A Pillow or Hammer To Identify Opportunities From Within Your Sphere?

Reblogger Winston Heverly
Real Estate Broker/Owner with Winston Realty, Inc. BK63078915

Kathleen, consistently has so many great posts and most importantly is terrific about sharing it to us Rainers and beyond. This article has new & exciting information for all the readers to take advantage from. I, myself will be anxious to learn from it! So many times I write blogs and really don't think that it gets the impact that it should. So I love to see re-blogs of popular posts. Thanks again for sharing.


Original content by Kathleen Daniels CA BRE#01366594

Top Producer and Active Rain are sponsoring a contest “Identifying Opportunities From Within Your Sphere” or CRM.  This post is my entry to the contest.  


The Softer Side of Kathleen Daniels

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I am all about soft touches and not hard selling. My clients are raving fans. They know what I do. They know I am here for them if/when they need me. I will never ask a past client “who do you know ….” We all know how that script ends. With me, it ends before it starts. I do not call my clients and ask for business.


How do I know when someone is getting ready to transact? 

I know when they reach out to me and say … we are thinking of selling … can you help? That is exactly what a past client from 12 years ago emailed me last week.


Did I mention that they know what I do? They know how to reach me.

Back to the soft touch and the ways I stay engaged with my clients.

•   I sent a light and easy email message every three weeks. I use Happy Grasshopper.
•   I am friends with many clients on FaceBook. I comment on their posts and respond to private messages they send via FB.
•   I send hand addressed Birthday Cards – as well as wish them Happy Birthday on Facebook.
•  While not a ritual or part of my marketing plan, I may send a Thanksgiving card.
•  I send a hand addressed Christmas card.
•  I sometimes call clients just to say Hello and see how they are doing.
•  I sometimes meet with clients for coffee, breakfast or lunch.
•  Discussions are always about them. I never ask them for business. 

This works for me and my personality. I am just not a hard sell kind of gal. 


Hard Selling - The Hammer Approach

Do I miss opportunities choosing not to use the Hammer Approach?  

Yes, I believe I do.  I am okay with that.  It is JUST. NOT. ME. It does not fit my personality. All the training and coaching in the world is NOT GOING TO CHANGE THAT.  

The hammer approach for me means calling and hounding people asking/begging for business.  There is no doubt that people do get business with that approach. 





My accountant never asks me to refer him business. My dentist never asks me to refer him business. My doctors never ask me to refer them business. My electrician does not ask me for business.  My inspectors do not ask me for business. You get the idea - right?


I know who they are. I know what they do.  I will naturally refer people to them because they are good and I trust them.  


That is exactly what happens in my business. 


Confusing Kindness With Weakness

People may confuse my kindness with weakness.  It happens. When it does people quickly discover that I will use a hammer if I discover:

•  They are phony (not who they say they are - or do not have the skills and qualifications they proclaim to have) 

•  Have lied or otherwise have been dishonest 

•  Attempted to harm, in any way, my clients ... or me

I will fight to protect and defend against those who attempt to cause harm. This often makes me a "bitch" or "inflexible" in their eyes.  Believe me, I have been called both. I am okay with that too. I have high standards many folks just don't understand. Besides, I do not care what deceivers, scammers and incompetent people think of me. There is no room for them in my world. 


My name is Kathleen Daniels, Independent Broker-Owner of KD Realty in San Jose, CA and I approve this message. When you hire me you have my personal guarantee that I will not hound you begging for referrals. What you get is highly personalized and customized service designed to meet your needs and reach your goals. 



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Kathleen Daniels, Managing Broker-Owner of KD Realty, serving San Jose and Silicon Valley. Kathleen specializes in Probate Real Estate.

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Lise Howe
Keller Williams Capital Properties - Washington, DC
Assoc. Broker and Attorney Licensed in DC, MD, VA,

I think this is definitely worth a reposting - you are right - Kathleen writes great posts and shares so much with us!

Dec 17, 2016 10:04 PM #1
Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, Keller Williams fox cities - Stevens Point, WI
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Thanks for sharing this Winston, I missed it the first time around.


Dec 17, 2016 11:41 PM #2
Gita Bantwal
RE/MAX Centre Realtors - Warwick, PA
REALTOR,ABR,CRS,SRES,GRI - Bucks County & Philadel

Thank you for reblogging the post. I missed reading the original one 

Dec 18, 2016 04:35 AM #3
Carol Williams
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Good reblog, Winston.  I'm all about the soft approach too but, as Kathleen says, sometimes the hammer is necessary and appropriate!

Dec 18, 2016 07:00 AM #4
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