Holiday Baking - A Rainbow In The Dark

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Holiday Baking - A Rainbow In The Dark


The first thing that strikes me as odd, is I have no pictures from the event to share. I can't believe it! There are always pictures...but there was so much fun and joy, I suppose we forgot to take any!

This is my entry to the Pay it Forward Challenge. I had no idea that this amazing evening would turn into a blog post, or a challenge entry. It was a special time that gave me as much as I gave.

My daughter is a gay woman.....coincidentally, so is her fiance. :) My family is filled with loving, accepting, members who love and accept each other based on who we are, period. Her fiance has struggled a bit more in her family, but they are working on it. 

But this is often the exception and not the rule! So sad!

My girls have a community of LGBTQ friends and many of them have lost their places in their own families and the holidays are particularly tough on them. As a widow, I can understand what it feels like to miss those we love during the holidays. 

Friday evening, I hosted a holiday party for about 28 of the girls' closest friends. All those who had no place to be for Thanksgiving itself. One of the saddest comments on this is that they were all invited to our family Thanksgiving...and none of them wanted to "intrude." No amount of prodding could convince them to attend our dinner. I suspect it was partially because they didn't want to feel like an outsider, and maybe because it would remind them of what they were missing. This tears at my heart. 

So Friday evening we kicked off the Christmas Season with holiday baking at my house. A potluck dinner was followed by cookie baking, decorating and eggnog. The music alternated between Sounds of the Season and Today's Country...including a good old country line dance down the hall. 

We ate left over turkey and side dishes and drank a little too much. Good thing I'm an empty-nester as I woke up Saturday with every bed, couch and air mattress filled with tired bakers. 

It was incredible to wander through the field of 27-35 year-old sweeties! I would like to adopt them all. 

We had a great time! Did I Pay it Forword? I think maybe THEY did!


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Michele Connors
The Overton Group, LLC Pitt & Carteret County - Greenville, NC
Your Eastern North Carolina Realtor

It warms my heart with all you did to show them love and family , they somehow gave back 10-fold. Thats called true giving without expecting something in just happens freely ! Thanks for opening your home to ladies needing to feel what acceptance and unconditional love looks like in a family without judgement.  


Nov 27, 2016 08:23 AM #1
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Good evning Karen. You are very special and this touched my heart. Your daughter is very lucky.

Nov 27, 2016 08:53 AM #2
Michael Jacobs
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage - Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena Area Real Estate 818.516.4393

Good morning, Karen --- you  have a very fortunate daughter, daughter-in-law-to- be and a whole bunch of new nieces/nephews.   This may be a new Black Friday tradition and a lot more than fun that shopping in my opinion.  

Nov 27, 2016 09:21 AM #3
Lottie Kendall
Today | Sotheby's International Realty - San Carlos, CA
Serving San Francisco and the Silicon Valley

Your rainbow in the dark party sounds like a wonderful, joy-filled new tradition.

Nov 27, 2016 09:46 AM #4
Nina Hollander
RE/MAX Executive | Charlotte, NC - Charlotte, NC
Your Charlotte/Ballantyne/Waxhaw/Fort Mill Realtor

Having a gay step-daughter, Karen, I understand this predicament only too well. I just can't imagine how families isolate their own because of sexual identity.

Nov 27, 2016 01:55 PM #5
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Karen Fiddler, Broker/Owner - This is what Thanksgiving is all about. I do not like to see anyone sitting home during the holidays and if I know, they are welcome in my home. You will be remembered by these young forever for your open heart.

Nov 27, 2016 06:23 PM #6
Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent

Acceptance and unconditional love is a gift we can give our family memebers.  

Nov 27, 2016 07:10 PM #7
Brenda Whitman, Live in Laramie Real Estate
Live in Laramie Real Estate, Laramie, Wyoming - Laramie, WY
Broker/Co-Owner, Laramie, Wyoming

Blessings come in the most unexpected ways, I think that you forgot to take any photos is a testament to living in the moment and embracing the love of those around you.... well done.

Nov 27, 2016 07:31 PM #8
Brian England
Arizona Focus Realty - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

Sounds like fun times!  I am sure everyone there brought joy and happiness to everyone else there!

Nov 28, 2016 04:48 AM #9
Belinda Spillman
Aspen Lane Real Estate Colorful Colorado - Aurora, CO
Colorado Living!

It is sad how many in our world feel the need to judge others for their personal choices.  You did a great thing opening your heart and home to these great ladies.

Nov 28, 2016 08:55 AM #10
Karen Fiddler, Broker/Owner
Karen Parsons-Fiddler, Broker 949-510-2395 - Mission Viejo, CA
Orange County & Lake Arrowhead, CA (949)510-2395

Hi was such a fun time and definitely will be a new tradition. They filled a hole for me as much as I did for them. :)

Nov 28, 2016 10:16 AM #11
Dick Greenberg
New Paradigm Partners LLC - Fort Collins, CO
Northern Colorado Residential Real Estate

Hi Karen - It's wonderful that you reached out to those young women and provided something really special as a holiday experience.

Nov 29, 2016 12:25 PM #12
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