It's funny- I am just now, in some ways, determining WHO I am. I always thought I knew. Here I am, 50 years old now, and I have just started discovering myself. The graphic below is who I feel I am and who I WANT to be.
Funny thing about it, though, is that it is a constantly evolving process. We are chameleons in so many ways. Adjusting "who we are" on "who we are with" or what stage our of our life we are in, etc. For me, I have always been one who typically puts everyone else's needs above my own. I have been the caretaker. The fixer. The mediator, blah, blah, blah! At this stage of my life, though, I am just discovering the art of "NO". Tactifully, I hope! Right now I am practicing this "new skill" on my children! Starts at home, right? I suspect, that if I am able to refine this little skill, I will be a little less likely to experience some of the burn-out that I have seen and heard of in real estate agents. We are all (hopefully!) in this business to serve and help others- but not to the detriment of ourselves. This will be a tough one for me though. Old habits die hard they say.
Another area in which I have seen some growth in myself is in going after what I want. My tendancy to put others above myself has gotten me in trouble here, too. It has taken me awhile, but I am getting to the point in my life to know that I deserve to be successful, happy, and secure. I am DETERMINED to succeed in my new career. I am DETERMINED to be of service to my clients without losing "me" in the process. A tough challenge, but I am up to it.
This old dog is learning new tricks. Gratefully. Enthusiastically. Always learning.
Please let me know some of the challenges you experience in being of service to others (clients, family, etc.) without losing yourself in the process. What are some of your descriptive words of who you are/or want to be?