Bite Your Tongue And Think Before You Speak

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Home Stager with Sharon Tara Transformations

To bite one's tongue:

to struggle not to say something that you really want to say

 

 As a home stager I have lots of experience biting my tongue. It's the same for anyone in the real estate business, or any business for that matter.

We can't always say what we are thinking. If we did, we would offend people instead of helping them. Helping them, afterall, is what we are hired to do. Judging them, insulting them, putting them on the defensive does not accomplish the task at hand.

 

Yes, we want to say...

your house smells God awful "

" you really don't have a clue what you are talking about "

" have you EVER cleaned this bathroom? "

" 1980 called and they want their appliances back "

" buyers don't care that your dated, ugly drapes were expensive 30 years ago "


Bite your tongue.

  

Before you speak....THINK

Is what you plan to say

T  -   true

   H  - helpful

      I -  inspiring

      N - necessary

  K    -   kind

 

Take a breath. Smile.   

Give them the advice you were paid to give them, but give it to them with respect. 

Understand that they are under stress and they need your understanding and support.

 

 

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Sharon Tara
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Ingrid Pierson  Thank you!  I'm glad you enjoyed it.

Dec 03, 2016 03:52 PM #27
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Ingrid Pierson
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Ya, I have to bite my tongue, too!  But, somehow have to deliver the message in palatable way...

Dec 03, 2016 04:15 PM #28
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Sharon Tara
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Ingrid Pierson  It's important you do deliver the message if it's regarding a client's home. It's in their best interest to know!

Dec 04, 2016 01:58 PM #29
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Ingrid Pierson
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Absolutely!

Dec 04, 2016 04:02 PM #30
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Debbie Reynolds
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I was in a house today and the cat smell was horrific. I had to hold my breath while the buyers were looking at the house.

Dec 04, 2016 06:08 PM #31
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Debbie Reynolds  I'm surprised the buyers were even interested.  I would not have stuck around once the smell hit me.

Dec 05, 2016 01:02 PM #32
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Sharon 

Your wise words . . . . are right on point.

Good luck and success.

Lou Ludwig

Dec 06, 2016 01:39 PM #33
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Sharon 

Your wise words . . . . are right on point.

Good luck and success.

Lou Ludwig

Dec 06, 2016 01:41 PM #34
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Lou Ludwig  Thank you! Something we all have to learn if we want to be successful!

Dec 07, 2016 06:19 AM #35
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Love this post Sharon. Very well said, and I love the picture of the deer.

Dec 07, 2016 05:59 PM #36
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Sharon, great post and This quote is one of my favorites:

Before you speak....THINK

Is what you plan to say

T  -   true

   H  - helpful

      I -  inspiring

      N - necessary

  K    -   kind

Dec 07, 2016 11:48 PM #37
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Serving Buyers & Sellers in NW Austin Real Estate

Good morning Sharon Tara ,

I'm so glad Gabe Sanders re-blogged your post! So much truth in your advice we do have to remember others are under stress and need our understanding and support not ridicule. The delivery of the message is so important!

Dec 08, 2016 04:35 AM #38
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Karen Hellier  Thank you. It's one of our favorite pics of all the ones we took of our deer visitors.

Michelle Carr-Crowe-Top 1% Diamond Certified Real Estate Team Sells Cupertino San Jose Homes-Just Call 408-252-8900   If only everyone followed that advice.

Dorie Dillard I'm glad he did too! Everyone has their own issues going on and we need to remember that and be kind to each other. 

 

Dec 08, 2016 12:19 PM #39
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Oh, how perfect this world would be if we all practiced thinking before we speak, Sharon Tara!  Sage advice for anyone in our business, for sure!

Dec 08, 2016 08:22 PM #40
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Debe Maxwell  A kindler, gentler world for sure! It starts with us!

Dec 09, 2016 07:26 AM #41
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This is the heart and soul of great service.

Dec 29, 2016 04:20 AM #42
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Great post and I am a fan of THINK. 

Dec 29, 2016 06:00 AM #43
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Charita Cadenhead  What a great way to put it. Thank you!

Chris Lima  Thank you! It's sad just how many people have stopped thinking these days!

Dec 29, 2016 01:10 PM #44
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I am just starting my staging business and was thinking about how important it is to kindly and gently help people understand that the style of their home is may be perfect for the way they live, but it needs to be changed to appeal to the most buyers.  

Dec 31, 2016 04:06 AM #45
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Beth Bromund  Welcome to ActiveRain. It's a great place to learn and share...a valuable resource! I hope you start blogging soon! 

Jan 01, 2017 07:22 AM #46
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