Honesty - is it still the best policy?

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Education & Training with Cannon Publishing Group

It's the only policy.  We have to be honest; we know that, but how easy is it, really?

Sure, you have disclosure checklists and if there's a crack in foundation wall you don't hide it with a storage unit.  We all know that level of honesty (I hope.)

But what about being honest as a person?  That's not always as easy.  Some people are born authentic and stay that way.  More of us have learned to put on a facade during our lives, learned behaviors that are "acceptable."  But, how many of us are completely comfortable just being exactly who we are?  Do we even feel safe being that way?

Here's an example.  Next time someone says, 'Hi, how are you?"  what are you going to say back? 

Most of us say, 'Fine,' even if we're not.  Or, if a client says, 'How's business?' we might be tempted to say, 'Great!'  even if it isn't.  These are subtle examples, but the point is, how deeply honest are we, with others, but more importantly, with ourselves?

Here's the important point - if you are struggling right now, it's tempting to blame outside circumstances; the economy, the housing market, storms and building supplies.  None of that is within our control as individuals.  But, you can work on your own thoughts and inner motivations, such as honesty, with yourself, first and foremost.

Sure, this is a "soft" topic.  Not really a "how-to" that you can take out and implement today.  But don't underestimate the importance of honesty.  And, as Paul Allaire, former CEO of Xerox Corp. says, "The hardest stuff is the soft stuff - values, personal style, ways of interacting...if individuals don't change, nothing changes."

What is your take on honesty, authenticity and personal integrity?

Posted by

Joe Cooke

www.cannoncooke.com

Comments (5)

Liz Moras Migic
Chilliwack, BC
Chilliwack, British Columbia - Realtor
Thats are really good message Joe - 'honesty' we often say the words........and believe we are.......but true 'transparancy' is rare.
May 05, 2008 10:40 AM
Denise Shockey
RE/MAX Aerospace Realty - Cocoa Beach, FL
Cocoa Beach, Brevard County Florida Real Estate
Great post Joe!  You are so correct, honesty is the only way to go.  We must maintain our integrity, the dishonest will not last.
May 05, 2008 10:48 AM
Patrick Lambert
ALLY Real Estate - Waikoloa, HI
Hawaii Real Estate Expert
I am the blunt, don't beat around the bush, take no prisoners, no holds barred, BRUTALLY honest. I had a guy email me back one time " is you middle name Blunt?"
May 05, 2008 11:02 AM
Ron Tarvin
Residential, Investment properties, rehab projects, property management, luxury homes, new construction! - Katy, TX
Broker, Katy, Houston, Cypress 77450,77494,77095
Well, most people don't REALLY want to hear how you are when the ask that but you are correct that some, who are wired like me in black and white, want the truth.  We expect the truth because we give the truth.
May 05, 2008 11:51 AM
Jimmy McCall
JimmyMcCall.com - Cunningham, TN
The Ex-Mortgage Consultant
Joe, I have to agree that honesty is the only policy.  They sad thing is when I am asked "How are you?", I tend to think before I answer.  Then I usually say "I am doing okay" but I am honest.
May 05, 2008 01:39 PM