I know who I am (I think!)... Who are you?

Real Estate Agent with HomeTown Advisor Real Estate 124996

It's funny- I am just now, in some ways, determining WHO I am. I always thought I knew. Here I am, 50 years old now, and I have just started discovering myself. The graphic below is who I feel I am and who I WANT to be.


Funny thing about it, though, is that it is a constantly evolving process. We are chameleons in so many ways. Adjusting "who we are" on "who we are with" or what stage our of our life we are in, etc. For me, I have always been one who typically puts everyone else's needs above my own. I have been the caretaker. The fixer. The mediator, blah, blah, blah! At this stage of my life, though, I am just discovering the art of "NO". Tactifully, I hope! Right now I am practicing this "new skill" on my children! Starts at home, right? I suspect, that if I am able to refine this little skill, I will be a little less likely to experience some of the burn-out that I have seen and heard of in real estate agents. We are all (hopefully!) in this business to serve and help others- but not to the detriment of ourselves. This will be a tough one for me though. Old habits die hard they say.


Another area in which I have seen some growth in myself is in going after what I want. My tendancy to put others above myself has gotten me in trouble here, too. It has taken me awhile, but I am getting to the point in my life to know that I deserve to be successful, happy, and secure. I am DETERMINED to succeed in my new career. I am DETERMINED to be of service to my clients without losing "me" in the process. A tough challenge, but I am up to it. 


This old dog is learning new tricks. Gratefully. Enthusiastically. Always learning. 


Please let me know some of the challenges you experience in being of service to others (clients, family, etc.) without losing yourself in the process. What are some of your descriptive words of who you are/or want to be?

Posted by

Marcell Loomis

1217 Cooper Pt. Rd. SW Ste. 5

Olympia, WA 98502




Striving for the best, because YOU deserve it!

Comments (20)

William Feela
Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

Everyday I learn more about myself.   That is not all bad  and sometimes it surprises me

Nov 05, 2016 11:49 AM
Marcell Loomis

Thanks for your comment William. We are in trouble if we stop learning, aren't we? 
Stagnancy is not any good for anyone. I look forward to learning more about myself in relation to my new career. So far it has been eye opening!

Nov 05, 2016 11:53 AM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The right Charlotte REALTOR!

So true, Marcell!  I think my challange is having to be firm with my own clients.  I don't have any trouble at all being firm with negotiations but, when they REALLY need to do something and put their foot down (that they are not going to do it), I have to 'prep' myself for that conversation.  Like you, I like taking care of people with kindness and compassion so, being firm is out of my 'norm!'

Nov 05, 2016 12:00 PM
Marcell Loomis

Debe- thanks for your input! I appreciate it. It will certainly be a learning process and interesting to say the least!

Nov 05, 2016 12:13 PM
Stavrula "Sam" Crafa, RNC,GRI, CDPE, PSA
Future Home Realty - Seminole, FL
Providing the integrity and service you deserve.

"NO" is the operative word. When I meet and discus with a client how they are being represented, I always say that I'll do anything you ask me to as long as it's not illegal. Currently working with an out of state elderly buyer, who doesn't have email, who is under contract on a condo that up until a few days ago had not seen in person. But she finally came into town and I agreed to help her with some things that normally a client would do on their own. No problem. She signed the closing papters while she was in town but the actual closing won't happen until next week. As I was driving her to see the condo, she suddenly tells me she is going to bive me a check so I can go buy furniture for her condo. I literally laughed out loud and said absolutely not. She will need to do that herself after she comes back in a few months. If you don't set boundries, things can just get completely out of control. Wising you all the best with your business. 

Nov 05, 2016 12:11 PM
Marcell Loomis

Thank you Sam! Bounderies is one of my challenging areas! LOL I am sure, with a little experience, I will get better. 

Nov 05, 2016 12:15 PM
Olga Simoncelli
Veritas Prime, LLC dba Veritas Prime Real Estate - New Fairfield, CT
CONSULTANT, Real Estate Services & Risk Management

I think being a life learner keeps you young, or at least your mind more alert. We do keep "evolving".

Nov 05, 2016 12:47 PM
Patricia Kennedy
RLAH Real Estate - Washington, DC
Home in the Capital

Marcell, this post really spoke to me.  The trick is to keep learning and growing and having fun.

Nov 05, 2016 02:09 PM
Marcell Loomis

Patricia, I'm glad. I am a work in progress and I am happy with where I am and where I am going. :) It is always important to never stop learning and fun is paramount as well, isn't it? LOL

Nov 05, 2016 02:18 PM
Praful Thakkar
LAER Realty Partners - Andover, MA
Andover, MA: Andover Luxury Homes For Sale

Welcome again to ActiveRain Marcell Loomis.

This is The Best place to learn, share and build relationships with like-minded professionals.

Nov 05, 2016 04:10 PM
Praful Thakkar
LAER Realty Partners - Andover, MA
Andover, MA: Andover Luxury Homes For Sale

Knowing we are - and working on our strengths is winning more than half the battle, Marcell Loomis.

My strength - or weakness - I am too soft and still determined. If it does not work I take over it and work on it (which may not be necessary.)

Nov 05, 2016 04:11 PM
Marcell Loomis

Ah, you and I share similar traits! Thank you Praful, it is appreciated to know that others have similar "challenges". 


I too see that my "softness" can be constued as a weakness at times, but I choose to see it as a strength. Thanks again!

Nov 06, 2016 01:42 AM
Sandy Padula and Norm Padula, JD, GRI
HomeSmart Realty West - Carlsbad, CA
Presence, Persistence & Perseverance

Marcell Loomis Great early blog post from you, and welcome to Activerain. You will have plenty of 'Followers' very quickly!

Nov 05, 2016 09:57 PM
Marcell Loomis

Thank you! There is a wealth of knowledge here and I am thankful I have found it. 

Nov 06, 2016 01:38 AM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Marcell, I believe we all learn these lessons as we continue in this business.   GREAT post, and things to think about!  

Nov 05, 2016 11:21 PM
Marcell Loomis

Thank you Joan! 

Nov 06, 2016 01:38 AM
Patricia Kennedy
RLAH Real Estate - Washington, DC
Home in the Capital

Hey, Marcell!  I included this post in today's Last Week's Favorites.  Hope you enjoy the rest of your weekend!

Nov 06, 2016 02:19 AM
Marcell Loomis

Patricia Kennedy Thank you! 

Nov 06, 2016 08:33 AM
Karen Feltman
Cedar Rapids/Iowa City, IA KW Legacy Group - Cedar Rapids, IA
Relocation Specialist in Cedar Rapids, Iowa

Setting expectations and boundaries are important.  Many agents struggle with that at home and in their business.  No amount of money can replace the time that you spend with your family.  When you are with family, be there!  

Nov 06, 2016 04:00 AM
Marcell Loomis

Karen Feltman Oh yes! Family is SO important. 

Nov 06, 2016 08:34 AM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy


I learn continuously, every moment regardless of the situation that arises.  A

Nov 06, 2016 04:11 AM
David Alan Baker | Laveen & South Phoenix Realtor
Keller Williams Realty Phoenix - Laveen, AZ
Your local Expert

Seems like there is a lot going on, thanks for sharing.

Nov 06, 2016 06:27 AM
Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster Real Estate - Gainesville, VA
Associate Broker, Bristow, VA

It's a great feeling to discover yourself and what you stand for.  Another great discovery is the word no.

Nov 06, 2016 07:16 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Retired Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Marcell- Don't worry, I'm 67 and still learning about who I am.  The difference is that at my age, I'm ok with my choice and worry less about what others think.

Keep learning...it keeps us young. 

Nov 06, 2016 08:06 AM
Sam Shueh
(408) 425-1601 - San Jose, CA
mba, cdpe, reopro, pe

Even animals learn new things in their late life. I am referring to dogs in the teens and cats past 16 learning how to deal with their aging problems...


Nov 06, 2016 12:10 PM
Debra Leisek
Bay Realty,Inc Homer Alaska - Homer, AK

We are all works in progress....wonderful post! thanks to Patricia Kennedy for sharing it with us!

Nov 06, 2016 04:29 PM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude


Welcome to Activerain! So glad that Pat featured this post - it really spoke to me.

I am always learning, or try to, and continue to gain a better understanding of who I am but also how I am changing as I get older. Work in progress, as they say!


Nov 06, 2016 11:47 PM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400 - Devon, PA
Tredyffrin Easttown Realtor, Philly Main Line

Nice post, like the graphic, I think when you are unwilling to be open to learning, it is time to get in the box...

Nov 07, 2016 12:54 AM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667, kat@thehousekat.com, Broker/REALTOR® - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

What a wonderful post. I have found, also, that we continue to evolve and learn who we really are. And aren't we a lot happier when we are true to our own needs?

Nov 09, 2016 08:05 PM