice of candidate.

The important thing is to vote.  And luckily we live in a country where, even if the choices are not ideal for all of us, at least there are choices.  There are no guarantees that in a democracy the vote will always go the way you'd like!  And you vote anyway!

Oct 15, 2016 01:14 AM #1
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
New Hampshire Home Stager

I love this, and your attitude on the whole subject, so much that I'm reblogging and then I will also link to it when I share my own post next week.

Well said Jason!

Oct 15, 2016 02:01 AM #2
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Jason- I came over from Sharon Tara reblog of your post.  Every 4 years I get a knot in my stomach from all of the turmoil.  No matter our choices, it is important to get out and vote.  And realize that this country, amazingly, continues despite or because of some of the people who have been in office. 

We are so lucky to have a choice and we have to respect the other person's right to their choice.  

Oct 15, 2016 05:28 AM #3
Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent

At this point in the campaign process, I'm so exhausted from the vitriol. I just want it to be over.  I'm one of those who really struggled this election.  I really wanted to vote for an outsider.  I voted for Bernie in the primary, and considered Trump when Bernie didn't make it.  But, like you, I see far too many flaws to trust him with the presidency.  I think our whole election process needs a makeover.  I think the best place to start is by overturning "Citizens United," which states corporations are people too, and can put unlimited amounts of money into campaigns - some of it dark.  Since it's inception in 2010, this country has been in constant campaign mode, 365 days a year - 24/7.  It is tearing this country apart, and putting us at odds with one another.

Oct 15, 2016 07:06 AM #4
Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
RE/MAX Northwest. - Tacoma, WA
Tacoma Washington Agent/Broker & Market Authority!

I applaud your convictions and believe that voting is a privilege. I tried to make a decision based on the vice presidential candidates but I found one was a bully and the other would be overwhelmed by his running mate. I am more

concearned by the Supreme Court nominees that become life time appointments and the constitution than the candidates.

 Thank you for this timely post

Oct 15, 2016 07:52 AM #5
Dick Greenberg
New Paradigm Partners LLC - Fort Collins, CO
Northern Colorado Residential Real Estate

Hi Jason - Thanks for a timely and sane post. This has been the strangest election in my memory, and it has put a lot of pressure on us all, but respecting everyone's right to vote as they choose is kinda basic to what our country stands for.

Oct 15, 2016 08:01 AM #6
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

                               Thank you Jason Crouch 

Oct 15, 2016 10:57 AM #7
William Feela
Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

WE need to vote but we need to be well informed voters on ALL aspects of each cnadidate and seldom is that the case for the average voter.

Oct 15, 2016 12:40 PM #8
Florida Tolbert Team Keller Williams Advantage
Keller Williams Advantage III Realty in Lake Nona - Orlando, FL
Keller Williams Land Division Specialist

I am right there with you already thinking the same.  This reminds me of the movie Brewster's Millions when Richard Pryor thought this way and ran on the platform of NONE OF THE ABOVE and it won once everyone had a third choice.  

Oct 15, 2016 04:01 PM #9
Debbie Gartner
The Flooring Girl - White Plains, NY
The Flooring Girl & Blog Stylist -Dynamo Marketers

I just try to ignore it all - the conversations, the posts, the FB updates.  It's the only way I can remain sane.

Oct 15, 2016 09:15 PM #10
Gary L. Waters Broker Associate, Bucci Realty
Bucci Realty, Inc. - Melbourne, FL
Fifteen Years Experience in Brevard County

I enjoy the political process. Could be my public administration and politics graduate degree.  Voting is an individual choice. Fortunately it is possible to pull a lever with one hand while holding your nose with the other!

Oct 15, 2016 09:48 PM #11
Jeanne Gregory
RE/MAX Southwest - Sugar Land, TX
The most important home I sell is YOURS!

I had to hide Facebook posts from a good friend until after the election.  They just kept getting angrier and angrier.  Folks have really shown their uglier side this year.  But I'm going to take my one little vote to the polls and like Gary said, hold my nose and vote.  Maybe we will pay better attention to the primary elections next time!

Oct 16, 2016 12:06 AM #12
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Hi Jason -- well said.  Thanks to Sharon Tara for the reblog and to Kathy Streib to highlighting your post in her weekly post.  

Oct 16, 2016 02:31 AM #13
Gayle Rich-Boxman Fishhawk Lake Real Estate
John L Scott Market Center - Birkenfeld, OR
"Your Local Expert!" 503-755-2905

Jason, how very honest, I happened to have loved this "politically minded" post, because it spoke from the heart. I can't say that about much of the goings on regarding this political season, but it is a fascinating study in character. Or lack thereof. 

Oct 16, 2016 02:53 AM #14
Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty
Waves Realty - Melbourne, FL
Florida Space Coast Homes

I do not care who you or anyone else votes for. I simply lined up what the policy of each candidate is. Gary Johnson just did not line up for me because of his policy to withdraw from the world. Hillary was really far from me. So I will be voting for Trump because he most closely aligns with my thinking. I honestly cannot say I respect any of them for various reasons (including Gary Johnson not knowing anything about foreign policy and not taking the time to learn). It is a crazy year.

Oct 16, 2016 03:48 AM #15
Anna Banana Kruchten CRB, GRI, WLS
Phoenix Property Shoppe - Phoenix, AZ

Jason every time I see somebody shaming somebody else on FB I just move on -  it's just so not necessary.  Everyone is entitled to believe and vote for is right in their minds to lead our country.  It will all be over soon and we'll all go on just fine. 

Oct 16, 2016 09:20 AM #16
Praful Thakkar
LAER Realty Partners - Andover, MA
Andover, MA: Andover Luxury Homes For Sale

Jason Crouch - very authentic post.

And yes, I believe in this, too --

"On January 20, 2017, no matter who is sworn in as President, life will go on. "

Oct 16, 2016 02:18 PM #17
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667,, Broker, Blackstone Realty Group - brokered by eXp Realty - Kalispell, MT
The House Kat

Yes, I agree with everything you have said here. Belittling people because they have different beliefs is simply not effective. That behavior won't make anyone change their mind about the candidate they will vote for. Vote shaming should definitely go away.

Oct 16, 2016 10:34 PM #18
Jane Chaulklin-Schott
TEAMCONNECT REALTY - (407) 394-9766 - Orlando, FL
TeamConnect Luxury Homes - Orlando, Florida, 32836

Just 21 more days and I am looking forward for the privilege to vote.  Have a great week, Jason Crouch

Oct 17, 2016 06:15 PM #19
Mick Michaud
Distinctly Texas Lifestyle Properties, LLC Office:682/498-3107 - Granbury, TX
Your Texas Lifestyle is Here!

Well, the election is over and Trump won, for good or ill.  Like you, I voted Liberatarian except in specific races where I had a strong sense of a candidate.

Sadly, the vote shaming is still going on well after the fact.  I cannot abide the hypocracy of the left.  They bash Trump for the very types of things Obama did using the same methods he used. 

I didn't vote for Trump, just like I didn't vote for O in the past two.  However, I pray that he makes a good president, just like I prayed O would. 


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